In this chapter I am going to discuss how counselors and therapist, healers and spiritual teachers, people in the helping professions who (for the vast majority) have the best of intentions, are set up by their codependency to be limited in their ability to help others heal, and in some cases, to be abusive and shaming in their work with clients.

As I talked about in the last chapter, dysfunctional families are the norm.  Counselors / therapists / healers who grew up in dysfunctional families in dysfunctional cultures, are codependent.  The reason that people get into the helping professions is - on some very basic levels - because of their codependency.  On other levels, it is because they do care, because they have a strong heart connection.  . . . . . 

. . . . . People study psychology to try to understand self.  We become therapists or counselors or healers because we need the healing.  Anyone who isn't honest with themselves about this level of motivation is set up to be an unhealthy healer.

Any counselor / therapist / spiritual teacher / healer who has not done the inner child healing and codependency recovery work both emotionally and intellectually, is going to be limited in their ability to help other people.  They will be able to help people up to the point they have been willing to go in their own personal healing - but after that point, the impact they have on the people they are working with may become negative.

Society is emotionally dysfunctional and dishonest.  That means the systems within the society are limited by the intellectual paradigm, the beliefs, upon which that society is founded.

There is imbalance in all aspects of our society. There are inherent conflicts of interest in the dynamics of our systems.

We live in a society where the medical system profits from disease and does not have any incentive - does not make any profit - for promoting health.

Imagine if you will a system where the healer gets paid every month that you are healthy and does not get paid if you are sick.  Do you think doctors would be more open to herbs and acupuncture, holistic healing and nutrition, and other kinds of alternative healing methods?  Of course the economy would collapse because the drug and insurance companies would go bankrupt.

There is something backwards about a medical system that needs to cut you open and/or give you drugs to perpetuate itself.

More money is spent every year by drug companies in the United States to market and advertise their drugs than is spent in each year in all of the medical schools to educate Doctors.  Something is severely out of balance with this picture. . . . . . 

. . . . . Any medical or mental health professional who has not done their personal emotional healing and codependency recovery work, will not have a clear and healthy perspective in relationship to the emotions and behavior of the people they work with.