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This is the Newsletter of the Joy2MeU web site
of codependency therapist, inner child healing pioneer, Spiritual teacher
Robert Burney - who is the author of the Joyously inspirational book of
Spirituality: Codependence:
The Dance of Wounded Souls.
These Update Newsletters are posted online 3 or 4 times
a year at about 3 or 4 month intervals - although this year it is working
out that I am posting them at shorter intervals. A short announcement
e-mail is sent out notifying people - who sign up for the Joy2MeU e-mailing
list - when a new Update is posted. (Links within
the text will open in a separate browser window, while most of those in
right hand column will take you away from this page.)
Joy to You & Me and
Joy2MeU Update
| Hello Magnificent
Spiritual Being,
The adventure continues here! And continues to bring surprises
and opportunities for growth, learning, and healing - as well as a multitude
of opportunities to experience Joy and Love.
This Update brings you: the announcement of two Intensive
Training Days in August - in San Francisco and Portland, Oregon;
reports on the first two Intensives in San Francisco and San Diego - as
well as a heads up that the Intensive in Los Angeles in July could reach
capacity long before July 16th; also, the long awaited news that
the audio version of Codependence:
The Dance of Wounded Souls is now available
on CD.
I will bring you up to date on what is happening
on those fronts in the Newsletter below, The major focus of my life
for most of the time since the last Update however has been on the home
front. Because of some difficulties, and a break up, in the relationship
between my partner Susan's 17, just turned 18, year old daughter and her
boyfriend - Susan and I were the primary caretakers for my precious (now
19 month old) step grandson / god son Darien for about 2 months.
He is an absolutely amazing little man.
You should see him dance! A Talking Heads CD is his favorite - he
starts smiling as the first few notes are played, and then starts rocking
out. It has been such a privilege and honor to experience his growth
for the last year. To watch his personality blossom and reveal itself
as he grows.
Being his primary caretakers meant that he went
along with us to both Intensives so far. Which meant that Susan spent
her time taking care of him while I was presenting the Intensive program.
He was so handsome in San Francisco dressed up in his formal clothes with
vest. In San Diego, he was just cute - not dressed up - because his
grandparty (that would be me) unfortunately, inadvertently, left the suit
case at home that his good shoes were in. Also most of his grandmarmy's
clothes. (Which gave Susan a wonderful opportunity to practice letting
go and acceptance - which she did very quickly and graciously. Something
I was very proud of her for being able to do, showing how much progress
she has made in her recovery - and something that my wounded inner child,
who was raged at by his father every time he made a mistake, was very grateful
for.)
Some of the lessons I have learned by interacting
with this little person came into play in the first Intensive. In
answering a question about setting boundaries with children, I was able
to share - not only what I have known theoretically, and written about
- but also was able to give an example from his behavior. Here is
what I have written.
"A parent certainly needs to take steps
to try to control children's behavior - to keep them from eating 20 candy
bars for instance, or sticking their hand on a hot burner - because that
is part of the parents job. It is important to start helping children
to understand that actions have consequences, and that if they violate
boundaries and limits there will be consequences - but that you still love
them no matter what. It is very important to give children consistent
boundaries / limits - that is one way they know they are loved. It
is crazy making for a child to experience inconsistent boundaries - like
one does in a dysfunctional family. Now, children will test boundaries
- in a way, that is part of their job - but they really want and need consistent
boundaries. That lets them know you love them and are there to protect
them. They may challenge the boundaries, but they truly do not want
to be in control because they know deep down they shouldn't be.
The job of the parent of a minor child is to be
a parent - not a friend or a buddy. That doesn't mean you can't have
a close relationship with children, but until the child becomes an adult
the parent needs to be the adult, the one who is in control. It is
important to see them as separate, unique individuals - and validate their
worth as beings - at the same time you are setting consistent boundaries
and limits for them. To give children too much power is just as abusive
as overtly abusing them to get them to behave in the ways you want them
to." - Questions and Answers &
Random Thoughts about Parenting
What I have experienced in interacting with Darien,
is that when he gets over tired and hyped up he cannot stop on his own.
