New & News Page of Joy2MeU web site of Spiritual Teacher/codependency therapist

August 3rd, 2010: Updated my special offers page and made separate pages for offers for phone counseling and for my Intensive Training Day workshop.

July 18th, 2010: This week marks a significant milestone in my life and I have added an update about what is going on in my life adventure right now to my page Working the Third Step which I posted in January on my Sobriety Birthday.  I am now posting quotes regularly on my Facebook page - so if you are on Facebook send me a friend request.

July 4th, 2010: I have added to the Intensive Testimonials page and announced a new date for an Intensive on January 2, 2011.  I have created a new special offer page that makes available a combination of a subscription to Dancing in Light (which includes 2 online books) and 3 copies of my Joyously inspirational Spiritual book Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls for anyone who wants to share my book with friends or donate a copy to the local library or whatever. I also added new links to the recommended Links page (also below) and updated some links on my Finding CoDA Meetings page including a new url for Bay Area CoDA and updates to my pages for North San Diego County CoDA and San Luis Obispo County CoDA.

June 15th, 2010: Yesterday I had a breakthrough about my relationship with my father that should help me open up to Love in a whole new way - I added some processing to this article I wrote 5 years ago: God the Father, and my father.   And I posted the latest batch of testimonials from people whose lives have been changed by my book, tapes, CDs, and website to the Testimonial page (some below.)

June 3rd, 2010: I have added the testimonials from May Intensive Training Day workshop to the Intensive Testimonials page - also a few new pictures below.  Today marks the 24th anniversary of my conscious codependency recovery.

May 5th, 2010: I have posted a much overdue Update Newsletter May 2010 and a new page offering the Wounded Souls Trilogy.

March 17th, 2010: Announcing new dates for Robert's Intensive Training Day workshop in San Diego October 17th and November 27th - these are in addition to the ones previously announced on May 30th, July 3rd and Sept. 5th.

February 21st, 2010: I have added the testimonials from February Intensive to the Intensive Testimonials page and am including a link here now to page I added last week after posting the announcement below - it is an excerpt of the section from the Darien page that shares the huge breakthrough Susan and I had in our relationship on a separate page: Valentine's Day 2010.

February 14th, 2010: I have added the latest pictures and stories about my precious step grandson and godson Darien - and added some new pictures of us to this New & news page (below.)  Also have added the latest batch of testimonials from people whose lives have been changed by my book, tapes, CDs, and website to the Testimonial page (some below.)

January 20th, 2010:  A new batch of CDs has come in - so they are now available again: Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An Audio Spiritual Experience"  And I have added an option to purchase the booklet: Empowerment, Freedom, and Inner Peace through Inner Child Healing to my ordering information page: Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls for the first time because of some feedback I received this week about how it compliments the experience of reading my book.

January 3rd, 2010: I added the testimonials from January Intensive to the Intensive Testimonials page and added a new page Working the Third Step as well as additional material to an existing page A Higher Power of my own understanding 2 - the beginning of empowerment to commemorate my 26th sobriety birthday today.

December 14th, 2009: I announced new dates for Intensive Training Days in 2010: May 30th, July 3rd, and September 5th.  Added new links to the recommended Links page (also below) and the latest pictures and stories about my precious step grandson and godson Darien.

November 29th, 2009: I did some redesign of my home page and changed the special offers that I have on certain pages (including just below) - and the testimonials from November Intensive have been added to Intensive Testimonials page.  I am now posting quotes regularly on my Facebook page - so if you are have a Facebook page already send me a friend request, and if you don't sign up.

November 7th, 2009: I continued a process I started in February of removing blocking html code and updating copyright notice on my Update Newsletter pages (something I explained in my April 2009 Update which also includes the story of my April Fools Day lesson in falling in love and a report about attending the wedding of two people who announced at the reception that without doing my grief group together they wouldn't be getting married) - and am listing some of them here that have particularly interesting content:  Update Newsletter December 2003 I talk about how hard it can be to let go;  Update March 2004 - plus 2 additional pages - intense personal processing about learning to open to love and metaphysical aspects of the growth process;  August 2004 challenging the Universe to bring on whatever lessons I needed to learn to have a relationship;   December 2004 sharing my views Christmas, Jesus, and Christianity;   October 2005 includes The story of some incredible Miracles in my recovery;  January 2006 review of 2005, a year of huge change for me; March 2007 sharing about the Medicine Cards and Masculine & Feminine with an additional page of processing about my fear of intimacy; and April 2008 in which I talk about the kind of wounding and deprivation feelings that drive relationship addiction.

