Announcing Robert Burney is not coming to the UK!
May 27th, 2017 - I have decided to cancel the planned trip to the UK for October.  As we were closing in on finalizing the plans for my trip there, a major change took place in my life as I got custody of my 12 year old grandson.  At first it wasn’t clear if he would be living with me in the fall or not, so I pushed the trip back from September to October based on the possibility that he would still be with me.  Since then it has become clear that he will be living with me - and that taking an 8 or 10 day trip to UK would present significant challenges in getting taking care of him during that time covered.  If we would have had people signing up for the retreat and putting down deposits in the over 2 weeks since we posted the page, that could have impacted this decision.  But since no one has signed up, it seems as if it is part of the Divine Plan to go ahead with the cancelation.

Hopefully we can make this trip to the UK happen at some point in the not too distant future.  Maybe even next summer and I can bring my grandson along with me.

Inner Child Healing / Codependency Recovery Pioneer and Spiritual Teacher Robert Burney is coming to the UK.
Experience an Intensive Training Weekend in Robert Burney's Spiritual Integration Formula for Inner Healing / Codependency Recovery / Inner Child Healing - An Empowering & Life Changing Retreat
Robert Burney is a writer, counselor, and Spiritual Teacher whose first book Codependence The Dance of Wounded Souls has been called "one of the truly transformational works of our time."
He is a pioneer in the inner child healing / codependency recovery movement and developed a pioneering holistic approach to codependency recovery - an inner child healing paradigm - that offers a powerful, life changing formula for integrating Love, Spiritual Truth, and intellectual knowledge of healthy behavior into one's emotional experience of life - a blueprint for individuals to transform their core relationship with self and life.

This blueprint can be invaluable to people just starting the recovery / healing / spiritual process / path, and is often the missing piece that people who have been healing /  recovering / on a spiritual path for decades have been seeking.  What is unique about the approach is that all of the tools are brought together in a focused system for achieving integration and balance - and even someone who has a very good therapist (or is a very good therapist) right now, can still find it very beneficial to learn this blueprint.
The Weekend of October 6th to 8th Robert will be offering a retreat at the STANDLAKE INNER HEALING RANCH
Standlake Ranch, Downs Road, Standlake, Oxfordshire, OX29 7UH
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Standlake Ranch is a Residential Holiday Ranch, Healing Retreat and Conference Centre overlooking a lake and Island that is situated on the edge of the Cotswolds 15 miles South of West Oxford and 4.5 miles South of Witney.

Driving Directions to Standlake Ranch
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We are pleased to announce that we will be hosting the Retreat during the weekend of 6th to 8th of October 2017 at Standlake Ranch in Oxfordshire.  We will be welcoming you after 5 pm on Friday 6th of October and we will bring the retreat to a close by 4 pm on Sunday October 8th.  We have worked very hard to find Retreat premises that were reasonably central but also affordable and relaxing.  Standlake Ranch is a beautiful healing retreat at the heart of Oxfordshire which overlooks a picturesque lake and is surrounded by 20 acres of woodland.  Facilities include Conference facilities, dining room and kitchen, plus 10 twin or family rooms with single beds and 2 dormitories decorated to a Western theme.

For the people who choose the dormitory style rooms the retreat will cost £200 per person full board for the weekend.  However we have an early bird offer of £170 if 50% of your deposit is paid by 31st of May.  For people who want an individual shared room the retreat will cost £250 per person - where some rooms have lake views, ensuite baths/showers - these will be on a first come first served basis.  The early bird offer will be £200 for these rooms.  People who do not want to share a room can book themselves a room at a local bed and breakfast and will be charged £150 full board for the weekend with an early bird price of £130.  Once the early bird deposit is paid you will be emailed a registration form with questions about dietary needs, transportation needs, roomate requests, etc.  Full amount must be paid by 31st of July.
For information call Rachel at  44 07957740037 or email
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One person in shared room is £250
Early Bird Price is £200
1/2 price Deposit for 1 person in shared room £100

