New & News Page of Joy2MeU web site of Spiritual Teacher/codependency therapist

August 14th, New & News:   An appeal for help in reprinting Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls and a new article on Joy2MeU telling the story of the origins and miraculous journey that led to publishing The Dance: Leap of Faith ~ Publishing The Dance

August 3rd, 2008 News:   More information about the workshop & more on the Caribbean Cruise in December.  A new Intensive date on January 3rd (my 25th sobriety birthday;-) announced. 

July 6, 2008 News:  The testimonials from the July Intensive have been added to the Intensive Testimonials page and I added the latest batch of testimonials from people whose lives have been changed by my book, tapes, CDs, and website to the Testimonial page (some below), two new resources (in Canada and Illinois) to my referral to local healers page, and some new recommended Links to that page (also below.) 

May 26, 2008 News:  Announcing new dates for Intensive Training Day workshops on October 12th and November 29th 2008 - and testimonials from the May Intensive have been added to the Intensive Testimonials page

April 11, 2008 New & News:  The April Update Newsletter is now online. . . . and a new page with info about the Intensive aboard a Caribbean Cruise in December. 

March 5, 2008 New & News:  The Donations page has been reorganized  - Donations to the cause / Spiritual Tithes / Love offerings are always appreciated.

December 11, 2007 New & News: The December Update Newsletter with news of a new Counselor Training Program is now online. 

November 21, 2007 New & News: I updated the Special Offers page with some new Holiday Special Offers for Recovering Codependents - featuring offers that include the Dancing in Light section of my site in combination with Telephone Counseling sessions - and with my Intensive Training Day workshop (and announced on that page that I will be raising telephone counseling rates on January 30th.).  I am also putting the full text of the Author's Foreword to Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light  Book 2 A Dysfunctional Relationship with Life back on the regular site (not sure why I took it off in the first place.;-)

June 25, 2006 - News: The page with ordering info for new CD version of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An Audio Spiritual Experience" is now online. 

April 8, 2006 - New: The e-books that were formerly sold by Suite101 are now available on these pages: Dysfunctional Relationship Dynamics ~ Healthy Relationship Behavior and Inner Child Healing The Path to Empowerment, Inner Peace, and Freedom from the Past

"I cannot thank you enough for your website. i came across is recently when i was in a crisis and am working through ALL of your articles. You saved my life!" 

"i absolutely adore your writing." 

"i absolutely *loved* how you described the evolution of the term 'co-dependency' on your wounded souls tape -- i see it exactly the way you described it!!!" 

"Your site is fantastic.  The abundant amount of information that you have provided is exceedingly beneficial to the recovery community. It is so incredible that you have so much information to share with others." 

"I am a Unity Minister. . . . I am not sure how I found you...I do know it was surfing and I think it was when I was looking for stuff on codependency.   . . . . I love your site. You have really "given" us a gift on your site Robert.  You give alot and I really appreciate it.  I find your writing and thoughts very profound, clear and thought-provoking.  I resonate with your writing." 

"I have found a lot of healing in just reading the articles.  I have never heard anyone else say that they woke up and just wanted to die too.  It makes sense now.  I don't feel suicidal but see how that has been an unconcious driving force behind a lot of my behaviors" 

"I have found your website an immense treasure of wisdom and healing for me.  Thank you so much." 

"I am enrolled in a Clinical Pastoral Education Program at the Veteran's Hospital in _____.  A large portion of our program is Psychotherapy training and WOW am I glad I stumbled onto your web site.  I ordered your book "The Dance of Wounded Souls" and I am very excited to learn more.  I, being co-dependent myself, think that this book and some of the other points brought up on your website help drag out some really deep issues into the light.  Thank you and please keep up all the great writing!!"

"Even the small amounts I have touched on he website have opened my eyes, my mind and my heart. My life has already begun to change with the first tears that began to roll down my cheeks. When you feel so empty and alone for so long and then realize you are far from alone and there is genuine hope, it is life changing. Thank you again." 

"Thank you so much for your work, it will most certainly help others and it is really a wonderful gift you are giving to put so many articles on the internet for others to find and gain knowledge from."

"I just wanted to express my gratitude for supplying such eye-opening information on your website.  It is so greatly appreciated! . . . The reason I am sending this lengthy, way too much information e-mail, is to thank you, because I stumbled across your website just today when doing a Google search for "personal boundaries," because I had absolutely no clue what that meant. Thank you for making this information available to the public!" 

