"This dance of Codependence is a dance of dysfunctional relationships - of relationships that do not work to meet our needs.  That does not mean just romantic relationships, or family relationships, or even human relationships in general.

The fact that dysfunction exists in our romantic, family, and human relationships is a symptom of the dysfunction that exists in our relationship with life - with being human.  It is a symptom of the dysfunction which exists in our relationships with ourselves as human beings.

And the dysfunction that exists in our relationship with ourselves is a symptom of Spiritual dis-ease, of not being in balance and harmony with the universe, of feeling disconnected from our Spiritual source." - Quotes in this color are from Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls

"I have been telling anyone who will listen about you and your work because it is literally saving my life and I feel it could help millions get well." 

"Your writing is more insightful and instructive for change than Bradshaw and Melody Beattie of codependence no more.  Pia Melody's pretty good but you're more broad thinking in concepts and more compassionate too.  I have been in therapy since I was 19, I'm 48 and am just learning  about boundaries and not from the help of my therapist unfortunately.  She knows inner child work but not how boundaries directly relate to it.  Your work has been an invaluable resource as I read it tonight."

"I read thru much of your website and I am very inspired by it.  I have been feeling that something is missing from the 12-step CoDA meetings and now I know it is true."

"Your work is brilliant and from what I've read on your website I am just utterly blown away by this material.   It's like finally someone has put this mess of codependance into perspective so it can be healed!"

"You have taken inner child healing to a new level. In your brilliantly written book you explain the missing pieces of the puzzle in a way that is amazingly simple and understandable."

"I have been one of the lucky people to read your sensational book! . . . This book is truly a masterpiece. . . Wouldn't it be great if every living being on the planet read this book? Global transformation!"

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"Robert, Your seminar on codependence was awesome. Your practical techniques for dealing with this disease are incredibly simple and incredibly effective."

"You can intellectually understand key points by reading his book, but the training allowed me to really internalize it.  It's like the difference between learning how to fly an airplane by reading a book vs. actually getting in the plane."

"This training is not only a clear nuts and bolts approach to recovery, but likely a key insight into the next revolutionary model of recovery.  I feel as if I have a much clearer map."

"Robert Burney's training day was so inspirational and enlightening.  He was loving and warm and presented profound life changing material in a very not intimidating way.  Magical!"

"Exceptionally understandable; very clear.  This was LIFE Changing - I am so thankful.  I would Absolutely recommend it."

"It was very empowering, uplifting and gave me new hope.  The information was invaluable."

"I really enjoyed Robert Burney's Intensive Training on inner child work. . .  I had many revelations about my inner child and how I can reparent and stop the critical parent that has followed me my whole life. . . Thank you so much Robert.  You are a truly  unforgettable person. So glad I said yes to attending."

For more see Testimonials for the Intensive  (Updated 3/17/20)

"Love is a verb - it needs to be manifested in action not just contemplated intellectually.  You can not learn to Love yourself - or be capable of having healthier relationships - without taking action to change your core / foundation relationship with self and life into one that is more aligned with Love.  This inner child healing work is an effective and powerful formula that allows you to learn:  to be more Loving to self;  to gain some freedom from the past;  to develop inner peace and serenity;  to own your response-ability as co-creator of your life so that you can become a positive co-creator instead of negative (learn to be your own best friend instead of your own worst enemy);  to start relaxing and being present for your life in a way that creates a more balanced and enjoyable experience.  I highly recommend it." - Inner Child Healing = a path to freedom, serenity, and empowerment

The approach to healing shared in this Training Day is one which has evolved in my personal recovery over the past 34 years and in my therapy practice over the past 28 years.  I have been guided to develop an approach to inner child healing that offers a powerful, life-changing formula for integrating Love, Spiritual Truth, and intellectual knowledge of healthy behavior into one's emotional experience of life - a blueprint for individuals to transform their core relationship with self and life.

My work is firmly grounded on twelve step recovery principles and emotional energy release / grief process therapy.   I specialize in teaching individuals how to become empowered to have internal boundaries so they can learn to relax and enjoy life in the moment while healing.  It is the unique approach and application of the concept of internal boundaries, coupled with a Loving Spiritual belief system, that make the work so innovative and effective.

My belief is that we are Spiritual Beings having a human experience and that the key to healing and Spiritual Awakening (and integrating Spiritual Truth into our emotional experience of life) is reprograming our dysfunctional ego defenses while striving for emotional honesty through grief processing and inner child work.  It is not necessary to agree with my Spiritual beliefs to apply the approach I developed to help you transform your experience of life into an easier, more Loving and enjoyable journey.  I consider spirituality to be a word that describes one's relationship with life - and anyone, regardless of religious belief or lack of it (who is not completely closed minded), can benefit from doing this work.

It is possible to feel the feelings without being the victim of them or victimizing other's with them.  It is possible to change the way you think so that your mind is no longer your worst enemy.  It is possible to become empowered to have choices in life at the same time you are letting go of trying to control things which you do not have the power to control.  Life can be an exciting, enjoyable adventure if you stop reacting to it out of your childhood emotional wounds and attitudes.

"The point that I am making is that our understanding of Codependence has evolved to realizing that this is not just about some dysfunctional families, our very role models, our prototypes, are dysfunctional. Our traditional cultural concepts of what a man is, of what a woman is, are twisted, distorted, almost comically bloated stereotypes of what masculine and feminine really are."

"It is necessary to own and honor the child who we were in order to Love the person we are. And the only way to do that is to own that child's experiences, honor that child's feelings, and release the emotional grief energy that we are still carrying around."

"We are transcendent Spiritual Beings who are part of the ONENESS that is the God-Force. We always have been and always will be. We are perfect in our Spiritual Essence. We are perfectly where we are supposed to be on our Spiritual Path. And from a human perspective we will never be able to do "human" perfectly - which is perfect.  We have been trying to do human perfect according to a false belief system in order to get Spiritual. It does not work. It's dysfunctional."

"It was vitally important for me to learn how to have internal boundaries so that I could lovingly parent (which, of course, includes setting boundaries for) my inner children, tell the critical parent/disease voice to shut up, and start accessing the emotional energy of Truth, Beauty, Joy, Light, and Love.  It was by learning internal boundaries that I could begin to achieve some integration and balance in my life, and transform my experience of life into an adventure that is enjoyable and exciting most of the time."

"In order to start be-ing in the moment in a healthy, age-appropriate way it is necessary to heal our "inner child."  The inner child we need to heal is actually our "inner children" who have been running our lives because we have been unconsciously reacting to life out of the emotional wounds and attitudes, the old tapes, of our childhoods."