New & News Page of Joy2MeU web site of Spiritual Teacher/codependency therapist

Joy to You & Me presents an Intensive Training in Robert Burney's
Spiritual Integration Formula for Inner Healing / Codependency Recovery / Inner Child Healing - on Zoom - an empowering and Life Changing experience Zoom Workshop

"Hello Robert,

I hope this finds you well. You and I had a few phone sessions over a year ago. Since that time, I have stopped drinking, focused on living in abundance and have allowed the universe to guide my life. That being said, my income has doubled and is still climbing, my relationship has improved, abundance has filled my life and I find that I am much happier person. I am more confident than I've ever been and am actually excited about the future. These days, I look forward to each day and all of the possibilities that are available to me.

I was compelled to send you a gift today to express my gratitude for being such a beacon of inspiration. I am grateful for you and the gifts you have enabled me to receive and I send you joy and blessings for being a such a spiritual being.

Joy, wisdom & harmony." - in response to page I posted for my 70th birthday on July 23rd, 2018.

"This is part of what makes codependency such a ridiculous, dysfunctional, tragicomedy. The character I was playing, my false self image, was not really false. It contained a great deal more Truth in relationship to who I really am - to my personality, my essential character in this lifetime - than falsehood. But I was incapable of seeing that because I was focused externally to keep from having to look at myself and admit how defective and shameful I felt." - Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in the Light  Book 2:  A Dysfunctional Relationship with Life Chapter 4: False Self Image  

June 3, 2011: Today is the 25th anniversary of my Codependency recovery.  Announcing a new CD set of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls with the digitally remastered sound quality and for the first time a recording of my Intensive Training Day Workshop is available as an mp3 download along with a 42 page pdf Companion Guide.

May 12, 2011: On Mother's Day I posted a page with a story I wrote in 2002 for my Mother on Mother's Day: The Baby Otter ~ A Mother's Day Story

January 12, 2011: Susan & I are getting married Friday!!! - I just posted my latest Update Newsletter with the news.  I also posted a special wedding offers page for my phone counseling, workshop and books for anyone who wants to show their support by buying something - and a Wedding Gifts Gratefully Accepted page for anyone that wants to send us a wedding gift.

August 14th, 2010: On what is the 22nd anniversary of a major milestone on my Spiritual Path I am posting links to two pages which recount some of the miracles that have been part of my recovery journey - both are excerpted from installments of the story of my Spiritual Path in the Joy2Me Journal.  The first is part of the Joy2MeU Update Newsletter for October 2005 simply title Miracles - and the second is the story of writing and publishing Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls Leap of Faith ~ Publishing The Dance (I share about August 14th 1988 in this story.)  It is important for me to remember the incredible miracles that have been part of my path whenever I am in a position where I am having to ask the Universe for help - for another miracle.

July 4th, 2010: I have added to the Intensive Testimonials page and announced a new date for an Intensive on January 2, 2011.  I have created a new special offer page that makes available a combination of a subscription to Dancing in Light (which includes 2 online books) and 3 copies of my Joyously inspirational Spiritual book Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls for anyone who wants to share my book with friends or donate a copy to the local library or whatever. I also added new links to the recommended Links page (also below) and updated some links on my Finding CoDA Meetings page including a new url for Bay Area CoDA and updates to my pages for North San Diego County CoDA and San Luis Obispo County CoDA.

June 15th, 2010: Yesterday I had a breakthrough about my relationship with my father that should help me open up to Love in a whole new way - I added some processing to this article I wrote 5 years ago: God the Father, and my father.   And I posted the latest batch of testimonials from people whose lives have been changed by my book, tapes, CDs, and website to the Testimonial page (some below.)

May 5th, 2010: I have posted a much overdue Update Newsletter May 2010 and a new page offering the Wounded Souls Trilogy.

February 21st, 2010: I have added the testimonials from February Intensive to the Intensive Testimonials page and am including a link here now to page I added last week after posting the announcement below - it is an excerpt of the section from the Darien page that shares the huge breakthrough Susan and I had in our relationship on a separate page: Valentine's Day 2010.