September 26th, 2009: Announcing  the official launch of CodependenceRecovery.com our eighth new website, a new article added to Joy2MeU Emotional Incest Issues (new to this site - was formerly available on another site), new dates in 2010 for Intensive Training Day workshops on February 20th and April 3rd.  Also the latest batch of testimonials from people whose lives have been changed by my book, tapes, CDs, and website to the Testimonial page (some below) - and the latest phone counseling testimonials on the Phone Counseling Testimonials page (some below.)

August 28th, 2009: The Joy2MeU Update Newsletter for August 2009 is now online (and includes latest addition to Darien page) along with a page with Temporary Special Offers only good until September 7th 2009.  Also the Joy2MeU Journal information page has been updated with a special offer for a subscription to The Joy2MeU Journal.

May 25th, 2009: A new website officially launched: HealYourInnerChild.com and on May 29th I will be doing an interview on the Monda Williams show on blogtalkradio.

April 8, 2009:  The latest Update Newsletter is now posted: Joy2MeU Update April 2009 with news of a workshop in Akron Ohio on May 9th and I have posted a new page dedicated to my precious step grandson and godson Darien.

February 3, 2009 New & news:  I just updated the copyright notice on 27 of my Update Newsletter pages - up through June 2003.  I also removed the code that blocked search engines from indexing those pages.  I had blocked them at the time because there was some very personal processing I was doing in some of those Newsletters.  There is some valuable sharing that I do in many of them that you might want to check out - especially: October 2000 + Part 2;  May 2001 + 3 newsletter pages;  January 2002 + 2 newsletter pages;  August 2002:   November 2002:   June 2003 + 2 newsletter pages. All of the Updates are listed at the bottom of the site index page and anyone who wanted to trace the evolution of this site - as well as my personal recovery process over those years - would find reading them through interesting and valuable.

January 4, 2009 New & news:  a new introduction to the Alcoholism and Twelve Step Recovery index page, a link to a radio interview I did on Dec. 30th, and a new picture of us at a Christmas party below.

October 30, 2008 New & News:  Announcing the launch of two new web sites: Robert Burney Live.com and Wounded Souls.com.  For the first time Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls is available in e-book form through the new sites - and a digitally remastered  MP3 download Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An Audio Spiritual Experience" is also available for the first time.  Also Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls is now available through Amazon.com Kindle books program.

June 25, 2006 - News: The page with ordering info for new CD version of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An Audio Spiritual Experience" is now online. 

April 8, 2006 - New: The e-books that were formerly sold by Suite101 are now available on these pages: Dysfunctional Relationship Dynamics ~ Healthy Relationship Behavior and Inner Child Healing The Path to Empowerment, Inner Peace, and Freedom from the Past

"I felt a sudden desire to write you as I was reading the site about you and Darien. It moves my heart. And not just that. It influences me on a deep level. I don't know what it is exactly but it is something important, something special.

I want to express my admiration that you so openly share your life. I admire your courage - it takes a LOT of courage to put oneself in so vulnerable position as to revealing as much of one's life as you do. Your faith is great (great as big). I want to express my gratitude for your free websites - I couldn't afford to pay of it all."

"Your work is transcendent. It has allowed my soul to open back up and peek out into life and feel alive again. You are deeply valued and loved. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you."

"I think Robert Burney is the wisest man on FB (meaning Facebook)...and if you haven't read his book you are missing a treat and a liberating read!"

"Thanks for sharing. Your book has saved me and I am so thankful for your facebook page I read it daily and get encouraged to be healed and grow from the dysfunction I have survived and enjoy your wisdom and thoughts every day!"

"Your articles have helped me change my perspective in a way that will empower me for life."

