Abundant Spirituality + codependency recovery + inner child healing + Love = Joy2MeULogo of Joy to You & Me Enterprises, publisher of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls Joy2MeU Home Page
This is the page of the Joy2MeU web site of codependency counselor, inner child healing pioneer, Spiritual teacher Robert Burney - who is the author of the Joyously inspirational book of Spirituality: Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls.
To commemorate my 28th sobriety birthday on January 3rd, 2012 I originally shared some thoughts on this page - but have since moved them to my Update Newsletter for February 2012.
Working the Third Step
"When I was in treatment getting sober I was in a city I hadn't lived in for 20 years.  I had no car and was going to be living with my brother who lived on the outskirts of the city when I got out of treatment.  I was scared that I wasn't going to be able to make it to meetings and went in to talk to my counselor about it.  He said, "You ask for rides."  "Oh no," I said. "You don't understand I never ask anybody for anything."  "Well," he said, "that is what working the third step is all about."  "Asking for rides?!?!" I said incredulously.

I thought he was crazy.  How can asking for a ride be working the third step?

Well, it is.  I needed to learn to ask not only a God I didn't trust for help - but also to ask other people to help me.  That was horrible for me.  It seemed like such a huge risk.  If I asked people for help that would give them a chance to reject me - and I had had enough rejection in my life, thank you very much!

There was a story that I heard around that time.  It was about 2 guys who were arguing about rather there was a God or not.

The first one said, "Of course, there is a God.  How can you say there is no God."

The second said, "I not only can say it - I can prove it."

"You can prove it?"

 "Yes.  Years ago I was in a small plane crash in the wilds of Alaska.  I was the only survivor and I had a broken leg.  There was nothing around for hundreds of miles, so it was only a question of rather I would freeze to death before something ate me.  I prayed to God and said 'If there is a God please save me.'  And God didn't do anything."

"What do you mean," the first man exclaimed.  "You're here and alive aren't you."

"Oh, well some Eskimo came along and saved me.  God didn't do anything."

The point:  God works through people.  We all have had Eskimos in our lives, angels disguised as people.  We are not alone in this process - we can't do it alone.

So, I learned to ask for rides.  What I know now is that the Universe always responds - just not very often in the way, or at the time I think it is necessary.  I need to ask for help and then let go of rather the person I am asking can in fact help me.  I need to take the risk and let go of the outcome.   What I need will come from someplace.  There is a verse in the bible that says: (paraphrased??)

Ask and ye shall receive.
Seek and ye shall find.
Knock and the door shall be opened.
ASK.  By asking - either God or another person - I am setting energy in motion in the Universe.  Once the energy is in motion it comes back to me at some time from some place.  I have to put it out before it will come back.  What I sow I reap.  The Universes works on the principle of cause and effect.  It is very important for me to get proactive in my own life by taking the risk of asking for help - and it is much easier when I can let go of my picture of how, and when, that help is going to manifest." - The Miracle of The Twelve Step Recovery Process: 1, 2, 3, and a 1, 2, 3 - The first three steps

"I freely share so much information on my site because . . . I believe it is my Karmic Mission in this lifetime.  I want to share the Joyous message and the precious information that I have discovered - and it is what I need to do for my Recovery and Spiritual Path.  It is not such a great strategy when it comes to finances however.;-)  So Donations to the Cause / Love Offerings / Spiritual Tithes are always appreciated if you feel my sharing has helped you in your Healing / Recovery process and on your Spiritual Path. If my writing has helped you remember Truth that brings you some Joy and inner peace, and your Spirit moves you to send some Love back my way . . . . - Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving - Donations to the Cause / Love Offerings / Spiritual Tithes
Donations to the Cause / Love Offerings / Spiritual Tithes

"The Metaphysical Law of Karma - of cause and effect / giving and receiving / what you sow you reap - is what governs this life experience we are having.   Giving and receiving are two parts of one dynamic - like breathing.  As a friend of mine who is a New Thought minister says, "to say giving is more Blessed than receiving is like saying exhaling is more Blessed than inhaling."  Just as breath needs to flow in and out, so too does energy need to flow . . ." - Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving

My way in the past of keeping the energy flowing - by sending some Love energy and healing information back your way - has been to gift subscriptions to Dancing in the Light and to the Joy2MeU Journal for donations of a certain amount.   As of September 2011 I am also offering a free download of the digitally remastered MP3 files of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An audio Spiritual Experience": the download of the recording of my Intensive Training Day; a copy of my new book Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light  Book 1 Empowerment, Freedom, and Inner Peace through Inner Child Healing; and
and also a pdf e-book version of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls. I want the energy to flow both ways this year also - so will make the following donations to your cause in return for your donation to the Joy2MeU cause.

