6/17/18 - am posting my first Update Newsletter in more than 6 years with updates on what is happening as I approach 70. :-( (Things are good, just not crazy about getting old.:-)
Temporary Special Offers for "Robert's Birthday" - New book & telephone counseling
In July 2011 I posted this Robert_Birthday page with special offers in honor of the publication of my process level / how to book about the inner child healing approach that I developed in my recovery (that is a follow up to Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls) - and also of my birthday on July 23rd.
(I am also including a few links below to offers for phone sessions, MP3 downloads, subscriptions, and books.)
* My 39th birthday was actually in 1987 - and proved a turning point in my recovery.
"It wasn't until I set myself up to feel abandoned and betrayed on my birthday (one of my old regular patterns for special days) that I became willing to do the emotional healing - and started actively pursuing emotional healing." - The Story of Joy to You & Me
That birthday not only put me in enough pain that I was willing to actively dive into the emotional healing but also brought the intervention of a Psychic messenger (part of The Story of Joy to You & Me) who planted the seeds of Joy to You & Me, Joy2MeU, and the image of my inner child as my wounded soul - and was the first person to tell me that I was a Spiritual Being having a Human Experience
"The first time a messenger came to me carrying the message, the reminder, that I was a Spiritual Being having a human experience, I got really angry. My first reaction was anger. My first thought was, "That means that I've got to be out among them."
I never wanted to be out among you-all. I always wanted to go up on a mountain and meditate my way to God. What I have learned in this healing process is that I find God through "being out among them," through my human relationships. We are here to learn to relate to each other. We are here to learn to Love ourselves and each other." - Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls
So, you can see that was a pretty important birthday to me.
** As I was writing the above, "putting out a message" wasn't nearly strong enough to describe what I was feeling. The word that came to mind was bellow - which reminded me of Moose Medicine and led me to this quote from my November 2002 Update Newsletter.
"So, I once again reaffirm my commitment to being an ally with the Spirit where Love lives instead of with the disease where fear rules. I Joyously, with tears running down my cheeks and sobs of Joy bubbling up my throat, proclaim and declare to you; to the Universe; to my Higher Power; to The God-Force, Goddess Energy, Great Spirit, Holy Mother Source Energy; to all that is blessed and holy; Fuck the fear I say - full speed ahead in the direction of Love.
I trumpet and broadcast proudly out into the Universe: my commitment to my recovery journey; to my Karmic mission; to speaking my Truth; and say: "Bring it on Bubba baby!" Because it is so worth it! Every second of suffering and pain, terror and loneliness, is worth being able to access the Truth of Unconditional Love. Amen. So be it. So it is. Blessed be.
Should be interesting to see what happens now, don't you think. ;-)
PSS. This is so perfect, I just couldn't help including it. When I reread what I had just written above, and saw the word trumpet, it brought to mind the Moose totem in the Medicine Cards. I looked up from my computer at my calendar - and guess what the picture for November is: Moose. The theme of Moose medicine is self esteem - of course
Here is a quote from the Medicine Card book about the significance of Moose:"The bellow of the male Moose can be viewed as a positive force, since it represents his willingness to "tell the world" about his feelings.
This "tell the world" trait contains a joyfulness which only comes from a sense of accomplishment. There is no greater joy than a job well done. This trait is therefore not a seeking of approval, but rather an enjoyment of sharing because of the spontaneous explosion of joy that comes from the deepest part of one's being." This process is soooooo awesome!!!” - Joy2MeU Update Newsletter November 2002 (Grateful acknowledgment is made for permission to quote in Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls from: Medicine Cards by Jamie Sams and David Carson, copyright 1988, Bear & Co. Reprinted by permission Bear & Co., P.O. Box 2860, Santa Fe, NM 87504.)
I actually sent out - bellowed out - the message to the Universe "Bring it on!" - that is bring on whatever lessons I need to learn to open up to Love, 4 times in Update Newsletters between December 1998 and December 2004. I got my heart broken 3 times - and then in 2005 I found my sweetie who I have now been with 6 years and who I got married to last January. Recovery is a precious gift that I am soooooo grateful for. Being willing to take the action to face my fears and go through the black hole of my grief has brought me great rewards - and I am very proud and grateful for the accomplishments that resulted from my Spirit leading me to honor my Spiritual Path and go where I was guided.
