"The wars outside
of us are a reflection of the war
within. Humans have been at war within and
without for thousands of years. The wars,
the violence, the rape of mother Earth that is happening,
are all caused by the war within being
It is all caused by warring on ourselves. By judging and feeling ashamed of ourselves for being human - and by fighting our own emotional process.
The way to stop the war within is through healing and learning to Love our own inner child/children. The inner child is the gateway to discovering our True Self - to reconnecting with the Great Spirit."
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Robert is the author of the Joyously inspirational book
Formula for Recovery - Path to Empowerment, Serenity, and Freedom from the Past
Codependence / Codependency / Adult Child of Alcoholic/dysfunctional family Recovery
inner child healing (develop Loving ongoing relationships with the wounded parts of self - including loving boundaries)
emotional energy release / grief (including rage) process work
reprogramming of dysfunctional codependent mental attitudes and false beliefs
internal boundaries to counteract toxic shame and abuse of critical parent / disease voice
Spiritual integration of belief in Unconditionally Loving Higher Power / God Force / Goddess Energy / Great Spirit into emotional relationship with self and life =
Joy and Love to You & Me - to Me & You
Joy2MeU = The ability to relax & enJoy being ALIVE today
"Codependence is an emotional and behavioral
defense system which
was adopted by our egos in order
to meet our need to survive as a child.
Because we had no tools for reprogramming
our egos and healing our emotional
wounds (culturally approved grieving,
training and initiation rites,
healthy role models, etc.), the effect
is that as an adult we keep reacting to the
programming of our childhood and do not get
our needs met - our emotional, mental, Spiritual,
or physical needs. Codependence allows
us to survive physically but causes us to feel
empty and dead inside. Codependence is a defense
system that causes us to wound ourselves."
"It does not matter how much Spiritual Truth, how many mystical experiences of oneness, how in tune with Love, you can feel in certain moments - if you cannot integrate it into your life in a way which changes your emotional experience of life on a moment to moment, day to day basis. You can go to therapy for many years, read all the Spiritual and self help books, go to workshops and seminars and lectures - compile encyclopedic intellectual knowledge of what healthy behavior is - and still be reacting to old wounds in the relationships that mean the most to you.
The missing ingredient for so many people who have been seeking for
many years, is how to integrate what you know into how you feel about your
experience life. That is what I teach people - because it is what I
have spent many years learning." - Robert Burney
Robert shares his beliefs and experiences in relationship to codependency recovery, emotional / inner child healing and Spiritual Awakening / integration including excerpts from
"Your writing is more insightful and instructive for change than Bradshaw and Melody Beattie of codependence no more. Pia Melody's pretty good but you're more broad thinking in concepts and more compassionate too. . . I have been in therapy since I was 19, I'm 48 and am just learning about boundaries and not from the help of my therapist unfortunately. She knows inner child work but not how boundaries directly relate to it. Your work has been an invaluable resource as I read it tonight."
"I finished your book, you are a rock star. Already had a friend order it. She wanted to borrow mine and I told her I'd sooner give her my hand."
"I truly believe that I have made more progress on a personal level in the few weeks I have had Robert's book and tape than in the preceding eight plus years when I first found out what codependency was. THANK YOU"
"Today, when I read some of your writing, it struck me that your perspective on philosophy, spirituality and psychology is really unique. I've read and listened to many spiritual people, but I've never found someone who combines love, acceptance and humor in such a profound manner."
"After years of analysis and reading many self help books on other subjects to try to find out the answers about my struggles in my life, I had always been under the impression that the subject of codependency was a term referring to people who enable alcoholics or drug dependent people, so I never even thought to read up on it. Now, after reading your writings, a miraculous door of insight has opened up for me, and many pieces of the puzzle are finally falling into place"
"I find it very exciting that you have brought the whole definition of codependence to this spiritual level, where I can much more relate to it's truth."
"I can't thank you enough for the very profound spiritual healing your book on tape has provided to me. I cannot express in words that which I feel as a result of having truly "heard" your message of self-love and spiritual awakening. Your message has forever changed my path in this lifetime. Thank you so much for sharing your perceptions and experiences through your book, and your website. You are a guide and a healer, I will be forever grateful for having connected and crossed paths with you and your work."
"I have been on your web site and have been reading and copying so much of your work. It speaks to my heart and soul like nothing else I have come across. I have read and studied many authors on this healing journey of mine but you really relate to all of my issues like no one else. I have read over 300 books in the past few years but you explain everything in simple but yet so enlightening truths. God bless you and you are making a difference to many. Oprah needs to read your work."
"I was reading this site and it was as if you were addressing me personally. This is my story. My inner child is running my life. I am so glad I found this web site. Thank you so much. You've given me much needed hope."
"I just came across your excellent site this evening, while looking for material that will assist in explaining the broader concept of "codependence' to my clients. Never before have I seen it described with such heart, clarity and with the spiritual /existential tones appropriate for discussing a dynamic so fundamental to the human condition. Thank you!!"
"I love the fact that you are able to clearly bridge and tie in Christian teachings and (so-called) New Age philosophies in a clear and concise way for so many to hear at the same time."
"I not only have enjoyed reading your book, but I am still enjoying listening to you on tape. I have sent one copy of the book to each of my two daughters . . . . . My wife is also reading the book, and I have referred at least a half dozen people to your website including a number of my clients. I am a counseling psychologist with a private practice in __ . . . . . I was blown away by your references to one of my favorite books "Illusions" and to one of my wife's favorites "The Book of Runes". . . Needless to say I believe that your book, your tape and your website make a great contribution to the shifting of the energy on this planet. I particularly admire the comprehensiveness of your scope. Thank you Robert for your courage, your wisdom, and your clarity, not to mention your perseverance. I'm glad to to have found another kindred spirit."
"I stumbled upon your site and discovered myself.
I'm telling everyone
about your site. Thank you!"
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"Dear Robert, Your work has divinely touched and spiritually inspired me......I came to your site in my desperate hour and found so many truths, I couldn't hide anymore. I made the choice, to face the fear, look inside through the darkness and pain, to feel who I was and why. . . . You have given me much healing through your generous gifts that I would like to share with you my love, appreciation and gratitude. I am sending a donation ___. Thank you so very much. Blessings and Abundance Always" (Donations to the cause / Spiritual Tithes are always appreciated: Donations / Love Offerings)
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