Anyone who makes a donation of $10 or more can choose between a subscription to the Joy2MeU Journal or the pdf e-book version of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls.

Anyone who makes a donation of $20 or more can choose between a subscription to the Dancing in Light pay to view section of the site or the e-book version of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls.

Anyone who makes a donation of $35 or more can choose between a subscriptions to the Joy2MeU Journal and the e-book or the Dancing in Light pay to view section of the site and the e-book or the digitally remastered MP3 files or CDs of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An audio Spiritual Experience"

People who donates $50 or more, can choose between subscriptions to both the Journal and Dancing sections - or my new book Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light or the e-book and the digitally remastered MP3 download or CDs.  Or some such combination thereof.

Anyone who makes a donation of $75 or more can choose subscriptions to the Joy2MeU Journal and the Dancing in Light pay to view section of the site and either the digitally remastered MP3 files of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An audio Spiritual Experience" or my new book.

Anyone that donates $100 or more can have access to the two subscription areas - and the recording of my Intensive Training Day.

Anyone that donates $125 or more is invited to come as my guest to one of my Intensive Training Day seminars in San Diego.

Anyone that donates $150 or more can choose some combination from the above.  

If you would like to send a check, the address is PO Box 235401, Encinitas CA 92023, or you can call me and leave a message at 760-230-1821 if you can help financially in some way.
It is also possible to use PayPal to make a donation by clicking this button: 

One of the incredible Miracles on my Path

"By the later part of March (1995) I was in dire financial straights and very discouraged.  My credit cards were maxed out, my car needed some work, and I had borrowed money from a few people.  One Friday morning I woke from a dream seeing the image of a check in my hand.  I didn't remember the dream - just the image of a check.  It was for $5,104.68 or some such odd number.  I don't remember exactly.  I guess by that time I had figured out that I needed about $5000 to get even, get back to Taos, and get started back up there - with a place to live and all.

That afternoon I snapped.  I raged and cussed at God.  I yelled something to the affect, "You promised you would take care of me.  You blankety blank blank blank, how could you betray me like this.  I am just doing your will - doing what you told me to do.  Now I need $5000 just to get even and I still need $20,000 to publish the book."  And I cried quite a bit because I was really hurting - feeling abandoned and betrayed - and feeling like I had made a huge mistake.

The next afternoon there was a CoDA meeting - and one of the people who was doing a group with me called to ask if she could talk to me after the meeting.  I said sure - and then was hoping and praying that she would at least consider the time I would spend with her counseling and pay me the $25 I charged for a session in those days so I would be able to eat over the weekend.  That was how bad it was by then.

After the meeting we stepped outside into a little patio / smoking area, and she handed me an envelope.  I opened the envelope and was confused by what was in it.  It was a cashiers check and I had never seen one before.  It took me a few seconds just to figure out what it was.  As it started to sink in, I looked at the figure on the check - it was for $5,000.

The first thing I said was, "It's not for the right amount." - because it didn't match my dream.  Can you imagine being destitute, having someone hand you a cashiers check made out to you, and saying "it's not the right amount."  I think, it is safe to say, I was in shock." -  Leap of Faith ~ Publishing The Dance  This page tells the story of how I was able to publish Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls - and how I was lead by the Universe to let go of old programming so that I could surrender to asking for and receiving help.


A few days before my birthday in July I added an announcement about the publication of my new book to this page - I have since moved it to my Joy2MeU Update Newsletter for 2012.
On September 5, 2011 I added this to my Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving page.
 
September 2011

I was able to keep my book in print in 2003 and in the years since then through miracles and donations to Joy2MeU.  In 2008 I had to reprint my book again - and was able to, right before the economy crashed.