"I have been reading and learning so much from your website.  YOU understand me.  What a gift that is!  Thank you so much for the website." 

"My spiritual partner stumbled upon your site yesterday searching for information on Inner Child Work. I have been doing a lot of personal healing work and growth over the last 15-20 years. Your site and the articles are wonderful. Connecting it all with our spirituality, karmic healing and balancing, Christ-consciousness and more is AWESOME!!!!  Thank you and may you be continuously blessed for the wonderful work you do!!!" 

"I just read the above article on your web page. (Obsessive thinking Part 2)  The entire article describes what I am living right now.  Thank you for the suggestions within the article." 

"The information you're giving out is amazing!" 

"Wow! Robert, your message and the insight it contains needs to be made known to the world!  You are truly an amazing gift." 

"Hello.  I have to say that when I read your article on "Fathers", particularly the part about the additional way that fathers wound their daughters, I felt completely validated.  For years it was a joke in my family that "Daddy stopped hugging me when I got boobs."  But it was true!  I had been a daddy's girl until I hit puberty and then I couldn't do anything right...not that I could before, but I really was dealt his wrath after I developed physically. . . . . . Thank you for putting in print the feeling that has dominated my life for the last 30 years!  It is liberating to know that I wasn't alone or ridiculous for feeling this way.  Perhaps now I can begin to heal."

"Your book Codependence:  The dance of wounded souls and cd set have really resonated deeply with my own healing journey and experiences.  Thank you for such a giving and resourceful website." 

"I've been enjoying your metaphysical approach to relationships via your website.  I'm looking forward to receiving the CD's and listening to them in my car on my way to work." 

"Your articles have given me such insight and have been so helpful in opening my eyes to see myself differently and give me the "permission" to like myself and appreciate the beautiful gifts God gave me. I never knew I was of any value. Thank you so much for your perspective and thank God your work fell into my life just when I needed it the most." 

"Your website is amazing and I have recommended it to my fellow counselors. at the very least, I will order your book, to help me, and hopefully eventually my clients. . . At any rate, thank you for your site and your honesty and I look forward to reading your book" 

"I would have loved to attend your workshops because your words so resonate with the forgotten knowledge in my soul.  I have yet to read everything (the Universe has led me to you but 3 days ago), but already you have brought me much clarity and comfort and hope.  I live all the way here in the Philippines, so making it to the workshops is pretty tricky. (-%  Still, who knows, we do travel there every now and then.  Next trip I'll be sure that it coincides with some of the sessions.  Thank you so very much for sharing your wisdom with us.  I will have you know, that you just spared me my sanity." 

"I love what I've read on your website. " 

"I bought your book a couple of years ago.  Reading it has been a catalyst for my personal and spiritual growth and getting in to a choice based program.  I am beating Co-Dependency and for the first time in 46 years I love myself.  I look to myself for satisfaction and fulfillment and not another human being or thing.  The Journey has been worth it even while it was hard.  Thank You for sharing your experiences!" 

From India: "I appreciate the commendable work you have done!!" 

Latest Phone Counseling Feedback (4-9-08) 
"You might not remember me. We have worked together briefly in 2005 on telephone counseling, but I had never left your website since I discovered it "by accident" on google in 2004. You have changed my life in ways you might not understand, and I thank The Almighty to have made it possible for our paths to cross. Many things happened in my life since we last spoke, some were good others bad. But thanks to you I had acquired the wisdom and strenght to carry on and most of all, be easy on myself and remind myself that "that too shall pass".  I took care of all my children (inner children, that is) and I reassured them that I will take care of them thru the storm. They all say thank you, too. 

Robert, you are always in my thoughts and prayers, especially those prayers of thankgiving. I talk about you to my friends, some think that you are a personal friend and I tell them that you are my God-sent. He/She had sent you into my life to remind me who I already was and had always been, and for that you are my Best Friend. Thank you for being you, thank you for being my teacher and guide, and hopefully soon enough I will resume working with you." 

"I wonder if you remember me...I was your client back in 2004 and 2005...I just wanted to write to you and let you know that since our work together, I have continued my healing journey and it has led me to some very interesting places in the world and inside myself.... Over and over I come back to your work to remind myself of the TRUTH that your work continues to ignite in my heart." 

