We first met in person on Jan. 23rd 2005 and have been living together since June 15th 2005 - a record for longest relationship for both of us (by 2 years for Susan and 3 years for Robert.) We have been able to accomplish this - despite huge fear of intimacy issues for both of them - because we are committed to living our relationship in a Recovery / Spiritual / Transformational context. We have survived and transformed issues that would have destroyed most relationships because we are actively recovering from our codependency. We are going to be celebrating the gift that is our relationship on a honeymoon cruise of the caribbean which we would love to have you join us on. Two people in Codependence recovery working through their issues can have a successful adventure in intimacy and Love - and I am so blessed to have Susan in my life.
We are getting married in San Luis Obispo California on January 14th 2011.
"The more you do your healing and follow your Spiritual path the more moments of each day you will have the choice to Truly be present the moment.
And in the moment you can make a choice to embrace and feel the Joy fully and completely and with Gusto.
In any specific moment you will have the power to make a choice to feel the Love in that moment as if you have never been hurt and as if the Love will never go away.
Completely absolutely unconditionally with fearless abandon you can embrace the Love and Joy in the moment." - A Wedding Prayer / Meditation on Romantic Commitment
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Working the Third Step
"When I was in treatment getting sober I was in a city I hadn't lived in for 20 years. I had no car and was going to be living with my brother who lived on the outskirts of the city when I got out of treatment. I was scared that I wasn't going to be able to make it to meetings and went in to talk to my counselor about it. He said, "You ask for rides." "Oh no," I said. "You don't understand I never ask anybody for anything." "Well," he said, "that is what working the third step is all about." "Asking for rides?!?!" I said incredulously.
I thought he was crazy. How can asking for a ride be working the third step?
Well, it is. I needed to learn to ask not only a God I didn't trust for help - but also to ask other people to help me. That was horrible for me. It seemed like such a huge risk. If I asked people for help that would give them a chance to reject me - and I had had enough rejection in my life, thank you very much!
There was a story that I heard around that time. It was about 2 guys who were arguing about rather there was a God or not.The first one said, "Of course, there is a God. How can you say there is no God."The point: God works through people. We all have had Eskimos in our lives, angels disguised as people. We are not alone in this process - we can't do it alone.
The second said, "I not only can say it - I can prove it."
"You can prove it?"
"Yes. Years ago I was in a small plane crash in the wilds of Alaska. I was the only survivor and I had a broken leg. There was nothing around for hundreds of miles, so it was only a question of rather I would freeze to death before something ate me. I prayed to God and said 'If there is a God please save me.' And God didn't do anything."
"What do you mean," the first man exclaimed. "You're here and alive aren't you."
"Oh, well some Eskimo came along and saved me. God didn't do anything."
So, I learned to ask for rides. What I know now is that the Universe always responds - just not very often in the way, or at the time I think it is necessary. I need to ask for help and then let go of rather the person I am asking can in fact help me. I need to take the risk and let go of the outcome. What I need will come from someplace. There is a verse in the bible that says: (paraphrased??)Ask and ye shall receive.ASK. By asking - either God or another person - I am setting energy in motion in the Universe. Once the energy is in motion it comes back to me at some time from some place. I have to put it out before it will come back. What I sow I reap. The Universes works on the principle of cause and effect. It is very important for me to get proactive in my own life by taking the risk of asking for help - and it is much easier when I can let go of my picture of how, and when, that help is going to manifest." - The Miracle of The Twelve Step Recovery Process: 1, 2, 3, and a 1, 2, 3 - The first three steps
Seek and ye shall find.
Knock and the door shall be opened.
"The Metaphysical Law of Karma - of cause and effect / giving and receiving / what you sow you reap - is what governs this life experience we are having. Giving and receiving are two parts of one dynamic - like breathing. As a friend of mine who is a New Thought minister says, "to say giving is more Blessed than receiving is like saying exhaling is more Blessed than inhaling." Just as breath needs to flow in and out, so too does energy need to flow . . ." - Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving
This is the affirmation I have been focusing on in recent weeks. It was passed on to me by a friend and I don't know the original source (although it sounds like New Thought to me.)
There is but One Infinite Presence
One Power in back of all Creation
Constantly expressing itself through changing forms
Of love flowing into abundant material form.
Of visions flowing into accomplishments
Of thoughts becoming opportunities.
Infinite Mind expresses and knows itself
through my every thought and presence,
Creating through me unlimited good
Great abundance and prosperity of flow,
Of greatly increased funds, greater perception of good,
I open myself to know that there are no limits
On what I can receive, on what I can create.
No longer do I let outward appearances
Of lack and limitation become my reality
In my ever closer alignment with Spirit
I draw to me people and opportunities
That support every aspect of my prosperity.
I fill my life with the great energy of surplus,
Easily creating and increasing my funds
Into a vast river of positive cash flow and other good
Allowing my connection with Infinite Mind
To become my expression of infinite abundance
Right here and right now.
I give thanks for this moment and for I know
That these words are already demonstrating in my life.
Releasing them to the power of Universal law
And letting Infinite Good act upon my life.
And so it is.
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