Telephone Counseling with Robert Burney M.A.  ~  inner child healing pioneer, codependency counselor, Spiritual teacher, author of Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls

Spiritual Teacher and codependency counselor Robert Burney, whose work has been compared to John Bradshaw's "except much more spiritual" and described as "taking inner child healing to a new level," has developed innovative, powerful techniques and tools for emotional healing and Spiritual integration.  Robert, whose process is firmly grounded on Twelve Step Recovery Spiritual Principles, specializes in teaching individuals how to become empowered by having internal boundaries.  In his Joyously inspirational Spiritual book - Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls - and on his web site Joy2MeU (Joy2MeU Home) - he explains how dysfunctional relationships with self and life learned in early childhood can be healed enough to allow individuals to change their experience of life into an easier, more Loving and enjoyable journey.
Telephone counseling (which I started offering in March 2000) has proven a powerful method for helping people implement the blueprint for inner child healing that I have developed.  This blueprint can be invaluable to people just starting the recovery / healing process, and is often the missing piece that people who have been healing for decades have been seeking. The various aspects of the work are known to most everyone who has been working on these issues at all - what is unique about my approach is that all of the tools are brought together in a focused system for achieving integration and balance.  I describe my approach on the pages of this web site (and in more detail in my book Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light Book 1 Empowerment, Freedom, and Inner Peace through Inner Child Healing) - but the leap from reading about it to implementing it can be difficult.  Even someone who has a very good therapist right now, can still find it very beneficial to do some phone sessions with me to learn this approach.  (And hopefully spread the word about it to therapists and counselors out there.)

In August 2010 I am updating this page to simplify this introduction (I moved the previous introduction to the bottom of this page.)  The next two paragraphs are the description of what I offer in the phone work that I have been e-mailing to people who have inquired about it. ~ Robert 8/3/10

"What I do is not traditional counseling, it is more directive in that I am going to be teaching you how to own the power to change how you relate to your self, to life, and to other people by helping you to understand your own internal process from a new perspective - that allows you to understand the dynamics of codependency - and learn how to set internal boundaries so that you can change your patterns and take power away from the old tapes and childhood wounds.  So, what I normally like to do is take the first first 2 to 2 1/2 hours (a brief overview of what I cover in my day long Intensive Training workshop) to help you understand both the wounding and recovery process from a new perspective that will empower you to stop feeling like the victim of your own thoughts and own feelings and learn to set internal boundaries - during that time, I do most of the talking with you asking questions for clarity. After that you do most of the talking about your issues and patterns and I help you to integrate the new perspective so that you can relate to your self with more compassion and love - and can start changing how to you relate to life and other people to a way that works better than the way you learned in childhood.

It is possible to get started with the purchase of an hour and a half initial session or a package of at least 3 one hour sessions.  The approach to the inner child healing that I talk about on my web site is one I pioneered - and is not widely known yet.  The tools, techniques, and perspectives that I have combined in my blueprint for inner child healing are designed to empower people to start having a more Loving relationship with self - and the phone work has proven to be effective in helping people to do that in a matter of weeks."

If someone wants to just call to talk about some specific issues or ask some questions you can purchase a one hour session below.

"There has been a significant and striking shift in my internal world, and I certainly can attribute your guidance as the catalyst for such an event!:)!!  Thanks again for all your guidance, it really has changed my life in a very significant way.  I am very grateful our paths have crossed."

"The work I did with you is so amazing, and is the main reason that I am handling everything as well as I am right now. . .  Thanks again for all of the skills you have taught me.  I use them every day."

"I wonder if you remember me...I was your client back in 2004 and 2005...I just wanted to write to you and let you know that since our work together, I have continued my healing journey and it has led me to some very interesting places in the world and inside myself.... Over and over I come back to your work to remind myself of the TRUTH that your work continues to ignite in my heart." - Phone Counseling Testimonials
During September 2012 the following unsolicited testimonials were posted on my Facebook page:
"My telephone sessions with you in 2010 was one of the the best investment in myself I ever made! Thank you for providing the tools to unravel the threads and knots of codependency which literally held me in bondage. My inner child healing allowed me to discover that i AM my best friend and my "girl scout troop" of inner children are my playmates, charges and helpers. As I listen to them and care for myself, I have peace, joy, love and freedom like never before!! I've discovered that I can trust myself, I have insightful intuition and I have a keen "bullshit" detector which keeps me out of harm's way in mind, body and spirit. No more a victim, I am truly a powerful creator and joyful participant in my life!"

