Healing the child within

Inner child work is in one way detective work.  We have a mystery to solve.  Why have I been attracted to the the type of people that I have been in relationship with in my life?  Why do I react in certain ways in certain situations?  Where did my behavior patterns come from?  Why do I sometimes feel so: helpless; lonely; desperate; scared; angry; suicidal; etc.

The purpose of inner child healing is to stop letting our experiences of the past dictate how we respond to life today. In order to find some freedom from our childhood experiences it is vital to do some work on healing our inner children - the emotionally wounded child places within us.   ~  Robert Burney

A Formula for Recovery - for Empowerment, Serenity, and Freedom

Codependence / Codependency / Adult Child of Alcoholic or dysfunctional family Recovery

+ inner child healing (develop Loving relationships with the wounded parts of self)

+ emotional energy release / grief (including rage) work

+ reprogramming of dysfunctional codependent mental attitudes and false beliefs

+ internal boundaries to counteract toxic shame and abuse of critical parent / disease voice

+ Spiritual integration of belief in Unconditionally Loving Higher Power / God-Force / Goddess Energy / Great Spirit into emotional relationship with self and life

= Joy and Love to Me and You

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Welcome to Healing self through inner child work

This is a doorway page to Joy2MeU the Web Site of Robert Burney -  a pioneeer in the inner child healing movement, codependence counselor, Spiritual teacher, grief therapist, and author of the Joyously inspirational book

Joyously inspirational Spiritual book - Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls

Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls

"It is necessary to own and honor the child who we were in order to Love the person we are. And the only way to do that is to own that child's experiences, honor that child's feelings, and release the emotional grief energy that we are still carrying around."
Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney

"You have taken inner child healing to a new level. In your brilliantly written book you explain the missing pieces of the puzzle in a way that is amazingly simple and understandable."

"You have really captured and expressed the essence of the wounded inner child. Your book gives me hope.  I am beginning to feel excited that there is a life out there. Thank you for this."

Here are some of the pages on inner child healng on Robert's web site:

Learning to Love our self  -  The first of a three part series of articles about Robert's inner child healing paradigm.  This one deals with the importance of detachment. "We need to detach from our wounded self in order to allow our Spiritual Self to guide us."

Loving the Wounded Child Within  -  The second article of the series - about the importance of healing the inner child wounds which are keeping us from Loving our selves. "It is not only dysfunctional, it is ridiculous to maintain that what happened in our childhood did not affect our adult life."

Feeling the Feelings  -  The final article of the three part series on inner child healing, focusing on the emotional work. "Doing the grief work is absolutely terrifying.  It felt like if I ever really owned the pain, I would end up crying in a rubber room for the rest of my life.  That if I ever really owned the rage, I would just go up and down the street shooting people."

Internal Boundaries  -  Empowerment, freedom, and serenity through internal boundaries. Includes quotes from Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls and material from Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light. "Loving internal boundaries can allow us to achieve some integration and balance in our relationships and our life experience."

Inner Child Healing   -  Insights, tools, and techniques for inner child healing. Includes quotes from Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls and material from Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light. "It is the inner child who feels panic or terror or rage or hopelessness, not the adult."

The Grief Process  -  Insights, tools, and techniques for grief processing.  Includes quotes from Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls and material from Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light. "In order to do the inner child work we need to be willing to do the grief work."

Union Within  -  A column about finding union within through inner child healing. "The feeling of wanting to die, of not wanting to be here, is the most overwhelming, most familiar feeling in my emotional inner landscape."

Grief, Love, & Fear of Intimacy  -  A column about Robert's first experience of deep grief work. "With great heaving sobs, tears pouring down my cheeks, and snot running out my nose, I had my first experience with deep grief work.  I did not know anything about the process at the time - I just knew that somehow that wounded little boy was still alive inside of me."

The Inner Children that need Boundaries  -  We need to rescue and nurture and Love our inner children - and STOP them from controlling our lives. "That Adult within us can set a boundary with the Critical Parent to stop the shame and judgment and can then Lovingly set boundaries with whatever part of us is reacting so that we can find some balance in the now."

The Inner Children that need Boundaries 2  -  Part two of The Inner Children that need Boundaries - includes Magical thinking child, angry child, teenage female "Maiden," teenage male "horndog."  "There is no right and wrong way to do this work - what is important is to make an effort to take Loving control over our own inner process so that we can stop being the victim of the past."
Positive Affirmations  -  A column by Spiritual teacher about how vital Positive affirmations are in the process of learning to love our self, awakening Spiritually, and recovering from codependence.  "I send Love to my fears.  My fears are the places within me that await my Love."

More on Positive Affirmations  -  More on how Positive Affirmations are a vitally importnat Loving, proactive action that we can take for our selves.  With guest appearances by Darth Vadar, Jabba the Hut, and Joda.  "If we Truly believed the positive affirmations we would not have to say them.  When we most need to say them is when we least believe them - when we are feeling the worst."


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Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney is copyright 1995.  Material on Joy2MeU web site (except where otherwise noted) is copyright 1996, 1997, 1998, 1999, 2000, & 2001 by Robert Burney  Po Box 977 Cambria CA 93428