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Joy2MeU Home Page This is the page of the Joy2MeU web site of codependency counselor, inner child healing pioneer, Spiritual teacher Robert Burney - who is the author of the Joyously inspirational book of Spirituality: Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls.
Hello to any Eskimos who may read this,"When I was in treatment getting sober I was in a city I hadn't lived in for 20 years. I had no car and was going to be living with my brother who lived on the outskirts of the city when I got out of treatment. I was scared that I wasn't going to be able to make it to meetings and went in to talk to my counselor about it. He said, "You ask for rides." "Oh no," I said. "You don't understand I never ask anybody for anything." "Well," he said, "that is what working the third step is all about." "Asking for rides?!?!" I said incredulously.I thought he was crazy. How can asking for a ride be working the third step?
Well, it is. I needed to learn to ask not only a God I didn't trust for help - but also to ask other people to help me. That was horrible for me. It seemed like such a huge risk. If I asked people for help that would give them a chance to reject me - and I had had enough rejection in my life, thank you very much!
There was a story that I heard around that time. It was about 2 guys who were arguing about rather there was a God or not.
The first one said, "Of course, there is a God. How can you say there is no God."The point: God works through people. We all have had Eskimos in our lives, angels disguised as people. We are not alone in this process - we can't do it alone.The second said, "I not only can say it - I can prove it."
"You can prove it?"
"Yes. Years ago I was in a small plane crash in the wilds of Alaska. I was the only survivor and I had a broken leg. There was nothing around for hundreds of miles, so it was only a question of rather I would freeze to death before something ate me. I prayed to God and said 'If there is a God please save me.' And God didn't do anything."
"What do you mean," the first man exclaimed. "You're here and alive aren't you."
"Oh, well some Eskimo came along and saved me. God didn't do anything."
So, I learned to ask for rides. What I know now is that the Universe always responds - just not very often in the way, or at the time I think it is necessary. I need to ask for help and then let go of rather the person I am asking can in fact help me. I need to take the risk and let go of the outcome. What I need will come from someplace. There is a verse in the bible that says: (paraphrased??)
Ask and ye shall receive.ASK. By asking - either God or another person - I am setting energy in motion in the Universe. Once the energy is in motion it comes back to me at some time from some place. I have to put it out before it will come back. What I sow I reap. The Universes works on the principle of cause and effect. It is very important for me to get proactive in my own life by taking the risk of asking for help - and it is much easier when I can let go of my picture of how, and when, that help is going to manifest." - The Miracle of The Twelve Step Recovery Process: 1, 2, 3, and a 1, 2, 3 - The first three steps
Seek and ye shall find.
Knock and the door shall be opened.
I am posting this page on January 3rd, 2010 as a way of honoring that today is my 26th sobriety birthday. 26 years clean and sober - an incredible miracle. As one way of commemorating this anniversary, I have added some quotes about what my recovery means to me to an article in which I share about early recovery.7/14/10 Another milestone approaching, my 62nd birthday on July 23rd. Sigh. And as of today I am not sure if I can keep the utilities all on by then, let alone do anything to celebrate. As I mentioned in my last Update, things got different and more complicated in our lives recently.
"I feel that my life Truly began on January 3rd, 1984. That was the day I entered a chemical dependency treatment center (aptly called the Independence Center) and started to learn how to live life clean and sober." - A Higher Power of my own understanding 2 - the beginning of empowermentAs another way of honoring the blessed gift that my recovery has been in my life, I am posting this page for anyone whose Spirit moves them to align with, and energetically connect to, the Karmic Settlement and Positive energy associated with the message of Truth and Love I share. I have been told repeatedly, and insistently, by marketing type people that it is insane for me to provide so much free information (over 200 content pages) on my website. And it is a very poor marketing strategy - but my spiritual path is not about making money. I stated the following on one of my pages back in 2001 - and it is much more True today in 2010:
"This particular quote from my book refers to the Hundredth Monkey Principle, which I explain in the excerpt from my book that I share on that page. Imo is the name of the monkey who created the new aspect of consciousness for the rest of the monkeys of her species. My mission in this lifetime has been to be one of the "Imo"s in the Transformational Healing Process that has begun on planet Earth. The reason that I was chosen for, and chose, this particular mission was because of the Karma I needed to settle. . . . .On my Spiritual Tithes page I talk about how twelve step recovery and working the third step is a way of aligning with Metaphysical Law.
Rather my book is ever a best seller or not, rather it ever even goes into a second printing, does not matter. If I never have more money than just what I need to pay the rent and keep on living one day at a time, is not important. I have already been wildly successful in my mission. My work and my book have been instrumental in creating a new level of understanding in the Collective Human Consciousness. I have contributed to a paradigm shift that helps others to see Truth with more clarity. I have accomplished my mission of reminding others that they can remember the Truth of Love just as I have been led to do - even if I die tomorrow." - Future Publications
"In twelve step recovery I learned that being willing to ask for help was necessary for me to learn and grow. And that by asking for help, I was giving another person an opportunity to be of service - so that by being open to receive help, I was actually giving them the opportunity to give to me.So, as I begin my 27th year of recovery, I am posting this page for anyone who wants to align with Metaphysical Law by expressing your gratitude for any help you may have received from the way I share what I have learned and experienced on my Spiritual Path / in my Recovery Adventure. As I say in the quote from the Spiritual Tithes / Love Offering / Donations page on the top of this page, "If my writing has helped you remember Truth that brings you some Joy and inner peace, and your Spirit moves you to send some Love back my way" - I will be more than happy to receive any Love you want to send me.;-) ~ Robert 1/3/2010In recovery I learned that in giving - sharing my experience, strength, and hope - I received the gift of being able to stay sober one day at a time. It was working a twelve step program that taught me that by giving I was receiving - that giving worked to make my life better.
