Robert would be pleased and happy to be invited to speak at any twelve step meeting or convention. For any location that is more than a reasonable drive (about 2 hours) Robert will need to get expenses and lodging to help him afford to take time out of his regular schedule. For any CoDA or other 12 step group that is a distance away - especially any location that will require travel by air - Robert will need to be able to make some income on the trip in addition to expenses as part of having a healthy boundary that honors the value of his time and his need to pay the rent every month. The best way this can be handled on any trips of a distance, is to have Robert speak in the 12 step setting where he can share his story as a recovering Codependent - and schedule a separate workshop independent of the 12 step group - as is being done in this Ohio appearance. That way there is no violation of the traditions by charging for admission and selling the book and CDs of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls at the workshop.
Robert Burney will be appearing in Ellot, a suburb of Akron Ohio, on May 9th, 2009. He will be the speaker at a Co-Dependents Anonymous Speaker Meeting at 10 am on that Saturday morning and is offering a workshop from 2:30 to 5 pm followed by a Q & A session and book signing that afternoon.
Family Life Center
2350 Wedgewood Dr
Akron OH 44312
Some some comments about his book and work:
"I have made more progress on a personal level in the few weeks I have had Robert's book and tape than in the preceding eight plus years when I first found out what codependency was."
"I just read your wonderful book, thank you for writing it. I have been a spiritual teacher since childhood, however, your book let me organize my thoughts a new way, a new perspective. I now have a much deeper understanding and am still learning from it. Dance, is one of the truly transformational works of our time thanks again"
"Why isn't this book on the bestseller list? I think it certainly will be someday. You have incorporated many concepts of Truth into one beautiful, soul touching, and integrated piece of genius."
"When I found your book, I found myself."
"I have been telling anyone who will
listen about you and your work because it is literally saving
my life and I feel it could help millions get well."
"Robert carries an amazing message of healing for the entire human race. Anyone who is ready to face their issues would benefit tremendously from this simple recipe."
In his book Codependence:
The Dance of Wounded Souls "A Cosmic Perspective on Codependence
and the Human Condition" he postulates that Codependence (i.e. outer or
external dependence) is The Human Condition - and that we have now entered
a new Age of Healing and Joy in which it is possible to heal the planet
through healing our relationships with self. He combines Twelve Step
Recovery Principles, Metaphysical Truth, and Native American Spirituality
with quantum physics and molecular biology in presenting his belief that
we are all connected, we are all extensions of the Divine, and that ultimately
Love is our True essence.
Some quotes from Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls:
"This dance of Codependence is a dance of dysfunctional relationships - of relationships that do not work to meet our needs. That does not mean just romantic relationships, or family relationships, or even human relationships in general.
The fact that dysfunction exists in our romantic, family, and human relationships is a symptom of the dysfunction that exists in our relationship with life - with being human. It is a symptom of the dysfunction which exists in our relationships with ourselves as human beings.
And the dysfunction that exists in our relationship with ourselves is a symptom of Spiritual dis-ease, of not being in balance and harmony with the universe, of feeling disconnected from our Spiritual source."
"It is necessary to own and honor the child who we were in order to Love the person we are. And the only way to do that is to own that child's experiences, honor that child's feelings, and release the emotional grief energy that we are still carrying around."
"The point that I am making
is that our understanding of Codependence has evolved to realizing
that this is not just about some dysfunctional families, our very
role models, our prototypes, are dysfunctional. Our traditional cultural
concepts of what a man is, of what a woman is, are twisted, distorted,
almost comically bloated stereotypes of what masculine and feminine
"In order to start be-ing in the moment in a healthy, age-appropriate way it is necessary to heal our "inner child." The inner child we need to heal is actually our "inner children" who have been running our lives because we have been unconsciously reacting to life out of the emotional wounds and attitudes, the old tapes, of our childhoods."
Robert would be pleased and happy to be invited to speak at any twelve step meeting or convention. For any location that is more than a reasonable drive (about 2 hours) Robert will need to get expenses and lodging to help him afford to take time out of his regular schedule. For any CoDA or other 12 step group that is a distance away - especially any location that will require travel by air - Robert will need to be able to make some income on the trip in addition to expenses as part of having a healthy boundary that honors the value of his time and his need to pay the rent every month. The best way this can be handled on any trips of a distance, is to have Robert speak in the 12 step setting where he can share his story as a recovering Codependent - and schedule a separate workshop independent of the 12 step group - as is being done in this Ohio appearance. That way there is no violation of the traditions by charging for admission and selling the book and audio tapes of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls at the workshop.
January 8, 2005 - a message from Robert.
I included the above disclaimer in my book - and on any of the pages of my site where I am writing directly about AA or the twelve steps - out of respect for Alcoholics Anonymous. However, it is the black and white thinking of codependency that causes many in AA to be rigid and closed minded - to insist for instance, that drugs not be discussed in Alcoholics Anonymous meetings (alcohol is of course a drug.) Since many of the people who started CoDependents Anonymous came from AA, there is a certain level of black and white thinking that sometimes comes up in CoDA business meetings and affairs. Because of this type of right and wrong / black and white thinking, I included this note at the bottom of the page in one of the articles in my series on The Miracle of The Twelve Step Recovery Process.
"I am inserting a note here for anyone who feels offended by what they see as a violation of the Eleventh Tradition of AA's Twelve Traditions. The 11th Tradition of AA is:Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio and films.I routinely break my own anonymity in regard to the fact that I am a recovering alcoholic / addict and codependent because I do not believe I would be alive today if Betty Ford had not broken her anonymity in the late 1970s and brought the subject of alcoholism out of the closet into public view. She is one of the people I dedicated my book to because I believe that I personally owe her a debt of gratitude for her courage and honesty. Breaking my own anonymity is one way that I carry the message of hope that saved my life. Anyone whose black and white thinking is causing them to rigidly interpret the Twelve Steps and Traditions enough to be offended, desperately needs to get into codependency recovery in my opinion." - Robert Burney 2/10/04 The Miracle of The Twelve Step Recovery Process Steps 10 thru 12 - The Maintenance Steps Part 1
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"Codependency is about having a dysfunctional relationship with self! With our own bodies, minds, emotions, and spirits. With our own gender and sexuality. With being human. Because we have dysfunctional relationships internally, we have dysfunctional relationships externally.
Codependency is an emotional and behavioral defense system which our
egos adapted in early childhood to help us survive. We were raised
in shame based, emotionally dishonest, Spiritually hostile environments
by parents who were wounded in their childhoods by patriarchal, shame
based civilization that treated children and women as property." - Robert Burney