"No matter how far along we are in our healing however, there will still be issues / levels that are more healed than others. There will always be a new layer of denial to peal off in relationship to our relationship with some issue. And the way we will uncover and discover those new levels is to have them triggered by some outside stimuli.On this page is a part 5 in a series of articles by codependency therapist/Spiritual teacher about The True Nature of Love.
Romantic relationship is the arena of interaction that produces the most stimuli in connection with the vast majority (if not all) of our issues."
"Unfortunately, men in this society have been trained to be codependent on their work/careers - and have been programmed to be emotionally dishonest. This results in many men being incapable of emotional intimacy, and - since their self definition and self worth are focused on what they do rather than their interrelationships - to not have the motivation to change."
"We are taught in this society to play games. To act a role, put on our best face, when we are starting to get to know someone. We are taught to be dishonest in the beginning of a romance in order not to scare the other person away. Like "duh", how can we have an honest, healthy relationship if we start off dishonestly."
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The True Nature of Love - part 5, Romantic Relationships
Well, my column on the True Nature of Love has now become a 6 part series. The final column in the series will come next month with an article on "Twin Souls, Souls Mates, and Kindred Spirits." . . . . .
. . . . . It would be good to read the previous articles in this series if you have not already. I am trying not to repeat myself as much as possible - but the core issues of the wounding and the healing will be repeated somewhat. Here are a few quotes from the last column just to lay a foundation for this one.
"We have to clear up our relationship with our self in order to see our self clearly before we can start to see our relationship to other humans clearly. And I want to make a point right at the beginning of this article that this is a gradual process of finding a sense of balance - not an absolute destination."
So, how to differentiate between looking outside for the source and combining our energy with some outside influence to help us access the Source within. . . . . .
Outside or within ?
. . . . . The more you align your intellectual paradigm with Spiritual Truth and heal your emotional wounds, the more freedom you have to be in the moment no matter what you are feeling. The more that you can have the faith and courage to walk through the fear, the more you will take the power away from the fear and start being Truly free to Live. The more you open up to receive Love and Joy, the more opportunities you will have to tune into Joy in the moment - and the more moments you will be able to stay in the Love.
Then you can, in the moment some of the time, learn to Love as if you have never been hurt. . . . .
. . . . . Love - The Grandest, most sublime adventure available to us - it is worth doing the work, it is worth the risk.
September 2005 - Articles 3 through 6 of this series are now exclusively available in the Dancing in Light pay to view component of Joy2MeU.com
The Dance of The Wounded Souls Trilogy Book 1 "In The Beginning . . . " is currently being published in installments in the Joy2MeU Journal. It is possible to read the first two section of it in the premier issue of the Joy2MeU Journal The Dance of The Wounded Souls Trilogy Book 1.