So, he will do something deliberately that he knows is a "no-no" (like
touch a plug in an electrical outlet) so that I will take him and put him
in his chair with a seat belt. He sometimes gives almost a sigh of
relief at being strapped in - because he feels safe then. And if
we are at the store and the seat belt in the cart is undone, he will insist
on having it buckled.
As I say in the quote from the article, it is
a child's job to test boundaries - and a parental units responsibility
to set, and enforce, consistent boundaries. This little man has demonstrated
for me how important this is to his peace of mind.
The upshot of this wonderful opportunity to practice
parenting to is I have added very little to the web site since the last
Update. I posted the Newsletter
of March 2006 Update about 12 days after publishing the Update; added
a page with news of, and testimonials for, the Intensives: Intensive
Training Day Testimonials; and another for signing up to get notified
by e-mail when I make changes or additions to the Page with information
on the Intensives: Notification
page for Intensives. Someone sent me an e-mail informing
me of the original sources for several versions of the Steps that I share
in the first article of my series on the 12 step process: The
Miracle of The Twelve Step Recovery Process - a formula for
integration and balance - including the 12 Steps for Kids and the 16
Steps for Discovery and Empowerment. And the e-books that are compilations
of articles I originally published on Suite101 are now available on another
web site on the pages these links will take you to: Dysfunctional
Relationship Dynamics ~ Healthy Relationship Behavior
and Inner
Child Healing The Path to Empowerment, Inner Peace, and Freedom
from the Past. I also added the latest
Testimonials
for the book, tapes, and web site. |
Additions to the web site since the March
2006 Update include:
The Newsletter
of March 2006 Update was posted about 12 days after the Update
A page was added with news of, and testimonials for, the Intensives:
Intensive
Training Day Testimonials
and another for signing up to get notified by
e-mail
Notification
page for Intensives
when I make changes or additions to the Page with
information on the Intensives:
Intensive
Training Day
In addition:
The e-books that were formerly sold by Suite101
are now available on another web site on these pages:
Dysfunctional
Relationship Dynamics ~ Healthy Relationship Behavior
and
Inner
Child Healing The Path to Empowerment, Inner Peace, and Freedom
from the Past
A new batch of wonderful Testimonials
for the book, tapes, and web site.
A new resource in England has been added to the
Referral
to local Therapist / Counselors page.
Someone e-mailed me to let me know the original
sources for some of the versions of the 12 steps I share in the first article
of my series on the 12 steps:
The
Miracle of The Twelve Step Recovery Process - a formula for
integration and balance
Links to past Update Newsletters for the Joy2MeU
site (launched February 4, 1999) can be found on the Information
index page. Links to the Newsletters of my original Joy to You
& Me web site (launched February 28, 1998) can be found on the Joy
to You & Me page which list pages from that site not moved to Joy2MeU.
|
Codependence: The Dance
of Wounded Souls "An Audio Spiritual Experience" on Compact Disc
Great News! The audio version of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded
Souls will be available on CD by July 1st. It will not be a fully
produced, slickly packaged version - but will be one that you can listen
to by popping it in your CD player.
One of the challenges of getting the audio version in CD form has been
the length of the recording. It runs a little over 4 hours - which
with CDs of 80 minutes capacity makes it necessary to use 4 CDs to duplicate
the cassette tape version. That meant, that either we would have
3 full CDs and one with less than 10 minutes on it - or that we go back
into the studio and add extra material by recording enough to make the
4th CD of reasonable length. The cost of doing that - plus the cost
of producing and packaging the CDs - has been what has kept me from getting
it done for years.
The new development that has made it possible to offer the CDs now,
has to do a guy named Jeff Sohler who attended my San Francisco Intensive
in April. He is a former computer programmer who has been specializing
in internet marketing for some years now. He first contacted me last
year about the possibility of producing the CDs. Jeff also has a
lot of ideas about utilizing my writing on the site to produce audio products.
He is a great believer in the effectiveness of presenting information in
audio form. Jeff is also a great believer in my work - and wants
to help me make it available to a much wider audience.
He has ideas for helping me create a whole new version of my web site
with all the latest technological wonders available - streaming video,
podcasts, downloadable audio CDs, etc. Since I am ignorant of all
these new developments - and still utilize a web composing program many
generations out of date (stone age in internet terms) - and I have a fear
of, and resistance to, change, I corresponded with him some but didn't
give what he was offering me a high priority. I have also been in
precarious financial position for some time, and was afraid that it would
cost me a lot of money.
