"Internal boundaries could also be described as self-discipline or taking responsibility or growing up. They are what is necessary for any real growth to occur. It is necessary for an alcoholic to start having internal boundaries in order to stop drinking - for anyone to stop any addictive, compulsive, or obsessive behavior.On this page is an article by inner child healing pioneer on the developing internal boundaries as a key to emotional balance.
In order to start changing our behavior it is necessary to have an internal boundary with the child in us who wants immediate gratification/immediate relief from the feelings. In order to change what we are doing so we can change what we are getting - it is necessary to start having some internal boundaries with ourselves."
"Part of the task in recovery, is to learn to realign our defense system with healing and Love instead of with self destruction. We need to retrain the rebel to fight the good fight on behalf of what is healthy and aligned with growth - instead of aligned with unconsciousness.
This is part of the process of learning to be our own best friend, our own protector, our own Loving parent. By learning how to have internal boundaries we can fight the good fight in a way that serves us instead of hurts us."
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|In February 2004 as I was putting
together some of my articles that had been originally published on Suite101
for an E-Book, I rediscovered several that I had written for a series on
inner child healing that I like a lot. I decided to add them as pages
on my regular web site and reorganized my Inner
Child Healing pages index page at the same time.
Internal Boundaries - the key to emotional balance
"It was vitally important for me to learn how to have internal boundaries so that I could lovingly parent (which, of course, includes setting boundaries for) my inner children, tell the critical parent/disease voice to shut up, and start accessing the emotional energy of Truth, Beauty, Joy, Light, and Love. It was by learning internal boundaries that I could begin to achieve some integration and balance in my life, and transform my experience of life into an adventure that is enjoyable and exciting most of the time."
Co-creation, empowerment, and self-Love through Conscious Internal Boundaries
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Internal Boundaries - the key
to emotional balance was originally published online as Inner
Child Healing Part 9 - More on Internal Boundaries on January 18,
2001 on my Inner Child / Codependency Recovery topic page on the Suite101.com