"Robert is truly GOOD at what he does and he is the best listener I've ever met in my over 6 decades of living. He has a real gift and is worth way more than he charges for phone counseling. If you feel hopeless or distressed with your life, I urge you to take advantage. You'll be forever grateful!"

"After reading the first Dance book, I followed up with some phone counseling... Gotta say it was an amazing experience and an incredible gift to myself.. Thank you Robert for helping me better understand my human-ness!"
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The Web Site of Spiritual Teacher, codependence counselor, grief therapist, author, Robert Burney and Joy to You & Me Enterprises.

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Telephone Counseling

The dynamics of the phone counseling process are:  once you take care of payment we set an appointment for a time and day that works for both of us, and then you call me at that time.  I prefer to work out the logistics of setting the appointment by email (rather than long distance phone tag) - and once payment has been made and an appointment time set, I will email you the phone number on which to call me.  If someone doesn't have e-mail they can call (760-451-6213), but I do prefer to work things out by email whenever possible.

Payment can be made through the secure credit card links or PayPal (which allows people to pay out of an account that can be drawn from either a credit card or checking account) links below - or by mailing me a check (Robert Burney PO Box 98  Fallbrook CA 92088).  If someone mails a check, I will need to wait until I receive it before setting up an appointment. Once payment is made by either by credit card or PayPal, the appointment can usually be set up within a couple of days.

In revising this page in May 2004, I made it mandatory to do an hour and a half session for the initial session.  It really takes a full hour and a half initial session to give an explanation of how the process works - and to give you the beginning of an understanding of what actions are necessary on your part to facilitate the transformation. (I did change this requirement somewhat in November of 2006 - see announcement below Initial payment links below.) Once a person has had several sessions to start understanding the process, the difference between the 1 1/2, 1 1/4, and hour sessions is simply a matter of getting a feel for what fits you personally. 

The rates for sessions after the initial consultation range from $70.00 per hour price for a single hour session to rates of less than $60 an hour for the package deals of multiple sessions.  (There are combination offers on the Special Phone Offers page that work out to $55 an hour or less.) When added to the cost of the phone call (what with such cheap long distance rates in effect now, can be $ .05 a minute or less - and this is true in many countries in Europe and Down Under also these days) still comes out to a very reasonable rate. (It is also possible now to use Skype to call for free from anywhere in the world.)  To find quality counseling anywhere for these kind of prices is an almost impossible task these days.  There are not many places to get counseling for less than $80 an hour - and $125 to $150 is probably more normal in many places.   So even at $70 per hour this is a real bargain.  And since my approach is focused on helping you transform your life into an easier, more enJoyable and Loving experience in a short period of time, this may be the greatest bargain you will ever encounter in this lifetime. 

Normally after the initial session, an hour session is sufficient although some people will prefer the hour and 30 minutes or hour and 15 minute sessions.


"The pioneering aspect of my work - that has been accurately described as taking people to a powerful new level of healing / recovery / spiritual awakening - involves a formula for integrating the belief of a Loving Higher Power / Force / Great Spirit into one's emotional relationship with life and self in a way that helps people to find unprecedented freedom from the past (the old tapes / intellectual programming from childhood and emotional / inner child wounds) while learning to relax and find some inner peace and enJoyment in life as an adventurous journey, instead of continuing to emotionally react to life as if it is a test that we can fail. . . . 

The approach that I discovered in my personal recovery - and developed in my work with others - is the missing integration formula that people in recovery, on a healing / spiritual path have been seeking for years.  We can have lots of intellectual knowledge of what constitutes healthy behavior, and multiple spiritual experiences, but until we can integrate knowing / Knowing into our emotional relationship with self and life it is not possible to fundamentally change our behavior patterns - especially, and most importantly, our behavior patterns in intimate relationships. 

There are many teachers, books, etc., these days that will tell you that the goal is to learn to Love your self - but no one really tells you how to do that. That is what the approach to inner healing - that I have been gifted with developing - facilitates.  It is a blueprint for how to actually start relating to your self more Lovingly - how to not only start having more capacity / freedom to "be" present in the moment, but also how to consciously learn to manifest more Love in how you treat your self moment to moment, day to day. . . . . 