"Thank you for all your help this year!!  You really have brought so much to my life, and I am grateful." 

"I am in the best relationship of my life with a man who has worked hard to heal himself and is on the same path as I. Together, our power to be strong and truthful and loving is the most beautiful thing I have ever known (along with my love for my son). Thanks to you, and some wisdom of yours, I was able to stay strong and work hard until I found him and together we still stay strong. Wow, I reached the mountaintop and its great up here! Hard to get to but so simple once you do!" 

"I appreciate ALL that you do for all of us who have been fortunate enough to cross your path...I see it as an authentic and loving soul expression...your kindness and generosity are helping to heal us all one by one." 

"I can see this relationship for what was as more and more is being revealed along this journey.  That would not be the case if I had not come across your work. It was no coincidence.  More is revealed when we are ready and open to understanding. . . . I wrote this in a time period  when I was desperately struggling to find the answers within me. I knew that that is where they are. But, I did not have the tools to do it before I cam across your work. I am going in the right direction now.  Thank you for touching my life in a positive way." 

"I credit you with starting me on my journey toward discovering that I am a spiritual being have a human experience." 

"I've owned 2 copies of the book and gave them away to a friend and a relative. I thought they could use the help.  Im feeling joyful and thankful everyday.  I continue to pass on to others what I've learned from you.  It continues to make a difference in my life, so Thank you!" 

"I have not contacted you in awhile. we did a few phone counseling sessions in the past and I have emailed you from time to time. I wanted to wish you a Happy Holiday. Your website has guided me on my path of trusting the universe. It makes sense out of the nonsense and I am grateful for you. So again thank you." 

The web site of Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse one of the Pioneers of the Adult Child / Codependence recovery movement.

Another Pioneer in the Adult Child movement is Claudia Black whose website has been redesigned.  As I note on my bookstore page: "Claudia Black ~ One of the people who defined Adult Child Syndrome, Claudia had a great personal impact on my recovery.  I attended several of her workshops and saw her at an ACA convention.  Her presence and validation in our interactions was very powerful for me.  I will always be grateful to her for being herself."

Another pioneer in the recovery field is Earnie Larsen the originator of the Stage II Recovery process.

Clear Haven Center - a Canadian Treatment Center provides a lot of interesting research information on addiciton

The Wisdom of the Rooms - a collection of 12 Step Quotes and Sayings

The Universal Church Of Metaphysics is a gathering place for like-minded spiritual seekers.

Faces & Voices of Recovery is an organization for dedicated to in mobilizing and organizing the recovery community!

The Secret to The Unlimited Child - A Children's Life Empowerment "Empowering humanity one child at a time . .." "The Secret to The Unlimited Child is a 6 C.D. child empowerment program that utilizes the proven affect of positive affirmations combined with 60 beat per minute music."

A Place of PEACE - peaceful sanctuary where you will be able to relax and connect with nature, poetry, prayers and the peace within you that is Gods' spirit.

Women's INstitute for Incorporation Therapy - WIIT is a psychiatric program for women who have acute symptoms associated with psychological trauma, including grief, loss, depression, post traumatic stress, and dissociative disorders.

Jon Daily, LCSW, CADC specializes in the outpatient treatment of adolescents and young adults with substance abuse and mental health issues.  A 34 minute free video is available on the site.

Alternative Online Counseling: "Your relationship with others is based on your relationship with yourself. Our services remove what holds you back in your personal and spiritual growth. Get the help you need, right here, right now."

SpiritualQuest.com provides a wide variety of Natural Crystal Himalayan Salt Lamps, and other meditation related supplies.

New Age Directories - a  new site that's "been likened to the "myspace or facebook" of the New Age, Spiritual and Alternative community."  (I am not sure if that is a good thing or not.;-)

To see more recommended links, go to Links page.

I.  Thou shalt not consort with people who make thee feel bad about thyself. 

Also includes: The Rules for Being Human and Risking. 

The Serenity Prayer for Codependents

"It is OK to be relaxed, playful, and frivolous" 

Some versions of the Serenity Prayer, a Personal Bill of Rights, Characteristics of Adults Shamed in Childhood, and some possible signs of Hidden Anger. 

Twisted Codependent thinking

1. All or nothing. Looking at things in absolute, black and white categories -"Either / or" thinking.