I did not realize then that I was aligning with Metaphysical Law, I just discovered that being of service and asking for help were part of a formula that allowed me to escape from the hell my life had been before I got into recovery. Twelve step recovery is such a wonderful gift because it can help people to align with Metaphysical Law - help people to start living life from a spiritual perspective instead of the dysfunctional perspectives of life that we learned in childhood.
The Metaphysical Law of Karma - of cause and effect / giving and receiving / what you sow you reap - is what governs this life experience we are having. Giving and receiving are two parts of one dynamic - like breathing. As a friend of mine who is a New Thought minister says, "to say giving is more Blessed than receiving is like saying exhaling is more Blessed than inhaling." Just as breath needs to flow in and out, so too does energy need to flow - on all levels, including emotional energy. Blocking the flow of any energy, whether it is money energy or emotional energy, is dysfunctional.
Human beings are not damned with an n. We are emotionally dammed. Dammed up, blocked up - which is what causes us to feel damned with an n.
And all energy is ultimately, on the highest level LOVE energy. Stopping the flow of energy, blocks the flow of Love.
Once I started accepting that I was powerless to control life out of ego self, I started to access the power to be a positive co-creator in my life through my Spiritual Self. My Spiritual Self is the part of me that Knows intuitively that we are all connected - that we are all ONE In LOVE. My Spiritual Self Knows that in giving to others, I am acknowledging our Divine Connection and honoring my Self. The more I was able to stop my ego defenses from blocking energy flow, the more I opened up to the flow of Love from my Spirit. The more I honor my Self, the more I receive the Love that I have been starved for my whole life." - Donations to the Cause / Love Offerings / Spiritual Tithes ~ Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving
"Of course, it seems like sometimes the Universe gives me more because it is about to give me more need - if you know what I mean. (I used to think that it was taking away what it just gave - but have changed that perspective.;-) Susan's 21 year old daughter and my 20 year old son both got kicked out of after care programs this week - so now we are going to have 2 more people living with us in this house that is too small for just the 3 of us. Two more people without jobs of course. Ah yes, more opportunities for growth.;-)" - Joy2MeU Update Newsletter May 2010My son is doing very well - has over 6 months clean and sober now. And was recently he won his appeal for Social Security Disability (for the chronic pain and hip replacement surgery he is going to need as I talked about in that last Update) - but not sure when the bureaucracy is going to get around to paying his benefits (which will allow him to start paying rent). He would have been dead now I am sure if we hadn't taken him in, but it has been costing us around $750 a month extra to have him here. We have been afraid that Susan's daughter might not make it, but she may have finally hit the bottom she needed to start getting into recovery for real. She started a methadone maintenance outpatient program this week - good news that she was willing but of course more cost to us and she is back living with us again for a period of time. (It is crowded in our little house with just Susan Darien and I - adding two more complicates things greatly.)
"The Metaphysical Law of Karma - of cause and effect / giving and receiving / what you sow you reap - is what governs this life experience we are having. Giving and receiving are two parts of one dynamic - like breathing. As a friend of mine who is a New Thought minister says, "to say giving is more Blessed than receiving is like saying exhaling is more Blessed than inhaling." Just as breath needs to flow in and out, so too does energy need to flow . . ." - Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving
My way in the past of keeping the energy flowing - by sending some Love energy and healing information back your way - has been to gift subscriptions to Dancing in the Light and to the Joy2MeU Journal for donations of a certain amount. This time (as of August 17, 2010) in addition to what I have sent back in the past, I am also going to offer a free download of the digitally remastered MP3 files of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An audio Spiritual Experience" and also of the e-book version of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls (PCs only doesn't work on Macs - so I have never actually gotten to see what it looks like but hear it is very nice.) I want the energy to flow both ways this year also - so will make the following donations to your cause in return for your donation to the Joy2MeU cause.Anyone who makes a donation of $15 or more can choose between a subscription to the Joy2MeU Journal or the e-book version of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls.
Anyone who makes a donation of $20 or more can choose between a subscription to the Joy2MeU Journal or the Dancing in Light pay to view section of the site or the e-book version of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls.
Anyone who makes a donation of $35 or more can choose between a subscriptions to the Joy2MeU Journal and the e-book or the Dancing in Light pay to view section of the site and the e-book or the digitally remastered MP3 files of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An audio Spiritual Experience"
People who donates $50 or more, can choose between subscriptions to both the Journal and Dancing sections - or a spiral bound version of my inner child e-book - The Path to Empowerment, Inner Peace, and Freedom from the Past or the e-book and the digitally remastered MP3 download. Or some such combination thereof.
Anyone who makes a donation of $75 or more can choose subscriptions to the Joy2MeU Journal and the Dancing in Light pay to view section of the site and either the digitally remastered MP3 files of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls "An audio Spiritual Experience" or the booklet.
Anyone that donates $100 or more can have access to the two subscription areas - and will be sent the booklet with the inner child articles and the e-book or the digitally remastered MP3 download if they wish to have them.
Anyone that donates $125 or more is invited to come as my guest to one of my Intensive Training Day seminars in San Diego.
Anyone that donates $150 or more can have all of the above that they want.
If you would like to send a check, the address is PO Box 235401, Encinitas CA 92023, or you can call me and leave a message at 760-230-1821 if you can help financially in some way.
Donations to the cause are always appreciated.
It is also possible to use PayPal to make a donation by clicking this button: (Robert Burney PO Box 235401 Encinitas, CA 92024 - 760-230-1821)
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