 Two people in shared room are £250 per person
Early Bird Price is £200 per person
1/2 price Deposit for 2 people in shared room £200

Early Bird Price is available to anyone who
pays 1/2 of early bird price by May 31st.  
The remainder is due by July 31st.
One person in the Dormitory is £200 each
Early Bird Price is £170
1/2 price Deposit for 1 person in Dormitory £85
Anyone staying elsewhere £150
Early Bird Price is £130
1/2 price Deposit for 1 person for Retreat and board £65
Deposit is refundable if Robert's trip is canceled for any reason.  It is non refundable if the trip does happen - but can be used for one of the other appearances Robert will be doing while in UK or can be used in exchange for books, MP3 audios, phone / Skype counseling or subscription areas of Joy2MeU website.

 In addition to the weekend Retreat, Robert be offering his Day Long Intensive Training on either the Saturday prior or after the Retreat Weekend - and will be offering the same Training over 2 evenings at a location in London during the week he is in the UK.
As soon as enough money has been raised to cover the deposit for the retreat venue and to make it possible to make deposits on the other venues these will be scheduled and announced.

"Robert Burney's training day was so inspirational and enlightening.  He was loving and warm and presented profound life changing material in a very not intimidating way.  Magical!"

"My life has been much better since I went to your seminar."

"Brilliant.  Liberating.  So profound it is sometimes ! hilarious  I feel you completely get the dynamics of the human experience and the truth you teach can set people free."

"Robert is a very , compassionate intuitive, and intelligent soul who shares his insights to you in such a clear, fun, and poignant way that your life will be forever changed."

"I found this session to be very useful in seeing the what & the why of "my" reality.  The understanding I have gained gives me hope in my future.  This has been the greatest gift I have ever given myself."

Joy to You & Me Presents a Life Changing Workshop / Retreat:

A Weekend Long Intensive Training in Robert Burney's
Spiritual Integration Formula for Inner Healing

"The approach that I discovered in my personal recovery - and developed in my work with others - is the missing integration formula that people in recovery, on a healing / spiritual path, have been seeking for years.  We can have lots of intellectual knowledge of what constitutes healthy behavior, and multiple spiritual experiences, but until we can integrate knowing / Knowing into our emotional relationship with self and life it is not possible to fundamentally change our behavior patterns - especially, and most importantly, our behavior patterns in intimate relationships.

There are many teachers, books, etc., these days that will tell you that the goal is to learn to Love your self - but no one really tells you how to do that. That is what the approach to inner healing - that I have been gifted with developing - facilitates. . . . . .

 . . . . This work can empower you to not only to find inner peace / stop the war within - to learn to "be" present for your life journey today with the capacity to be happy, Joyous, and free in the moment - but is also the key to healing your fear of intimacy enough to learn how to open up to Love and be healthier in a romantic relationship." - Joy2MeU Update Newsletter March 2006

"What is so valuable, what I believe is unique, about the approach to inner child healing that I have been guided to develop and refine, is that it provides a formula for integrating Spiritual Truth and intellectual knowledge of healthy behavior into one's emotional relationship with life.

It does not matter how much Spiritual Truth, how many mystical experiences of oneness, how in tune with Love, you can feel in certain moments - if you cannot integrate it into your life in a way which changes your emotional experience of life on a moment to moment, day to day basis.  You can go to therapy for many years, read all the Spiritual and self help books, go to workshops and seminars and lectures - compile encyclopedic intellectual knowledge of what healthy behavior is - and still be reacting to old wounds in the relationships that mean the most to you.

The missing ingredient for so many people who have been seeking for many years, is how to integrate what you know into how you feel about your experience life.  That is what I teach people - because it is what I have spent many years learning." - Co-Creation: Owning your Power to Manifest Love

Intensive Training 
with Spiritual Teacher, inner child healing pioneer 
Robert Burney
author of 
Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls

"This dance of Codependence is a dance of dysfunctional relationships - of relationships that do not work to meet our needs.  That does not mean just romantic relationships, or family relationships, or even human relationships in general.