 When
Jeff came to my Intensive in San Francisco, he brought me a version of
my tapes on CD that he had produced for himself to listen to. He
did it by dropping the introduction that I recorded just for the tapes,
and slightly speeding up my voice on the first CD of a 3 CD set.
When I got around to listening to them about a week later, I was amazed
at the quality of the recording. There is a part of the first CD
where the sound is slightly "thicker" because of the microscopic changes
he made to make it fit time wise - but that doesn't detract from the presentation
of the information at all. I probably wouldn't have even noticed
it, if I hadn't been aware of it. The rest of the CDs are of very
high quality.
I got real excited about the possibility after listening to them.
I am still going to record material for a 4th CD one of these days so that
we can get to a fully produced, slickly packaged version - hopefully in
the not too distant future - but offering this "work in progress" version
allows me to make the audio version of my book available on CD now.
We are pricing it much less than we would a fully finished CD ($19.95)
- and he will be offering it at a discount through his web site (EnrichmentUnlimited.com
- specializing in Personal Development / Self Help Products.)
This 3 disc set - the "work in progress" version of Codependence:
The Dance of Wounded Souls "An Audio Spiritual Experience" -
will only be available by itself through Jeff's web site. I will
have some copies that I will sell in person at my Intensive
Training Day seminars - and I will offer the CD set in combination
with my book (and perhaps some combination of my book, the CDs, and pay
to view sections, phone counseling, and /or Intensive Training Days - not
sure about details yet, but I will be posting a page with combination offers
including the CDs sometime this weekend. CD
of The Dance)
Jeff is taking orders for the CDs now, and will
have them ready to ship on or before July 1st. To order them click
on the image or go to: Codependence:
The Dance of Wounded Souls CD version |
Newsletter
I started writing this Update on my CoDA birthday early in
the month - so will start out with what I wrote then, and then bring things
up to date on the lower part of the page.
June 3, 2006
Today is the 20th anniversary of my Conscious
Codependency Recovery. I am crying for Joy as I write this because
I just reread the story of what happened on June 3, 1986 - and of how the
commitment I made to myself that day that eventually led to my book and
web site. I am so full of gratitude and awe at the miraculous and
magical nature of my Spiritual Path, of my Recovery Journey, that tears
are streaming down my face as I type.
Here is a quote from the page in the premier issue
of the Joy2MeU Journal in which I tell this story.
"I date my codependence recovery as starting
on June 3 1986. As with any milestone, there was recovery that occurred
before that - I had been clean and sober for exactly 2 years and 5 months
at the point (the story of my early recovery is for another issue) - but
this particular day marked a breakthrough in consciousness to a whole new
level that changed the direction and focus of my life.
On June 3rd 1986 I washed my car. This probably
doesn't sound like an earthshaking event but it was in my life. I
had owned this old pinto for over 2 years at that point. It had done
me great service. I had bought it for $375 when I was about 3 months
sober and had driven it 25,000 miles - and had never washed it.
On that day, I broke through the codependent cycle
of "shoulding" on myself about the car. I stopped beating myself
up and calling myself a slob, and lazy - and just washed the car.
And then I asked myself "why haven't I ever washed this car?"
I went home to do some writing and was pretty
amazed at what it revealed. I realized that I was still reacting
to life out of the religious programming of my childhood - even though
I had thrown out that belief system on a conscious, intellectual level
in my late teens and early twenties. The writing that I did that
night helped me to recognize that my emotional programming was dictating
my relationship with life even though it was not what I consciously believed.
I realized that the belief that "life was about
sin and punishment and I was a sinner who deserved to be punished" was
running my life. When I felt "bad" or "bad" things happened to me
- I tried to blame it on others to keep from realizing how much I was hating
myself for being flawed and defective, a sinner. When I felt good
or good things happened I was holding my breath because I knew it would
be taken away because I didn't deserve it. Often when things got
too good I would sabotage it because I couldn't stand the suspense of waiting
for god to take it away - which "he" would because I didn't deserve it.
