New & News Page of Joy2MeU web site of Spiritual Teacher/codependency therapist

January 3rd, 2010: I added the testimonials from January Intensive to the Intensive Testimonials page and added a new page Working the Third Step as well as additional material to an existing page A Higher Power of my own understanding 2 - the beginning of empowerment to commemorate my 26th sobriety birthday today.

December 14th, 2009: I announced new dates for Intensive Training Days in 2010: May 30th, July 3rd, and September 5th.  Added new links to the recommended Links page (also below) and the latest pictures and stories about my precious step grandson and godson Darien.

November 29th, 2009: I did some redesign of my home page and changed the special offers that I have on certain pages (including just below) - and the testimonials from November Intensive have been added to Intensive Testimonials page.  I am now posting quotes regularly on my Facebook page - so if you are have a Facebook page already send me a friend request, and if you don't sign up.

November 7th, 2009: I continued a process I started in February of removing blocking html code and updating copyright notice on my Update Newsletter pages (something I explained in my April 2009 Update which also includes the story of my April Fools Day lesson in falling in love and a report about attending the wedding of two people who announced at the reception that without doing my grief group together they wouldn't be getting married) - and am listing some of them here that have particularly interesting content:  Update Newsletter December 2003 I talk about how hard it can be to let go;  Update March 2004 - plus 2 additional pages - intense personal processing about learning to open to love and metaphysical aspects of the growth process;  August 2004 challenging the Universe to bring on whatever lessons I needed to learn to have a relationship;   December 2004 sharing my views Christmas, Jesus, and Christianity;   October 2005 includes The story of some incredible Miracles in my recovery;  January 2006 review of 2005, a year of huge change for me; March 2007 sharing about the Medicine Cards and Masculine & Feminine with an additional page of processing about my fear of intimacy; and April 2008 in which I talk about the kind of wounding and deprivation feelings that drive relationship addiction.

October 12th, 2009: Announcing a page with temporary special offers for telephone counseling and Intensive Training workshops - and available for purchase on this site for the first time a spiral bound hard copy of of my inner child e-book - Inner Child Healing ~ The Path to Empowerment, Inner Peace, and Freedom from the Past.

September 26th, 2009: Announcing  the official launch of CodependenceRecovery.com our eighth new website, a new article added to Joy2MeU Emotional Incest Issues (new to this site - was formerly available on another site), new dates in 2010 for Intensive Training Day workshops on February 20th and April 3rd.  Also the latest batch of testimonials from people whose lives have been changed by my book, tapes, CDs, and website to the Testimonial page (some below) - and the latest phone counseling testimonials on the Phone Counseling Testimonials page (some below.)

September 7th, 2009: Announcing a change in date for November Intensive Training Day from the 22nd to Saturday November 28th - and testimonials from September Intensive have been added to Intensive Testimonials page.

August 28th, 2009: The Joy2MeU Update Newsletter for August 2009 is now online (and includes latest addition to Darien page) along with a page with Temporary Special Offers only good until September 7th 2009.  Also the Joy2MeU Journal information page has been updated with a special offer for a subscription to The Joy2MeU Journal.

July 12th, 2009: A new metaphysical website officially launched: NewAgeDawned.com, and announcing An Intensive Training Day + follow up sessions on a Exotic Western Caribbean Cruise leaving New Orleans February 2010.

June 29th, 2009: A new website officially launched: HealthyRomanticRelationships.com, we are canceling the scheduled cruise to the Mexican Riviera and going to be offering a cruise out of New Orleans in February to the Caribbean (details to come soon), new links added to the recommended Links page (also below), a new Intensive date announced for January 2, 2010, a new picture below, and some changes and additions made to Special Offers page.

May 25th, 2009: A new website officially launched: HealYourInnerChild.com and on May 29th I will be doing an interview on the Monda Williams show on blogtalkradio.

April 8, 2009:  The latest Update Newsletter is now posted: Joy2MeU Update April 2009 with news of a workshop in Akron Ohio on May 9th and a Mexican Riviera Cruise leaving San Diego on November 28th.  And I have posted a new page dedicated to my precious step grandson and godson Darien.

February 16, 2009 New & news:  We have just launched the 4th of our new web sites - this one focused on my Spiritual Belief system http://www.abundantspirituality.com/.