The fact that dysfunction exists in our romantic, family, and human relationships is a symptom of the dysfunction that exists in our relationship with life - with being human.  It is a symptom of the dysfunction which exists in our relationships with ourselves as human beings.

And the dysfunction that exists in our relationship with ourselves is a symptom of Spiritual dis-ease, of not being in balance and harmony with the universe, of feeling disconnected from our Spiritual source." - Quotes in this color are from Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls

"I have been telling anyone who will listen about you and your work because it is literally saving my life and I feel it could help millions get well." 

"Your writing is more insightful and instructive for change than Bradshaw and Melody Beattie of codependence no more.  Pia Melody's pretty good but you're more broad thinking in concepts and more compassionate too.  I have been in therapy since I was 19, I'm 48 and am just learning  about boundaries and not from the help of my therapist unfortunately.  She knows inner child work but not how boundaries directly relate to it.  Your work has been an invaluable resource as I read it tonight."

"I read thru much of your website and I am very inspired by it.  I have been feeling that something is missing from the 12-step CoDA meetings and now I know it is true."

"Your work is brilliant and from what I've read on your website I am just utterly blown away by this material.   It's like finally someone has put this mess of codependance into perspective so it can be healed!"

"You have taken inner child healing to a new level. In your brilliantly written book you explain the missing pieces of the puzzle in a way that is amazingly simple and understandable."

"I have been one of the lucky people to read your sensational book! . . . This book is truly a masterpiece. . . Wouldn't it be great if every living being on the planet read this book? Global transformation!"

To see more feedback go to Testimonials and/or Phone Counseling Testimonials.

Weekend Long Intensive Training Retreat

Friday October 6th to Sunday October 8th
 Standlake Ranch
Downs Road, Standlake
Oxfordshire, OX29 7UH

Some of the comments from participants in Robert's Workshop to date:
"I believe you've assembled all of the major pieces of "the puzzle of Recovery" with your work (in a way that has never been done before)."

"Robert, Your seminar on codependence was awesome. Your practical techniques for dealing with this disease are incredibly simple and incredibly effective."

"You can intellectually understand key points by reading his book, but the training allowed me to really internalize it.  It's like the difference between learning how to fly an airplane by reading a book vs. actually getting in the plane."

"This training is not only a clear nuts and bolts approach to recovery, but likely a key insight into the next revolutionary model of recovery.  I feel as if I have a much clearer map."

"Robert Burney's training day was so inspirational and enlightening.  He was loving and warm and presented profound life changing material in a very not intimidating way.  Magical!"

"Exceptionally understandable; very clear.  This was LIFE Changing - I am so thankful.  I would Absolutely recommend it."

"It was very empowering, uplifting and gave me new hope.  The information was invaluable."

"I really enjoyed Robert Burney's Intensive Training on inner child work. . .  I had many revelations about my inner child and how I can reparent and stop the critical parent that has followed me my whole life. . . Thank you so much Robert.  You are a truly unforgetable person. So glad I said yes to attending."

For more see Testimonials for the Intensive  (Updated 2/27/17)

Spiritual Integration & Emotional Balance thru Internal Boundaries

An Interactive Training Workshop with
Robert Burney MA
author of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls

"Love is a verb - it needs to be manifested in action not just contemplated intellectually.  You can not learn to Love yourself - or be capable of having healthier relationships - without taking action to change your core / foundation relationship with self and life into one that is more aligned with Love.  This inner child healing work is an effective and powerful formula that allows you to learn:  to be more Loving to self;  to gain some freedom from the past;  to develop inner peace and serenity;  to own your response-ability as co-creator of your life so that you can become a positive co-creator instead of negative (learn to be your own best friend instead of your own worst enemy);  to start relaxing and being present for your life in a way that creates a more balanced and enjoyable experience.  I highly recommend it." - Inner Child Healing = a path to freedom, serenity, and empowerment

The approach to healing shared in this Training Day is one which has evolved in my personal recovery over the past 22 years and in my therapy practice over the past 16 years.  I have been guided to develop an approach to inner child healing that offers a powerful, life-changing formula for integrating Love, Spiritual Truth, and intellectual knowledge of healthy behavior into one's emotional experience of life - a blueprint for individuals to transform their core relationship with self and life.