I could suddenly see that I had been playing a
game, with that punishing god I learned about in childhood, for all of
my adult life. I tried not to show that I enjoyed or valued anything
too much so that maybe god wouldn't notice and take it away. In other
words, I could never relax and be in the moment in Joy or peace because
the moment I showed that I was enjoying life god would step in to punish
me.
I realized that on some level deep within me (I
didn't know anything about inner children or the magical thinking child
at that point) that I was afraid that if I washed that car god would notice
that I valued it and then cause the car to break down at a time when I
didn't have the money to fix it.
I said to myself - this is no way to live life,
I need to change this. So that night I started to focus on
changing the subconscious programming from my childhood. I didn't
know how I was going to do it - but I was determined to find out.
(That was an act of Love for myself that at the time I wouldn't have known
to call Love.)" - The
Story of "Joy to You & Me" from the The Path of one Recovering
Codependent ~ the dance of one wounded soul in the Premier
Issue of the Joy2MeU Journal.
That installment of my personal recovery story -
which I call "The Path of one Recovering Codependent ~ the dance of one
wounded soul" - includes sharing how the intervention of a psychic led
to the name of my publishing company - and how the DMV played a part in
the name of my web site. What I realized in retrospect about that
night of writing, is that I had really done the first three steps in regard
to my codependency - without even knowing to call it codependency then.
I cry tears of Joy because of the incredible adventure
that has unfolded in my life over the last 20 years. There was no
way for me to have envisioned that what began that night as a desperate
pledge to learn to live my life differently, would evolve into me pioneering
an approach to codependency recovery and inner healing that would help
thousands of people - probably tens of thousands by now - to start learning
how to be more Loving to them self. I am very proud that I had the
willingness and courage to follow my path. I am also full of gratitude
and humility because I was just following where I was led, going where
the Spirit guided me. There have been so many miracles - and so much
magic - on my path. It has Truly been a glorious adventure.
An adventure that is continuing as I write this.
About the only writing I have done in the last year or so, has been for
these Update Newsletters. That is because my life has a different focus
right now - lessons of experiencing are unfolding for me. Experiencing
being in an intimate relationship. Experiences of playing the role
of father figure to a precious 18 month old little boy. Experiences
of interacting with a family on a daily basis. I have definitely
been more involved in experiencing life in the last year, than just writing
about it - as I mention was a goal in my first Update last year.
"A major goal for me in 2005 is to be more involved in life.
I have taken steps to be more Alive and involved with other human beings
this year. My time of living in isolation in a beautiful place I
Love, focused on my writing, was a wonderful, wonderful chapter in my life.
But I entered this year knowing that I wanted to be more involved in the
experience of living from now on than in writing about it from an intellectual,
theoretical perspective." - Joy2MeU
Update Newsletter March 2005
There are times that I do miss the writing however
and I will probably get back to doing more of it one of these days - although
I don't foresee that happening in the immediate future. I do have
some unfinished pieces of writing - including the one I was telling in
my Journal about going to treatment and how my Spiritual Path unfolded,
as well as the last article in my 12 step series. I will get to them
when it is time in the Cosmic Scheme of things.
As of June 15th, I will have lived with my significant
other Susan - and the family she brought with her - for one year.
That brings the total number of years that I have lived with someone in
a relationship to a grand total of 4 years - in almost 40 years of adult
life. 90% of my adult life I lived alone because of my codependency
issues. (Fear of Intimacy
-Ý Relationship Phobia) Pretty sad fact - very wonderful that
I am now in a relationship that I believe and hope will last for the rest
of my life.
I started writing this Update on my CoDA birthday
without knowing when I will finish it. I hope to get it posted before
we leave for San Diego Saturday to do the Intensive Training Day there
on Sunday. I am not sure if that is going to be possible. Due
to circumstances, Susan and I have been the primary caregivers to the 18
month old baby for about the last 6 weeks. Taking care of an 18 month
old takes a lot of time and energy. It has been, and continues to
be, an amazing, Joyous, magical experience to interact with this little
human being daily - but doesn't leave much time and energy for other things.
And my 16 year old son is coming for a visit after
the Intensive - which will add complications and other opportunities for
growth to the equation. And I still don't have the rent for June
- so that adds a bit of stress to the process. (Donations
to the cause are always welcome.;-)
I am also awaiting some developments in terms of announcements I hope
to make with this Update Newsletter. One of those has to do with
the long awaited availability of the audio version of my book on CD.
