Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in the Light

Book 2: A Dysfunctional Relationship with Life

Chapter 5: Codependency = conditioned reactive programming

"Codependency is a conditioned reflex.  It is a form of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (Codependence as Delayed Stress Syndrome.)  It is an effect of brainwashing, a result of behavior modification.  Codependency is condition, or dis-ease, that is caused by environmental conditions and conditioning rather than a phenomena which is genetic or innate to human nature.  (Disease =  a disturbance in a natural process, an abnormal condition which disturbs normal organic structural integrity / process.)"

"The purpose of codependency recovery and inner child healing is to clear up our relationship with the horizontal - with self and how we relate to everything and everyone in our human environment - so that we can learn how to integrate the Spiritual into the physical and bring some balance and higher meaning to this human dance we are doing.  We are here in body at this time to manifest Love into this human experience.  We cannot do that without first learning how to access Love for our self.  In order to do that, it is necessary to awaken to how the environments we grew up in conditioned us to live life in a way that is dysfunctional in relationship to the Spiritual / vertical component of our being - in a way that does not work to help us reconnect with Love."

"A dog who was abused as a puppy will cringe and shrink back (somewhat similar to internal feeling which causes the classic codependent form of codependency) or snarl and bite (one of the counterdependent flavors of codependency) when anyone attempts to touch it.  This is a conditioned reflex.  This can be seen as the result of emotional abuse, but it is not the result of the animal having a damaged self image."

"A dog who was abused as a puppy can unlearn their conditioned reflexes by spending enough time in a safe and loving environment.  Although a safe and loving environment can be very valuable to a human being who is healing from their childhood wounding - the emotional trauma they experienced because of behavior modification experiences in early childhood - love from external sources is not enough to heal a person's relationship with self."

"Unfortunately, there are many people in twelve step programs who have not been willing to get emotionally honest with themselves - who are scared of feeling the feelings because they haven't changed the subconscious programming that keeps them in denial.  That denial and emotional dishonesty keeps them stuck in bondage to the ego's false self image.

One of the reasons that I feel compelled to keep writing more about this process is because there are so many wounded codependents out there who do not know how to do the integration and reprogramming work that will help them open up to Love.  Hopefully, some of the ways that I am explaining the wounding and recovery process in this online book will speak to some of those wounded codependents  - especially to all of the suffering codependents in Alcoholics Anonymous."

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Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in the Light

Book 2: A Dysfunctional Relationship with Life

Chapter 5: Codependency = conditioned reactive programming

By Robert Burney

Pavlov's Dog

Dr. Ivan Pavlov, a professor of physiology (the science of organic functions/processes,) won the Noble Prize in Medicine in 1904 for his study of the physiology of digestion.  His study of the physiological process of digestion in dogs led him to studying the link between digestion and the autonomic nervous system.  He found that he could train dogs to associate the ringing of a bell with food so that they would start salivating - which gave the stomach the message to start the digestive process - every time a bell would ring.  Thus the term "Pavlov's dog" entered language referring to conditioned reflexes that are learned as opposed to innate and natural.

The work of Dr. Pavlov formed the foundation for work of psychologist's such as B.F. Skinner, who studied and refined his theories and in the process founded the field of behavioral psychology.

This branch of psychology ignores the unconscious which traditional psychoanalysis focused upon, in favor of behavior modification.  Behavior modification uses positive or negative reinforcement to train animals or people to change their behavior into that which is more acceptable to whomever has power over that animal or person.

Behavior modification techniques are used extensively in institutions - prisons, mental hospitals, juvenile facilities - to control behavior and attempt to change behavior patterns.

Some years ago, I worked for a period of time in a Boys Home that employed behavior modification techniques.  As much as I needed the money at that time, I couldn't do the work for long (although long enough to be able to afford to buy my first computer.)  It broke my heart to see wounded boys being treated like animals who needed to be trained. . . . .

. . . . .  The main point I want to make in this chapter, is that codependency is an effect of behavior modification.

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Codependency = conditioned reactive programming

Awakening from the bondage of ego programming

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder / Brainwashing / Behavior Modification / Conditioned Reflex

relationships horizontal and vertical

Animals are trained - Human Beings are emotionally traumatized

Ego - consciousness of self

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