"I just wanted to thank you for all the help your book has given me, i'm reading it for the third time now and every time i get more out of it thank you very much.  its an excellent book."

"I stumbled upon your website by chance some years ago. I ordered the book and then the tapes. I listened to the tapes so many times that your voice put me to sleep night after night after night. I wore the tapes out and ordered the CD.  Your work is remarkable and can help many people if they were aware of it." 

"Thank You for sharing your journey through your work. "Dance of The Wounded Souls" is a spiritual masterpiece and has helped encourage me on my path."

"All your work, concepts and the book, you've written have an amazing liberating effect !!"

"I read your book and it was truly amazing!  You are truly inspiring!"

"So much deep gratitude to you..thank you, thank you, thank you. So empowering, enlightening and so much LOVE, guidance, and validation. All love and Light to you for who you are what you do..lifting humanity and souls up toward a higher, more beautiful horizon. Love this writing/insight. Very nourishing."

"I think so many people have a mis-understanding of what codependence actually is. Robert, your website, Joy2MeU.com, gave such clarity and understanding, grateful I found it!"

"It's not that your works have "cured" me, but I can laugh and feel the joy of love of this lifetime once again."

"Hello Robert, I have been using your excellent book for 10 years now and shall again now. Your insights and verbal clarity make so many of my ingrained issues around codependency understandable and barable. Much forgiveness for my poor parents now. Long may you continue your outstanding work."

"I came across your website in my search for setting boundaries.  I work in the addiction and behavioral health recovery field and have personal experience with both.  I was amazed with your site!  As I read I began thinking of some of my clients who could really benefit from so much of the teaching you offer there but then the truth hit me--I NEED THIS FOR ME.  I am so grateful to have found your site and wanted to let you know that."

Latest Phone Counseling Feedback (9-26-09) 

"There has been a significant and striking shift in my internal world, and I certainly can attribute your guidance as the catalyst for such an event!:)!!  Thanks again for all your guidance, it really has changed my life in a very significant way.  I am very grateful our paths have crossed."

"At this point, I am going to need to cancel our appointment. It’s purely a financial issue at this point, and once I start working again, I would like to speak with you twice a month.  Robert, the positive impact of your work and counseling has had immeasurable impact on me. I am very grateful."

"I am hugely grateful to you for the grieving and healing process that I have started, through you and your enormous and wonderfully beneficial information - a big thank you for your advice, support and nurturing."

"Hope this finds you well. I have not spoken with you since our last telephone conversation and that seems a lifetime ago. Lifetime because I have gone full circle since then. . . . . I just want to say Thank you for the foundation that was laid from our phone conversations in 2007 as it has been the life raft that I "clung to when I started back this time. All of the things that we discussed were still in there and they resurfaced into my consciousness just when I neeed it most.  I have been reading the 12 Step Miracle today and I'm starting Step 4, again. This is valuable stuff and it is just what I need at this time. Again, Thank you and know that I appreciate you."

"I want you to know that you are a VERY special person, not just in my life, but to people all over the world. Your non-judgmentalness, your courage to face your fears and your dedication in helping all of us heal our wounding is truly amazing.  You are one of the best gifts I have ever received in my life. And I especially appreciate your care, concern and support during this difficult time in my life. It means so much to me I can't even begin to tell you."

"Robert, I want to thank you for your part in my healing.  You have helped me focus on the grieving at a new level, and also to see others as other spiritual beings which has helped so much with getting me out of my black and white thinking.  ((((Robert))))"

"I have once again been blessed with your presence in my life, your influence and teachings will continue to bring me a new perspective and new behavior  by which I will continue to realize more presence, more peace.  Blessings to you Robert." 

I.  Thou shalt not consort with people who make thee feel bad about thyself. 

Also includes: The Rules for Being Human and Risking. 

The Serenity Prayer for Codependents

"It is OK to be relaxed, playful, and frivolous" 

Some versions of the Serenity Prayer, a Personal Bill of Rights, Characteristics of Adults Shamed in Childhood, and some possible signs of Hidden Anger. 

Twisted Codependent thinking

1. All or nothing. Looking at things in absolute, black and white categories -"Either / or" thinking.