I am hoping to be able to announce that a CD version is going to be available
very soon - and more will be revealed about that this week.
I was also hoping to announce the next scheduled Intensive in this Update.
The snag that has developed in that regard is that sign ups for the Intensive
in San Diego have been quite slow - and I am hesitant to schedule an August
Intensive until the financial situation gets a little better.
The Intensive in San Francisco was a resounding success. The attendance
wasn't what I had hoped for - but was a very nice sized group with 17 people.
One person flew in from Pennsylvania - and others from Washington, Oregon,
and Nevada. And 4 Native women came down from Winnipeg Canada. There
was
even a bit of matchmaking that occurred as two people attending hit is
off very powerfully during the Intensive.
Expenses ran a little higher than I had expected - which led to a slight
rise in the price for the next two Intensives in San Diego and Los Angeles.
And it looks as if scheduling these two so close together - both time wise
and geographically - may have been a miscalculation. It looks as
if the Los Angeles one will be close to full, but sign ups for the San
Diego one are very slow.
If I lose money, or make very little money, on
the San Diego Intensive, it makes me apprehensive about scheduling the
next one - which would probably include air fare in the expenses.
I am thinking in terms of the Pacific Northwest - Portland or Seattle.
But the Intensives here in the state are going to have to generate enough
income to make it sensible to think that ones in other parts of the country
are worth the risk of setting up.
So, we shall see. I will write this Update
in bits and pieces as the week goes on - and More Will Be Revealed.
June 20, 2006
So, obviously I didn't get this posted before the San Diego Workshop.
The experience of the Intensive was quite wonderful. There were only
8 people in attendance, but that didn't affect the quality of the workshop
- just it's financial viability. We didn't do much more than cover
expenses for the trip down there - and that has me apprehensive about scheduling
Intensive Training Days for any location that requires the cost of flying.
Two people flew in from North Carolina, and one from Texas for the San
Diego Intensive. That was after having people fly in from Pennsylvania,
Oregon, Washington, and 4 people from Winnipeg Canada for the Intensive
in San Francisco. 17 people attended that workshop - so it was a
success in all aspects. I had actually been hoping for more, but
can now see that between 15 and 20 is probably a reasonable size to shoot
for at this point. We have almost that many signed up already for
the Los Angeles one on July 16th - and I think it could very well fill
up the room we have reserved that will hold about 25 people.
The logistics of doing this have become clearer with the first two Intensives.
I designed them with arranging for a box lunch to be served in the meeting
room so that there would be a minimum of disruption by breaking for a meal.
I have learned from past experiences, that when people go to restaurants
it is very hard to get everyone back within the allotted hour to get the
second part of the seminar going on time. What I have learned from
the experience of these first two Intensives is how costly it can be to
get box lunches from the catering departments of decent hotels. So,
I have decided to drop the box lunch part of it for future Intensives -
and just allow the time for people to eat at nearby restaurants.
I also learned that every hotel - even ones of the same chain - have
very different policies in relationship to the terms of renting meeting
space. We had such a good experience with using a Sheraton Hotel
in San Francisco (except for the cost of the catering) that I started planning
the Intensives in San Diego and Los Angeles at Sheratons. I eventually
found it necessary to change hotels because my assumption that the terms
they would be renting the space to me for would be similar to the Sheraton
in San Francisco proved to be an unreasonable assumption. The Four
Points by Sheraton LAX that I originally was planning to use revealed that
they wanted 75% of the cost paid 30 days in advance - and that just wasn't
workable for me given financial circumstances right now. We were
lucky enough to be able to switch to a Marriott within a block of the original
choice. (And my marketing director and I will still be staying at
the Sheraton that I had reserved rooms at because it has more reasonable
rates for rooms.)
I had started out scheduling these Intensives at Hotels by airports
specifically so people could fly in from out of town and just take the
hotel shuttle from the airport. That aspect has proven to work well
so far - and is something we will probably continue in most cases in the
future.
At this point, flying any distance to present an Intensive appears to
be a financial risk - and investment (buying the tickets in advance and
putting up deposits with the hotels) - that doesn't seem reasonable given
our present circumstances. (I still haven't been able to pay all
of the June rent - but hope to by the end of this week.) I don't
see it happening before October for sure - and perhaps not this year.