My work is firmly grounded on twelve step recovery principles and emotional energy release / grief process therapy.   I specialize in teaching individuals how to become empowered to have internal boundaries so they can learn to relax and enjoy life in the moment while healing.  It is the unique approach and application of the concept of internal boundaries, coupled with a Loving Spiritual belief system, that make the work so innovative and effective.

My belief is that we are Spiritual Beings having a human experience and that the key to healing and Spiritual Awakening (and integrating Spiritual Truth into our emotional experience of life) is reprograming our dysfunctional ego defenses while striving for emotional honesty through grief processing and inner child work.  It is not necessary to agree with my Spiritual beliefs to apply the approach I developed to help you transform your experience of life into an easier, more Loving and enjoyable journey.  I consider spirituality to be a word that describes one's relationship with life - and anyone, regardless of religious belief or lack of it (who is not completely closed minded), can benefit from doing this work.

It is possible to feel the feelings without being the victim of them or victimizing other's with them.  It is possible to change the way you think so that your mind is no longer your worst enemy.  It is possible to become empowered to have choices in life at the same time you are letting go of trying to control things which you do not have the power to control.  Life can be an exciting, enjoyable adventure if you stop reacting to it out of your childhood emotional wounds and attitudes.

Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls has been called "one of the truly transformational works of our time" - and it's author Robert Burney referred to as "a metaphysical Stephen Hawking."  A counselor/coach and Spiritual Teacher whose work has been compared to John Bradshaw's "except much more spiritual" and described as "taking inner child healing to a new level" - Robert in his book combines Twelve Step Recovery Principles, Metaphysical Truth, and Native American Spirituality with quantum physics and molecular biology in presenting his belief that we are all connected, we are all extensions of the Divine, and that ultimately Love is our True essence.

"The point that I am making is that our understanding of Codependence has evolved to realizing that this is not just about some dysfunctional families, our very role models, our prototypes, are dysfunctional. Our traditional cultural concepts of what a man is, of what a woman is, are twisted, distorted, almost comically bloated stereotypes of what masculine and feminine really are."

"It is necessary to own and honor the child who we were in order to Love the person we are. And the only way to do that is to own that child's experiences, honor that child's feelings, and release the emotional grief energy that we are still carrying around."

"We are transcendent Spiritual Beings who are part of the ONENESS that is the God-Force. We always have been and always will be. We are perfect in our Spiritual Essence. We are perfectly where we are supposed to be on our Spiritual Path. And from a human perspective we will never be able to do "human" perfectly - which is perfect.  We have been trying to do human perfect according to a false belief system in order to get Spiritual. It does not work. It's dysfunctional."

"It was vitally important for me to learn how to have internal boundaries so that I could lovingly parent (which, of course, includes setting boundaries for) my inner children, tell the critical parent/disease voice to shut up, and start accessing the emotional energy of Truth, Beauty, Joy, Light, and Love.  It was by learning internal boundaries that I could begin to achieve some integration and balance in my life, and transform my experience of life into an adventure that is enjoyable and exciting most of the time."

"In order to start be-ing in the moment in a healthy, age-appropriate way it is necessary to heal our "inner child."  The inner child we need to heal is actually our "inner children" who have been running our lives because we have been unconsciously reacting to life out of the emotional wounds and attitudes, the old tapes, of our childhoods."

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