February 14th, 2010: I have added the latest pictures and stories about my precious step grandson and godson Darien - and added some new pictures of us to this New & news page (below.)  Also have added the latest batch of testimonials from people whose lives have been changed by my book, tapes, CDs, and website to the Testimonial page (some below.)

January 3rd, 2010: I added the testimonials from January Intensive to the Intensive Testimonials page and added a new page Working the Third Step as well as additional material to an existing page A Higher Power of my own understanding 2 - the beginning of empowerment to commemorate my 26th sobriety birthday today.

November 7th, 2009: I continued a process I started in February of removing blocking html code and updating copyright notice on my Update Newsletter pages (something I explained in my April 2009 Update which also includes the story of my April Fools Day lesson in falling in love and a report about attending the wedding of two people who announced at the reception that without doing my grief group together they wouldn't be getting married) - and am listing some of them here that have particularly interesting content:  Update Newsletter December 2003 I talk about how hard it can be to let go;  Update March 2004 - plus 2 additional pages - intense personal processing about learning to open to love and metaphysical aspects of the growth process;  August 2004 challenging the Universe to bring on whatever lessons I needed to learn to have a relationship;   December 2004 sharing my views Christmas, Jesus, and Christianity;   October 2005 includes The story of some incredible Miracles in my recovery;  January 2006 review of 2005, a year of huge change for me; March 2007 sharing about the Medicine Cards and Masculine & Feminine with an additional page of processing about my fear of intimacy; and April 2008 in which I talk about the kind of wounding and deprivation feelings that drive relationship addiction.

September 26th, 2009: Announcing  the official launch of CodependenceRecovery.com our eighth new website, a new article added to Joy2MeU Emotional Incest Issues (new to this site - was formerly available on another site), new dates in 2010 for Intensive Training Day workshops on February 20th and April 3rd.  Also the latest batch of testimonials from people whose lives have been changed by my book, tapes, CDs, and website to the Testimonial page (some below) - and the latest phone counseling testimonials on the Phone Counseling Testimonials page (some below.)

August 28th, 2009: The Joy2MeU Update Newsletter for August 2009 is now online (and includes latest addition to Darien page) and also the Joy2MeU Journal information page has been updated with a special offer for a subscription to The Joy2MeU Journal.

May 25th, 2009: A new website officially launched: HealYourInnerChild.com and on May 29th I will be doing an interview on the Monda Williams show on blogtalkradio.

April 8, 2009:  The latest Update Newsletter is now posted: Joy2MeU Update April 2009 with news of a workshop in Akron Ohio on May 9th and I have posted a new page dedicated to my precious step grandson and godson Darien.

February 3, 2009 New & news:  I just updated the copyright notice on 27 of my Update Newsletter pages - up through June 2003.  I also removed the code that blocked search engines from indexing those pages.  I had blocked them at the time because there was some very personal processing I was doing in some of those Newsletters.  There is some valuable sharing that I do in many of them that you might want to check out - especially: October 2000 + Part 2;  May 2001 + 3 newsletter pages;  January 2002 + 2 newsletter pages;  August 2002:   November 2002:   June 2003 + 2 newsletter pages. All of the Updates are listed at the bottom of the site index page and anyone who wanted to trace the evolution of this site - as well as my personal recovery process over those years - would find reading them through interesting and valuable.

January 4, 2009 New & news:  a new introduction to the Alcoholism and Twelve Step Recovery index page, a link to a radio interview I did on Dec. 30th, and a new picture of us at a Christmas party below.

November 8, 2008 New &  News:  Two new articles posted: The Law of Attraction - Misunderstood & Misinterpreted and The Metaphysics of Emotions - emotional energy is real.

October 30, 2008 New & News:  Announcing the launch of two new web sites: Robert Burney Live.com and Wounded Souls.com.  For the first time Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls is available in e-book form through the new sites - and a digitally remastered  MP3 download Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An Audio Spiritual Experience" is also available for the first time.  Also Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls is now available through Amazon.com Kindle books program.

"Thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing your gift with me! You explain it in such a way that it just kept going click, click, click! Wow! So helpful. It has changed my life and, in turn, my family's. Love!"

"A LITTLE OVER TWO YEARS AGO I STUMBLED ACROSS YOUR STUFF.. AND I WANT TO TELL YOU THAT YOU LITERALLY SAVED ME WITH YOUR WORK. YOUR WRITINGS WOKE ME UP TO A WHOLE NEW LIFE OF THINGS."

"Thank you Robert not only for assisting me in my healing. I have been reading and deep searching truth in your words for over 15 years. As a therapist I share your web site and words with others to help them understand their wounded hearts and souls.  Blessings to you"

"I read your 1st book many years ago..it gave me a great foundation..my healing path has involved working with my "inner children" they each have a name and represent an age group..I have re-parented them, I've connected them to Divine love..and I love that you say no matter how much work we do there are still buttons and sore points sometimes but can work thru them much faster! Thanks!!"

"Hi Robert, I've just finished reading your book and I have to tell you, it is absolutely brilliant and I have read so many books, but yours just struck a chord with me, ongoing to read it again"

"Love your work Robert. I completed your workbook over the holidays...spectacular!  It has really helped me in my personal growth. Keep going strong!"

"Your book is really special to me Robert, because apart from the CoDA big book it was the first book I bought in recovery! It created a huge shift in me...thank you."

"I purchased your Co-Dependence book "The Dance of Wounded Souls"... This is such an amazing book that will help millions of people that will pick it up and read it."

"This author and man is a Blessing in my life. His books and his sharing has been extremely helpful to all of us who take advantage by being connected to him on FB Facebook ... There is so much knowledge to learn to change the things we do who we are and the way we perceived our responses with reading his posts , on his website, as well as his books.... check out todays post from a past post. I can say it is one of those post that I know say so much to help all of us become better Human beings."

"Sure do appreciate your Emailed articles, & this Facebook page! You got some REALLY remarkable, HELPFUL ("practical"!) insights, & you are very gifted at expressing them! As I'm able, I'm gonna start "advertising" your Facebook page, as well as your website, to all the folks WHO ARE looking for MORE answers than "JUST not taking a drink/drug", here in Chattanooga, TN.!! (Am going to one of our CoDA mtgs, here in town, tonight... But I also got a "closed" CoDA Facebook group, that has quite a few (for Chattanooga) people in AA/NA recovery, that are ALSO INTERESTED in CoDA recovery!!! So, I'm glad I remembered your Facebook page, to share this with them!"

"Happy day, oh spiritual brother. Thank you for always leading the way, fearlessly, with such deep impact. The many who have experienced the blessings of your teaching, are forever changed. Live deep, live long."

"I recently read your book dance of the wounded soul it helped me so much I loved it!!"

"I just wanted to say thanks for writing your book 'dance of the wounded souls'. This book is just talking directly to me and is helping me so much every time i read it. It should be up there with the power of now and other similar books (maybe it is).  Anyway no need to reply as am sure you are very busy. Just wanted to express my gratitude"

"Thank you! I hope I will have the honor of meeting you in person one day! You truly are one of the reason I find my connection to Spirit once again! Much love."

"This book is worth its weight in gold"

"I want to thank you for the article on codependency I have just read on your website. It is so generous of you to put it out there and it had given me hope in my dealing with my subtly but exceedingly manipulative spouse....I wish you much success and I'm off to continue reading!"

"I am a big fan of your book! It helped me more than anything else when I was going through a really tough time. I have also given it to a couple of friends who appreciated it very much.  Thank your Robert for your unique insights and sharing them for our healing too"

"Hi Robert,  Thank you so much for helping me understand co dependency.  I have found it a difficult concept to grasp. My father was the alcoholic.  I have been going to Alanon for years which has  transformed my life.  I live in New Zealand.  If I was closer I would love to go to your workshops.  I cry when I read your work. It makes so much sense."