I could, of course, raise price of the Intensive to cover the extra
cost of flying - but am not real comfortable with doing that at this point,
not sure if it would work. We shall see how things unfold.
If I hear from enough people in a certain area that they would definitely
be attending, or someone wants to donate some frequent flyer miles towards
our tickets to a certain city, or some other messages come from the Universe
that point us at a certain location, or locations - then maybe we will
be able to travel a distance to present an Intensive. My Marketing director
really wants to visit Florida among other places - so if enough people
on the East Coast let us know they are definitely interested, perhaps we
could shoot for out of state in October or November.
June 22, 2006
So, the CDs are available now! Great News! And I have set
the next two Intensives for San Francisco and Portland. After the
light attendance in San Diego, we were strongly considering only doing
locations we could drive to for now. However, a person from Portland
who attended the first Intensive was very encouraging about coming there,
plus several e-mails from people in the area asking if we would be doing
one in the Pacific Northwest, got my attention. As I shared in my
book, I believe that "3 or more" is kind of the metaphysical equivalent
of a "heads up" - a sign that my Higher Power is sending me a message.
"Once I began to become conscious of the emotional
messages I was getting from my body instead of just trying to figure things
out in my head, then I had a choice to follow the guidance I was receiving.
I could let my gut reaction choose the books I read. I could let
my heart guide me to the talks or workshops that I needed to attend.
I realized that if my attention was drawn to something - an author, a workshop,
a certain type of healing therapy, a psychic, a gathering, a movie, anything
that caught my attention on a feeling level - three or more times from
different sources in a short time span that the Universe was probably sending
me a message." - Codependence: The
Dance of Wounded Souls
So, I did some investigation, and found that we could get an early morning
flight out of San Francisco to Portland - that was already reasonably priced,
and even more so with some credits I had with the airline. So, I
decided to try putting on two Intensives in one weekend to minimize the
travel expense. I haven't actually bought the tickets yet - (been
working on getting the rent together) - and probably won't until July 1st
or after. If I don't get any sign ups for Portland by then, I will
consider canceling it - but I don't feel like that will be necessary.
As I said, only having 8 people at the San Diego Intensive did not really
affect the quality of the experience. It is a real pleasure for me
to have the time to really explain my approach to the integration / inner
healing work - and to share my experiences of how I learned various lessons
along the way. The feedback indicates that people not only really
enjoy the "tangents" I go off on when I am led into sharing a story of
my personal recovery - but also to find it very helpful in understanding
the process.
We have a short questionnaire about the experience that we ask people
to fill out at the end of the day - and several of them indicated that
the "tangents" were a favorite part of the experience.
"Since it is a complex subject, I will repeatedly review my
notes and handouts. I appreciated Robert's personal stories.
His stories helped to really "get" a point I understood intellectually
but didn't "get" all the way until he related it to himself."
I have come to realize that the end of a pretty intense day of being inundated
with a lot of information is not the best time to ask people to write eloquent
testimonials about the experience - but there was one from the San Diego
Intensive that I really liked.
"You can intellectually understand key points by reading his
book, but the training allowed me to really internalize it. It's
like the difference between learning how to fly an airplane by reading
a book vs. actually getting in the plane."
Everyone who has attended the Intensive Trainings so far has indicated
they would recommend it to others. And the people who have traveled long
distances have been unanimous in saying that it was well worth the trip.
So, hopefully the upcoming ones will be successful enough to demonstrate
that it is worth the risk to travel out of state for future dates.
As I indicated above, if enough people show strong interest from any specific
area we will consider scheduling one in that location. I hope to
announce a September location (or locations) in late July - so e-mail me
if you would attend in your area, and more will be revealed about where
we go from here.
By the way, my 16 year old son is here visiting now - and it has gone
very well. He seems to have fallen in love with the baby also - and
it has been touching to watch him hold a baby for the first time in his
life.
My life is rich and full and exciting, as I continue to learn and grow
and be challenged with the experience of living in a dysfunctional society
and interacting with other wounded human beings - and I am very grateful.
Love
& Joy to You & Me,
Robert
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