February 3, 2009 New & news:  I just updated the copyright notice on 27 of my Update Newsletter pages - up through June 2003.  I also removed the code that blocked search engines from indexing those pages.  I had blocked them at the time because there was some very personal processing I was doing in some of those Newsletters.  There is some valuable sharing that I do in many of them that you might want to check out - especially: October 2000 + Part 2;  May 2001 + 3 newsletter pages;  January 2002 + 2 newsletter pages;  August 2002:   November 2002:   June 2003 + 2 newsletter pages. All of the Updates are listed at the bottom of the site index page and anyone who wanted to trace the evolution of this site - as well as my personal recovery process over those years - would find reading them through interesting and valuable.

January 17, 2009 New & news:  We have just launched the 3rd of our new web sites - this one focused on Alcoholism and the Twelve Step Recovery process: http://www.twelvestepmiracle.com/.

January 4, 2009 New & news:  a new introduction to the Alcoholism and Twelve Step Recovery index page, a link to a radio interview I did on Dec. 30th, and a new picture of us at a Christmas party below.

November 14, 2008 New:  The November 2008 Update Newsletter is now online.

November 8, 2008 New:  Two new articles posted: The Law of Attraction - Misunderstood & Misinterpreted and The Metaphysics of Emotions - emotional energy is real.

October 30, 2008 New & News:  Announcing the launch of two new web sites: Robert Burney Live.com and Wounded Souls.com.  For the first time Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls is available in e-book form through the new sites - and a digitally remastered  MP3 download Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An Audio Spiritual Experience" is also available for the first time.  Also Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls is now available through Amazon.com Kindle books program.

June 25, 2006 - News: The page with ordering info for new CD version of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An Audio Spiritual Experience" is now online. 

April 8, 2006 - New: The e-books that were formerly sold by Suite101 are now available on these pages: Dysfunctional Relationship Dynamics ~ Healthy Relationship Behavior and Inner Child Healing The Path to Empowerment, Inner Peace, and Freedom from the Past

"I've spent many hours combing through this site, and so many things resonate with me, that I cannot stop reading.  Thanks for much for your work and brutal honesty.  Right now, its my one source of sanity through these very painful times."

"I am reading the brilliance of your words as tho my Soul is articulating them simultaneously!!! What joy!  All the Gods Bless You Robert--I want to weep with joy and relief at having found your website....I cannot tell you how hopeful I am perhaps for the first time in my 49 years." 

"I read you book and listended to your tapes in 1996 when I was going through a painful divorce.  Today, I still live by the principals you taught me in your book "Dance of Wounded Souls."  Reading your book and going through the divorce with the help of your teachings brought about an awakening and understanding of what had gone wrong with my relationships in my life.  Love your works  (e-mail received 5/30/09)"

"I just wanted to say thank you for healyourinnerchild.com! . . . I have been emotionally abusive to my wife over the years. . . . . The great thing about your website is that it helps me to heal!  Other online and published "sources" on emotional abuse merely paint the abuser as a crappy guy, and that the woman needs to flee the man.  You, however, actually love!  You actually show where things have gone wrong.  You actually show how to help.  Thank you, thank you, thank you!""

"Thank you for this! and as always such apt timing for me, the web site on heal your inner child was so very relevant to me and I thank you for your generosity of such information being available."

"WoW, I love your style of writing. i am ssooo grateful to you for your newest web page healyourinnerchild.com "

"I am sitting here thinking how on earth do i express my gratitude to you.  This is how.  I want to go outside and explode with gratitude to my higher power."

"I was just led to your website and I felt compelled to thank you for being you and for all that you do. I am so grateful for light workers like you!"

"I've been reading an excerpt from your website related to fear of intimacy.  You've hit so close to home, I'm astounded." 

"Just want to say Thank You!  I just recently found your website and have been working through your pages/steps over the last week and already I feel they are having a huge impact on me.  I have been trying to figure out my internal battles for years without ever understanding ANY of it till now. You hit the nail on the head every time. Every page makes me go "WOW - that's it!"  Thank you, thank you, thank you. The people in my life thank you!"