What I do is teach people how to set internal boundaries to take power away from the critical parent voice / negative childhood programming - and to Loving parent the emotionally wounded inner child places within.  This approach is described on my web site in the inner child healing section - but it is very helpful to be able to hear it described in detail while being able to ask questions about specific aspects of the healing.  It is what I teach people in the telephone counseling that I offer . . ."  - Joy2MeU Update Newsletter March 

" . . . . . what I teach people is how to radically change their relationship with self and life into a more Loving experience . . . . what I do has very little to do with traditional counseling or therapy.  As I talked about in the Update portion of this Newsletter, the formula for integration and inner healing that I developed is the missing piece that so many people have been looking for." - March 2006 Update Newsletter Part 2

Click the link to read some Telephone Counseling Testimonials

Life Changing Telephone Counseling

Click on the payment button of your choice to be taken to a secure credit card processing page or PayPal form. Once Robert receives notice of your payment he will send you an email with available times in the coming week.

Initial Session is One Hour and 30 Minutes:  Cost $97.50
Initial $97.50
Telephone sessions are normally conducted weekdays in the morning and afternoon PST (so early afternoon to evening EST.)  Sessions can be used for up to one year from date of purchase. My boundaries include:  that I reserve the right to charge for any session missed or canceled without at least 12 hours notice;  and that I wait 30 minutes from the time an appointment is scheduled to begin and if the person has not called by then they will be charged for it.  
**Some special combination offers that include the initial sessions are available on the Special Offers page.
May 25, 2006 - Anyone attending one of my Intensive Training Days does not have to do an initial session and can take advantage of some special offers for follow up sessions.

New
November 13, 2006
: I have decided to offer an alternative to requiring the Initial session be an hour and a half.  It is now acceptable for people just starting telephone counseling to start out with a package of 3 (or more) one hour sessions or 2 (or more) one hour and 15 minute sessions (listed below - and lower on the page an offer which includes my Book.)  I explained this change in my November 2006 Update Newsletter:
"I have also decided to slightly change the requirement that new phone counseling clients start with an hour and a half initial session.  For two related reasons.  One is that several people recently overlooked the requirement I state on that page, and instead of starting with the hour and a half initial session purchased multiple sessions of one hour - and it has actually worked out quite well to cover the material I normally cover in the hour and a half initial session over 2 one hour sessions.  And because of the broader canvas the Intensives have given me to explain the process, I find myself really wanting to go into more detail than I can in an hour and a half." - November 2006 Update Newsletter
Individual sessions after Initial
$70.00 for 1 Hour 
$87.50 for 1 hour 15 Minutes 
$105.00 for 1 hour 30 Minutes 

Package Deals

Session lengths are up to the time indicated and can not be broken up - that is a 1 1/2 hour session cannot be split into two shorter sessions.
One Hour Sessions
One Hour and 15 Minute Sessions
One Hour and 30 Minute Sessions
 2 One Hour Sessions  $135.00
2 One Hour 15 Minute Sessions $170.00
2 One Hour 30 Minute Sessions $200.00
 3 One Hour Sessions  $195.00
3 One Hour 15 Minute Sessions $240.00
3 One Hour 30 Minute Sessions $290.00
4 One Hour Sessions  $250.00
4 One Hour 15 Minute Sessions $310.00
4 One Hour 30 Minute Sessions $370.00
5 One Hour Sessions $305.00
5 One Hour 15 Minute Sessions $365.00
6 One Hour Sessions  $350.00
Options that include book
It is not necessary to read my book Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls to do the phone counseling - and certainly not necessary to read it prior to doing the phone work - but reading it (or listening to the audio download - or both, they actually are two quite different experiences) will help your recovery process and facilitate the phone work. For more information on book and audio download see the ordering information page.  Since I have had phone clients in Europe, Australia / New Zealand, and the Middle East - I added an international version of this offer - with the book sent by Air Mail.  It is possible now to get phone cards with low rates in much of the World or to use Skype for free.  

There are some combination options that include my book and my newly published inner child healing book (as of July 2011) on my special phone offers page.

One 1 hour & 30 minutes phone session plus Book

United States (First Class) - Canada (by Air Mail)
International (Air Mail)
$109.50 for 1 hour 30 minutes + Book
$113.50 for 1 hour 30 minutes + Book
Multiple sessions plus Book
3 One Hour Sessions + Book $205.00
3 One Hour Sessions + Book (Air Mail)  $209.50
2 One Hour 15 Minute Sessions + Book $180.00
2 One Hour 15 Minute Sessions + Book (Air Mail) $184.50

Here is an excerpt from my August 2001 Newsletter (which included quotes from two other pages) in which I talk about the phone counseling.  (In August of 2002 I made a change to the Referral page - to the second quote within this excerpt - which adds a link to the CoDA page to that quote.)