So with a "joyfulness which only comes from a sense of accomplishment" Happy Birthday to me in a "spontaneous explosion of joy that comes from the deepest part of one's being."!!!!!!! ~ Robert 7/20/11Here is an excerpt of a "Happy Birthday to Me" message I sent to my Yahoo Mailing list the next day 7/21/11
"This Yahoo mailing list is the place that I most often get to write about what is happening in my life and process now - since I only have time to do Update Newsletters once or twice a year. So, I am now going to go into a lot more detail about what is going on, and what I feeling about it all.
When I was writing that yesterday - and as I am writing about it today - I feel so much Joy & gratitude for my recovery process, and for how focusing on my healing and sharing it through my writing has touched the lives of so many people. It is such a miracle.
And just that little bit of writing I did yesterday got me in touch with the feeling of how awesome the process can be for me at times. I had the thought about saying that I was celebrating my 39th birthday just because that is one people like to say they stopped at - but then I realized which birthday was my 39th and how important it was. And when I wrote the next part about saying I was open to receiving financial gifts - and was reminded of the Moose Medicine - it was a magical moment for me. The kinds of moments I used to have in my writing all the time.
I don't have time to write these days. As I explained in the Author's Foreword to my new book.
"My personal inner child healing has been so successful that I have gone from living in isolation with a relationship phobia and a terror of intimacy to celebrating the 6th anniversary (June 15th 2011) of living with someone in an intimate relationship (that became a marriage in January 2011) that has included the precious gift of being the primary caregiver in raising an amazing little boy for the past 5 plus years (my wife's grandson who is now 6 1/2.) As a result I don't have time to write much these days - and haven't for the last 4 to 5 years."So, it is really great to get a chance to write - even if it is only a little. And writing helps me to get emotionally honest with myself. Writing that yesterday really got me back in touch with the Joy and gratitude that I feel for my spiritual path - and with how far I have come and how hard it has been. And writing about this today has taken me into some grief about how hard it still is in many ways. . . . . . I am going to be 63 on Saturday. I sure never expected to get this old. And I just wish it wasn't so hard to pay the bills.
But these are just feelings of the moment. The aren't my total reality or my Higher Truth. Everything will work out some how, some way. It is important to own these feelings. My glass is much more full than it is empty - but it is vital not to deny or judge and shame myself for the part that is empty. Writing this has let me release some of the pain and fear. Hopefully sales and gifts will come flowing in in abundance. Maybe I will win the lottery. ;-)" - "Happy Birthday to Me!" Message to Yahoo Mailing list Thu Jul 21, 2011 7:04 pm (I am not sending messages to that Yahoo group any more - and haven't for years - but the old posts are still there if anyone wants to check them out.)
(In early 2012 I moved the above excerpt to the last Update Newsletter I posted in February of 2012.)
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"I freely share so much information on my site because - as I say in the article below - I believe it is my Karmic Mission in this lifetime. I want to share the Joyous message and the precious information that I have discovered - and it is what I need to do for my Recovery and Spiritual Path. It is not such a great strategy when it comes to finances however.;-) So Donations to the Cause / Love Offerings / Spiritual Tithes are always appreciated if you feel my sharing has helped you in your Healing / Recovery process and on your Spiritual Path." - Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving ~ Donations / Love Offerings
Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls by Robert Burney is copyright 1995. Material on Joy2MeU web site (except where otherwise noted) is copyright 1996 thru 2018 by Robert Burney PO Box 1028 Cambria CA 93428.
The Medicine Card (This link and the one on the graphic will take you to the page it is offered on Amazon.com) have been a very valuable tool in my recovery process. Although I don't have permission to quote this specific quote from the Medicine card book here - Grateful acknowledgment is made for permission to quote in Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls from: Medicine Cards by Jamie Sams and David Carson, copyright 1988, Bear & Co. Reprinted by permission Bear & Co., P.O. Box 2860, Santa Fe, NM 87504. (Since the book was published they have moved to P.O. Box 3876, Gettysburg, PA 17325)