"My name is _____, and I am a Program Manager for a Crisis Center. . . . I just wanted to thank you for your website, and all the information on it.  It will be very helpful not only to me, my staff, but also my current and future clients!  It has been hard for me to find literature on the subject that has not been either judgmental in some way, or either over- or anti-spiritual in other ways.........I find your descriptions to be the most objective and simple of any others I have come across.  For that, I am grateful.   Blessings to you and your work and continued recovery!" 

"Your websites are wonderful...and it is so great, refreshing to read a man's perspective of things I have been thinking, feeling, working through. Thank you from the depth of my soul."

"I am writing with deep gratitude for having found your work on codependency on the Internet. I am truly inspired by it!"

"Since I have started reading your book, I immediately changed my perspective on life. I really am much happpier now than I have ever been and I feel at peace within knowing that everything does happen for a reason." 

"I bought your book and donated to your site. Both are simply awesome and should be required reading. It has been helpful to be reminded that someone else's behaviour is not personal. . . . Thanks for the reminder and all the wonderful work you do."

"Thanks for the information about your new websites.  Your book really helped me some years back in my recovery from food and relationship addictions and I have continued to read from your website since then.  Thank you so much for the part that your experience and material has played in my recovery." 

"I feel that God led me to your web page.  May God continue to bless your life, Mr. Burney.  Thank you for your help to thousands of desperately sick people, myself included."

"I have read your book and alot of articles on your websites you are amazing, you have helped me so much in seeing some of my own issues."

"I send this mail from Srilanka. Yester day i found your web site I am very happy to learn about inner child healing. . . After reading your writing I feel that I have found new light within me. And I have got a very remarkable releaf.Your thinking is an exhalant gift for the people who search emotional and spiritual holistic life."

"I am in Peru and I have been thinking about you a lot, wanting to share my experience with you as you have helped to get to this point of healing my emotions and my wounded self. . . . You have planted a seed in me to want to heal my inner being and for that I thank you very much and will forever be grateful to you.  My love to the cutest Darien as well as your partner" 

Latest Phone Counseling Feedback (9-26-09) 

"There has been a significant and striking shift in my internal world, and I certainly can attribute your guidance as the catalyst for such an event!:)!!  Thanks again for all your guidance, it really has changed my life in a very significant way.  I am very grateful our paths have crossed."

"At this point, I am going to need to cancel our appointment. It’s purely a financial issue at this point, and once I start working again, I would like to speak with you twice a month.  Robert, the positive impact of your work and counseling has had immeasurable impact on me. I am very grateful."

"I am hugely grateful to you for the grieving and healing process that I have started, through you and your enormous and wonderfully beneficial information - a big thank you for your advice, support and nurturing."

"Hope this finds you well. I have not spoken with you since our last telephone conversation and that seems a lifetime ago. Lifetime because I have gone full circle since then. . . . . I just want to say Thank you for the foundation that was laid from our phone conversations in 2007 as it has been the life raft that I "clung to when I started back this time. All of the things that we discussed were still in there and they resurfaced into my consciousness just when I neeed it most.  I have been reading the 12 Step Miracle today and I'm starting Step 4, again. This is valuable stuff and it is just what I need at this time. Again, Thank you and know that I appreciate you."

"I want you to know that you are a VERY special person, not just in my life, but to people all over the world. Your non-judgmentalness, your courage to face your fears and your dedication in helping all of us heal our wounding is truly amazing.  You are one of the best gifts I have ever received in my life. And I especially appreciate your care, concern and support during this difficult time in my life. It means so much to me I can't even begin to tell you."

"Robert, I want to thank you for your part in my healing.  You have helped me focus on the grieving at a new level, and also to see others as other spiritual beings which has helped so much with getting me out of my black and white thinking.  ((((Robert))))"

"I have once again been blessed with your presence in my life, your influence and teachings will continue to bring me a new perspective and new behavior  by which I will continue to realize more presence, more peace.  Blessings to you Robert." 

I.  Thou shalt not consort with people who make thee feel bad about thyself. 

Also includes: The Rules for Being Human and Risking. 

The Serenity Prayer for Codependents

"It is OK to be relaxed, playful, and frivolous" 

Some versions of the Serenity Prayer, a Personal Bill of Rights, Characteristics of Adults Shamed in Childhood, and some possible signs of Hidden Anger. 

Twisted Codependent thinking

1. All or nothing. Looking at things in absolute, black and white categories -"Either / or" thinking.