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This is the page of the Joy2MeU web site of codependency counselor, inner child healing pioneer, Spiritual teacher Robert Burney - who is the author of the Joyously inspirational book of Spirituality: Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls.

Working the Third Step
"When I was in treatment getting sober I was in a city I hadn't lived in for 20 years.  I had no car and was going to be living with my brother who lived on the outskirts of the city when I got out of treatment.  I was scared that I wasn't going to be able to make it to meetings and went in to talk to my counselor about it.  He said, "You ask for rides."  "Oh no," I said. "You don't understand I never ask anybody for anything."  "Well," he said, "that is what working the third step is all about."  "Asking for rides?!?!" I said incredulously.

I thought he was crazy.  How can asking for a ride be working the third step?

Well, it is.  I needed to learn to ask not only a God I didn't trust for help - but also to ask other people to help me.  That was horrible for me.  It seemed like such a huge risk.  If I asked people for help that would give them a chance to reject me - and I had had enough rejection in my life, thank you very much!

There was a story that I heard around that time.  It was about 2 guys who were arguing about rather there was a God or not.

The first one said, "Of course, there is a God.  How can you say there is no God."

The second said, "I not only can say it - I can prove it."

"You can prove it?"

 "Yes.  Years ago I was in a small plane crash in the wilds of Alaska.  I was the only survivor and I had a broken leg.  There was nothing around for hundreds of miles, so it was only a question of rather I would freeze to death before something ate me.  I prayed to God and said 'If there is a God please save me.'  And God didn't do anything."

"What do you mean," the first man exclaimed.  "You're here and alive aren't you."

"Oh, well some Eskimo came along and saved me.  God didn't do anything."

The point:  God works through people.  We all have had Eskimos in our lives, angels disguised as people.  We are not alone in this process - we can't do it alone.

So, I learned to ask for rides.  What I know now is that the Universe always responds - just not very often in the way, or at the time I think it is necessary.  I need to ask for help and then let go of rather the person I am asking can in fact help me.  I need to take the risk and let go of the outcome.   What I need will come from someplace.  There is a verse in the bible that says: (paraphrased??)

Ask and ye shall receive.
Seek and ye shall find.
Knock and the door shall be opened.
ASK.  By asking - either God or another person - I am setting energy in motion in the Universe.  Once the energy is in motion it comes back to me at some time from some place.  I have to put it out before it will come back.  What I sow I reap.  The Universes works on the principle of cause and effect.  It is very important for me to get proactive in my own life by taking the risk of asking for help - and it is much easier when I can let go of my picture of how, and when, that help is going to manifest." - The Miracle of The Twelve Step Recovery Process: 1, 2, 3, and a 1, 2, 3 - The first three steps
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"Made a decision to ask . . . .  The third step is about asking for help - about reaching out.  What I know now is that the Universe responds when we reach out.  What was so hard for me was learning to ask for help from people who might reject me.  What I know now is that it doesn't matter if the person who I ask can help me or not - what matters is that I reach out.  When I take a risk, make myself vulnerable by admitting that I can't do it alone - I am aligning with the Universal Laws of Cause and Effect - inhale and exhale." Joy to You & Me Newsletter IV - November-22-98
". . . . giving is an act of Love, is Honoring my True Self.  Opening to receive is also an Act of Love.  Asking for help and allowing someone else to give to me, is giving them the gift of allowing them to Honor and demonstrate Love for their True Self - and for the Truth that we are all ONE." - Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving
Asking for Help
"I first placed a Help page on my site in January of 2003 -  very reluctantly, and for what I thought was only going to be for a short period of time.  Each time I have had to ask for help, it has been with great reluctance and ego resistance - having to fight against the ego / critical parent messages that asking for help makes me a loser and a failure.  Later in 2003, when I was desperate to keep my book in print, I posted another page on which I discussed the importance of being open to receive and how my Spiritual Path had required me to learn that in opening up to receive I was actually giving others a chance to give / to contribute / to connect themselves energetically and Karmically to the Truth of the message of Joy and Love that is the essence of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls.
"In August of 2003 I posted this page as a way of working the third step and sending a request out into the Universe for help in keeping my book Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls in print. . . .  It has been miracles that allowed me to publish my book and to keep it in print - and this was one more time when The Universe miraculously manifested the support I needed to continue my work. . . . . If you haven't read this page I do think you will find it interesting in regard to the history of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls and the discussion of the metaphysical laws of giving and receiving.  I am very, very grateful for the Love Offerings that have made it possible to keep my book in print. ~ Robert 12/5/03" - Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving Donations to the Cause / Love Offerings / Spiritual Tithes
As I mention on that page, the reason I make so much information available on my web site for free is that carrying the message is my mission - is me doing what I need to do for my recovery and Spiritual Path.   In freely giving Love I not only open to Love flowing into my life, but I am also manifesting Love into the Collective Consciousness and reminding you of the Truth of who you really are."l- Leap of Faith ~ Publishing The Dance
Donations to the Cause / Love Offerings / Spiritual Tithes
"I freely share so much information on my site because - as I say in the article above - I believe it is my Karmic Mission in this lifetime.  I want to share the Joyous message and the precious information that I have discovered - and it is what I need to do for my Recovery and Spiritual Path.  It is not such a great strategy when it comes to finances however.;-)  So Donations to the Cause / Love Offerings / Spiritual Tithes are always appreciated if you feel my sharing has helped you in your Healing / Recovery process and on your Spiritual Path. If my writing has helped you remember Truth that brings you some Joy and inner peace, and your Spirit moves you to send some Love back my way - there are donation links here." - Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving
"The Metaphysical Law of Karma - of cause and effect / giving and receiving / what you sow you reap - is what governs this life experience we are having.   Giving and receiving are two parts of one dynamic - like breathing.  As a friend of mine who is a New Thought minister says, "to say giving is more Blessed than receiving is like saying exhaling is more Blessed than inhaling."  Just as breath needs to flow in and out, so too does energy need to flow." - Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving

My way in the past of keeping the energy flowing - by sending some Love energy and healing information back your way - has been to gift subscriptions to Dancing in the Light and to the Joy2MeU Journal for donations of a certain amount.   As of September 2011 I am also offering a free download of the digitally remastered MP3 files of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An audio Spiritual Experience": the download of the recording of my Intensive Training Day; a copy of my new book Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light  Book 1 Empowerment, Freedom, and Inner Peace through Inner Child Healing; and also a pdf e-book version of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls. I want the energy to flow both ways this year also - so will make the following donations to your cause in return for your donation to the Joy2MeU cause.  September 2012 I have now published Romantic Relationships ~ The Greatest Arena for Spiritual & Emotional Growth and will send a copy of it to anyone that donates $75 or more.

Anyone who makes a donation of $10 or more can choose between a subscription to the Joy2MeU Journal or the PDF e-book version of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls.

Anyone who makes a donation of $20 or more can choose between a subscription to the Dancing in Light pay to view section of the site or the PDF e-book version of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls.

Anyone who makes a donation of $35 or more can choose both subscriptions or choose between a subscriptions to the Joy2MeU Journal and the e-book or the Dancing in Light pay to view section of the site and the e-book or the digitally remastered MP3 files of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An audio Spiritual Experience".

People who donates $50 or more can have access to the two subscription areas - and the recording of my Intensive Training Day.

Anyone who makes a donation of $75 or more can choose either of my new books Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light or Romantic Relationships ~ The Greatest Arena for Spiritual & Emotional Growth or both the digitally remastered MP3 download of The Dance of Wounded Souls and the recording of my Intensive Training Day.  

Anyone that donates $100 or more can have access to the two subscription areas - and copies of all three of my books (or some other combination of your choice.)

Anyone that donates $125 or more is invited to come as my guest to one of my Intensive Training Day seminars (or some other combination of your choice.)

Anyone that donates $150 or more can choose some combination from the above.  

Click here for: Donations/Love Offerings/ Spiritual Tithes

If you would like to send a check, the address is PO Box 1028, Cambria CA 93428, or you can call me and leave a message at 805-900-5237 if you can help financially in some way.


One of the incredible Miracles on my Path

"By the later part of March (1995) I was in dire financial straights and very discouraged.  My credit cards were maxed out, my car needed some work, and I had borrowed money from a few people.  One Friday morning I woke from a dream seeing the image of a check in my hand.  I didn't remember the dream - just the image of a check.  It was for $5,104.68 or some such odd number.  I don't remember exactly.  I guess by that time I had figured out that I needed about $5000 to get even, get back to Taos, and get started back up there - with a place to live and all.

That afternoon I snapped.  I raged and cussed at God.  I yelled something to the affect, "You promised you would take care of me.  You blankety blank blank blank, how could you betray me like this.  I am just doing your will - doing what you told me to do.  Now I need $5000 just to get even and I still need $20,000 to publish the book."  And I cried quite a bit because I was really hurting - feeling abandoned and betrayed - and feeling like I had made a huge mistake.

The next afternoon there was a CoDA meeting - and one of the people who was doing a group with me called to ask if she could talk to me after the meeting.  I said sure - and then was hoping and praying that she would at least consider the time I would spend with her counseling and pay me the $25 I charged for a session in those days so I would be able to eat over the weekend.  That was how bad it was by then.

After the meeting we stepped outside into a little patio / smoking area, and she handed me an envelope.  I opened the envelope and was confused by what was in it.  It was a cashiers check and I had never seen one before.  It took me a few seconds just to figure out what it was.  As it started to sink in, I looked at the figure on the check - it was for $5,000.

The first thing I said was, "It's not for the right amount." - because it didn't match my dream.  Can you imagine being destitute, having someone hand you a cashiers check made out to you, and saying "it's not the right amount."  I think, it is safe to say, I was in shock." -  Leap of Faith ~ Publishing The Dance  This page tells the story of how I was able to publish Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls - and how I was lead by the Universe to let go of old programming so that I could surrender to asking for and receiving help.
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