"I posted that article (the one I mention just above about "Leap of Faith ~ Publishing The Dance") as part of sending out a request for donations to help keep my book in print one more time.  The combination of not getting nearly as many donations as I had hoped, and the printing company printing a large print run without getting my final approval, put us in a real hard financial place that September.  Then the bottom fell out of the economy shortly after that." - Joy2MeU Update Newsletter May 2010
Since the recession hit, things have been very difficult.  Anyone who is interested in finding out the details can check out Asking for Help 2010 or my messages to my Yahoo Mailing list (for the most recent developments.)  This year I have made a concerted effort to create more cash flow by making more products available.  Each of these new products I thought was going to bring a significant increase in income (just as I thought all those years ago that Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls would become a best seller.)  The results have been very disappointing.  I now have a recording of my Intensive Training Day available - something people have been asking for for years - and I have only sold a few of them.  I have produced CDs of the digitally remastered version of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls An Audio Spiritual Experience - and now I can't afford to burn more copies to sell.  I was finally able to publish Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light  Book 1 Empowerment, Freedom, and Inner Peace through Inner Child Healing - and have sold less than 2 dozen copies.  I will be needing to reprint The Dance of Wounded Souls again before the year is over - but don't have the money I need to do that either.

So maybe it is this year - 2011 - that the book goes out of print and I can't keep my website going any longer.  I hope not - but as I said above, I can accept whatever the plan is as it is revealed.  The economy seems to be getting worse, so more will be revealed about what is going to happen.

Love offerings and Spiritual tithes are always welcome and very much appreciated.  I appreciate that you have even read this page - and if your Spirit moves you to send some money energy this way, I will be very grateful. ~  Robert 9/5/11

On December 24, 2011 I added this to my Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving page.
December 2011

My book is being reprinted as a print on demand book through Amazon.com's CreateSpage service - the same way I was able to print my second book this past summer.  This is a real blessing that was made possible by my friend Ken T. of North Carolina who put up the money to get the process started.  It will ultimately mean somewhat of a decrease in my monthly income of the books I sell through Amazon, because now I will be buying the book from CreateSpace to sell through Amazon but is so much better than the alternative which was to raise thousands of dollars to reprint the book myself.  Today, on Christmas Eve, I got notice from CreateSpace that I will get a proof copy of the new printing of the book in about a week - so I should have it available in early January.  Once again the Universe has manifested a way to keep my book in print - and this time it is in print indefinitely.  I am very grateful and blessed. ~  Robert 12/24/11

Donations to the Cause / Love Offerings / Spiritual Tithes 

"The Metaphysical Law of Karma - of cause and effect / giving and receiving / what you sow you reap - is what governs this life experience we are having.   Giving and receiving are two parts of one dynamic - like breathing.  As a friend of mine who is a New Thought minister says, "to say giving is more Blessed than receiving is like saying exhaling is more Blessed than inhaling."  Just as breath needs to flow in and out, so too does energy need to flow . . ." - Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving
My way in the past of keeping the energy flowing - by sending some Love energy and healing information back your way - has been to gift subscriptions to Dancing in the Light and to the Joy2MeU Journal for donations of a certain amount.   As of September 2011 I am also offering a free download of the digitally remastered MP3 files of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An audio Spiritual Experience": the download of the recording of my Intensive Training Day; a copy of my new book Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light  Book 1 Empowerment, Freedom, and Inner Peace through Inner Child Healing; and also a pdf e-book version of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls. I want the energy to flow both ways this year also - so will make the following donations to your cause in return for your donation to the Joy2MeU cause.
Anyone who makes a donation of $10 or more can choose between a subscription to the Joy2MeU Journal or the e-book version of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls.
Anyone who makes a donation of $20 or more can choose between a subscription to the Dancing in Light pay to view section of the site or the e-book version of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Soul
Anyone who makes a donation of $35 or more can choose between a subscriptions to the Joy2MeU Journal and the e-book or the Dancing in Light pay to view section of the site and the e-book or the digitally remastered MP3 files or CDs of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An audio Spiritual Experience"

People who donates $50 or more, can choose between subscriptions to both the Journal and Dancing sections - or my new book Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light or the e-book and the digitally remastered MP3 download or CDs.  Or some such combination thereof.

Anyone who makes a donation of $75 or more can choose subscriptions to the Joy2MeU Journal and the Dancing in Light pay to view section of the site and either the digitally remastered MP3 files or CDs of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An audio Spiritual Experience" or my new book.
Anyone that donates $100 or more can have access to the two subscription areas - and the recording of my Intensive Training Day.

Anyone that donates $125 or more is invited to come as my guest to one of my Intensive Training Day seminars in San Diego.

Anyone that donates $150 or more can choose some combination from the above.
If you would like to send a check, the address is PO Box 235401, Encinitas CA 92023, or you can call me and leave a message at 760-230-1821 if you can help financially in some way.
It is also possible to use PayPal to make a donation by clicking this button: 


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