"Now almost a year and a half later the phone counseling has proven very successful, . . . . .

The reality is that inner child healing and codependency recovery are still pretty new - and many very well meaning professionals out there do not know a lot about this work.  My approach to the work is unique and pioneering, and no one out there is doing exactly what I do and describe. You will find very few counselors and therapists who define codependence in as large a context as I do; many who do not see it as a Spiritual disease; many who have not done their own emotional work.

I do not know of anyone who combines developing internal boundaries with doing the grief work as part of building an ongoing relationship with different ages of the child within - the framework that I developed for integrating knowledge of healthy behavior and Spiritual Truth into one's emotional relationship with life.  That is the most powerfully life changing and transformational aspect of my approach to the work.  Your chances of finding someone who does exactly that kind of work are almost nil. - Choosing a Therapist or Counselor with Discernment

 . . . . . . . As I say in the quote just above, no one out there is doing exactly the work I do, because there are not yet any therapists or counselors who have studied my method so that they can help others to learn it.  My approach to the work is unique, powerful, and very effective - and has been accurately described as "taking inner child healing to a new level."   One of the reasons that Co-Dependents Anonymous has declined greatly during the last 7 or 8 years is because people did not know how to take the healing to the next level.  (I include an excerpt from the Joy2MeU Journal in which I talk about this decline on the Finding Co-Dependents Anonymous meetings page.)  The inner child healing paradigm that I have developed is that next level of recovery from codependency that so many people have been seeking. Hopefully, one of these days I will be able to offer training to other healers so that they can learn it for themselves - and be able to teach it to others. - Referral Page - to Local Therapists/Counselors/Healers

The phone counseling has proven very effective for the people who are at a place in their process where they are willing to apply the tools and techniques that I share with them.  Of the people who have been open to changing their perspectives, and willing to do at least a little of the work, most have changed their relationship with self and life profoundly within a matter of 6 to 8 weeks.  My goal in working with people is to empower them to be in-dependent.  To teach people how to have internal boundaries so that they can separate the messages coming from the old tapes and old wounds from the messages of intuitive Truth from their Spirit - so that they can start learning how to relax and trust their Spirit to guide them.

"By learning to set a boundary with and between our emotional truth, what we feel, and our mental perspective, what we believe - in alignment with the Spiritual Truth we have integrated into the process - we can honor and release the feelings without buying into the false beliefs.

The more we can learn intellectual discernment within, so that we are not giving power to false beliefs, the clearer we can become in seeing and accepting our own personal path. The more honest and balanced we become in our emotional process, the clearer we can become in following our own personal Truth." - Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls

A normal kind of pattern is for someone to do a session weekly for 4 to 6 weeks - then go to once every two or three weeks for a few months.  Eventually, maybe once every couple of months - or perhaps some more weekly sessions during a time of growth and challenge.  There is no right and wrong way to do recovery as I say in many different places, and everyone's path is different, but generally people have been experiencing a significant shift within a fairly short period of time." - Joy2MeU Update Newsletter August 2001

There are some more package deals that include my books on the Special Offers page.

"The telephone counseling has proven a wonderful venue for being able to help individuals to see where they are at on their own personal path with some clarity and compassion - from people who are just starting recovery to people who have been on a healing, spiritual path for many years. 

I have now worked with people who have grown up on every continent on the planet, people of every race, of different sexual preferences, from a multitude of cultural backgrounds.  Human internal emotional dynamics are the same for all human beings - the external details just provide different flavors of codependency, different facets to the wounding.  As long as a person is not completely closed minded out of their black and white programming that there is only one "right" way to heal, one "true" path to God - they can benefit from the approach to healing that I share with them.  The people that I have worked with represent a wide variety of beliefs, including:  Buddhist, Hindu, Muslim, agnostic, Pagan, Wiccan, Native American, and Jewish - as well as Christians of almost all varieties.  There is a saying that I like:  religion is for people who are scared of hell, spirituality is for people who have been there.  Anyone who is sick and tired of living in a hell of emotionally suffering - and is open to seeing life from a larger perspective - can change the quality of their life by doing this work."

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While updating this page on March 6th, 2003, I added a correction to that biography page to make clear that I have not worked with anyone who grew up on Antarctica. ;-)

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