"I just wanted to express my gratitude for your work, as it has helped me immensely in the healing process. Thank you kindly for sharing all the insights and wisdom!"

"Simply thank You! Your work and words have been inspiration, hope, guideline, insight for over 10 years......and I always feel really good returning. That is a gift only few possess...... Your words ring true, then and now."

"Your books and website have helped this past year to be one of my best ever. Here's to even more inner child healing going forward."

"Thanks Robert, great inspiration to help us recover from great misconceptions. Thank you so much for sharing"

"Thanks for sharing your recovery and your life's path with all of us. You are such a gift to humanity! Please stay strong, stay well, stay blessed dear friend!"

"I found you first online years ago and I was helped so much by your writings and bought several copies of your wounded soul book and shared them around. Thankyou so much for your wisdom! "

"I want to share with you that your book and website writings gave me great comfort and courage during my graduate studies in counseling from 2007-2009. Though I have not heard your voice, you were there speaking to me when I felt like I was alone in all the world.  Thank you for being an empowering, inspirational teacher for me."

"Your book, Dance of Wounded Souls, has been a significant gift in my life. Thanks again!"

"Thank you for your strength and courage on your path and for sharing it with the world."

"The Dance of Wounded Souls is an exceptional book. It has helped me a lot. I've read it twice and will do so many more times."

Latest Phone Counseling Feedback (5-2-15) 

"Dearest Robert, do you remember me? We worked together in 2000? Its 15 years later and I am so much deeper into my relationship with my authentic self and my spiritual guidance. (always a journey). I am more of me now in the world. I thank you for being my first "spiritually based counselor". I look forward to our connection here. I hope you are well and thriving. Joy 2 U!"

"Wow I am so glad you remember me. I benefitted so much from the doorways you opened for me. Infact it feels like at least one of my inner children wants to leap out and say hi. anyway I was able to heal, love and integrate with a lot of my inner children over the years. and also help others like my husband and friends understand their pain from this perspective. Loving, healing, thriving are the words which come up. I really like your new website. I am so glad your healing offerings have resonated with so many people.""

"Robert, I am grateful for the work we are doing, because I know now I that I can cry for that little girl, and have been for quite some time now (even before I was conscious of it). And I know my heart is healing, my shame is being released, and my pain is subsiding because I am offering her the love and attention she wanted and needed but didn't receive. It's not always easy, but it is well worth my time and effort to help my little girl to heal. Thank you for supporting me through this process.  With deep and sincere gratitude"

You are the first therapist that is really helping me and a HUGE blessing in my life...THANK YOU!!!"

“Our sessions have been key in healing my broken heart and relationship with self. I enjoy our time immensely and your insights have given me wings to live.”Thank you for your words. I find myself looking forward to our conversations with happy anticipation knowing that I will encounter acceptance, insight and clarity.

Words cannot describe the importance of our time together.  it’s like I’ve been trapped in a dark, sad, internal dungeon and you, your teachings, and interaction with me have given me hope, answers, freedom, and lasting feelings of joy, happiness, and hope that I have not known before.  I must tell the world that great therapists are the real knights in shining armour not unrecovered codependents who wield guns and engage in physical combat like on television and the movies. :)"

"Thank you Robert. I am so very grateful for you and all the work you share and offer. We did phone sessions almost 5 years ago when my mother passed and I keep your words and guidance dear. My maternal grandmother just passed this week , so I look once to your "voice" and holding presence. God bless"

"Your books give me great hope and enlightenment.  They speak to me because our phone calls have prepared me to receive their messages of truth."

I.  Thou shalt not consort with people who make thee feel bad about thyself. 

Also includes: The Rules for Being Human and Risking. 

The Serenity Prayer for Codependents

"It is OK to be relaxed, playful, and frivolous" 

Some versions of the Serenity Prayer, a Personal Bill of Rights, Characteristics of Adults Shamed in Childhood, and some possible signs of Hidden Anger. 

Twisted Codependent thinking

1. All or nothing. Looking at things in absolute, black and white categories -"Either / or" thinking.