7/12/21 - News: Am doing online Workshops using Zoom until further notice.
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Are you sick and tired of feeling like your own worst enemy?
9/5/19 A special combination offer: Workshop Video Recording MP3 download plus Robert's first two books - a copy of Joyously inspirational book Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls and the process level Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light Book 1 Empowerment, Freedom, and Inner Peace through Inner Child Healing (normally 59.95 + 43.95): $79.95 Intensive MP3 Video recording + 2 Books: $79.95
1/6/08 News: Announcing date for Intensive Training Day workshop on Sunday May 25th - Memorial Day weekend.Anyone that wants to get notified of when this page changes - which will be any time I add new information or locations to it - can sign up for e-mail notification service.
2/18/08 News: Announcing a date for an Intensive Training Day workshop on July 5th - 4th of July weekend Plans are in the works for Robert to present his workshop and more on a week long Caribbean Cruise that departs Fort Lauderdale on December 13 (more details before the end of February.)
4/6/08 News: Announcing a date for an Intensive Training Day workshop on August 31st and Robert to present his workshop and more on a week long Caribbean Cruise that departs Fort Lauderdale on December 13.
5/26/08 News: Announcing new dates for Intensive Training Day workshops on October 12th and November 29th 2008.
8/3/08 New & News: More information about the workshop on the Caribbean Cruise in December - plus a warning that the cheapest cabins are fast diminishing. A new Intensive date on January 3rd (my sobriety birthday;-) announced.
10/13/08 News: A new Intensive date announced: February 15th 2009. And there should be cabins available for the Caribbean Cruise right up until December.
11/30/08 News: A new Intensive date announced: April 11th, 2009.
1/4/09 News: A new Intensive date announced: May 24th, 2009
2/16/09 News: A new Intensive dates announced: July 18th & September 6th 2009
3/21/09 News: I will be doing a workshop in Akron Ohio on May 9th and will be announcing soon a Intensive workshop on a cruise to the Mexican Riviera at the end of November.
4/8/09 News: The Mexican Riviera Cruise is leaving from San Diego on November 28th - and announcing Intensive dates for October 11th, November 22nd, and January 2nd.
6/29/09 News: Announcing that we are canceling the scheduled cruise to the Mexican Riviera and going to be offering a cruise out of New Orleans in February to the Caribbean (details to come soon.)
7/12/09 News: announcing An Intensive Training Day + follow up sessions on a Exotic Western Caribbean Cruise leaving New Orleans February 2010.
9/7/09 News: Announcing a change in date for November Intensive Training Day from November 22 to Saturday November 28th - Saturday after Thanksgiving.9/26/09 News: Announcing the cancellation of the October 11th Intensive Training Day and new dates in 2010 for Intensive Training Day workshops on February 20th and April 3rd
11/29/09 News: As of now, no one has signed up for the cruise in February and we didn't have the funds to make a deposit on a cabin - so barring a miracle we won't be doing the cruise.
12/14/09 News: New Intensive dates for 2010 announced: May 30th, July 3rd, and September 5th.
3/17/10 News: New Intensive dates for 2010 announced: Oct. 17th, Nov. 27th.
7/4/10 News: New Intensive date announced for January 2nd 2011.
9/6/10 News: Announcing the cancelation of the scheduled October Intensive, the scheduling of an Intensive for February 20th 2011, and an Intensive on A 7-Day Exotic Western Caribbean Cruise Round-trip from New Orleans February 27 to March 6 2011.
11/28/10 News: New Intensive date announced for April 23rd 2011.
12/15/10 News: We booked our cabin today for the 7-Day Exotic Western Caribbean Cruise Round-trip from New Orleans February 27 to March 6 - escape from winter and join us.;-)
1/3/11 News: New Intensive date announced for May 29th 2011.
2/21/11 News: New Intensive date announced for July 9th 2011 - and Announcing that the April 23rd Intensive will be part of a Weekend Retreat.
3/20/11 News: We have had to cancel the retreat - the Intensive will be held in my regular place at the Town & Country Resort and Convention Center in San Diego.
4/17/11 News: It has been necessary to cancel the April 23rd Intensive Training. There are some special offers for the next Intensive on May 29th on this page and just below that are good until April 24th at 9 pm PST. Also, announcing a new Intensive date on August 28th.
5/5/11 News: My beautiful wife Susan is producing a Fund Raiser for homeless kids on June 4th in Carlsbad CA - Darien and I will be there and would be happy to meet you if you can make it. Here is the page with the information Some Like It Hot.
8/29/11 News: New Intensive date announced for January 15th 2012.
10/10/11 News: New Intensive date announced for Febuary 19th 2012.
11/27/11 News: New Intensive date announced for April 7th 2012.
1/16/12 News: New Intensive date announced for May 27th 2012.
2/20/12 News: New Intensive date announced for July 15th 2012.
4/8/12 News: New Intensive date announced for September 2nd 2012.
5/31/12 News: New Intensive date announced for October 28th - and a change in the Intensive that was scheduled for September 2nd 2012 which will now be held on August 26th.
7/16/12 News: New Intensive date announced for December 2nd 2012.
8/5/12 News: I am going to be one of the participants (12 of the world’s top mental health and addiction professionals:-) in a free Mental Health Telesummit in September.
5/30/11 News: New Intensive date announced for October 9th 2011.
6/3/11 News: Announcing for the first time a recording of Robert Burney's Spiritual Integration Workshop is available as an mp3 download.
7/10/11 News: New Intensive date announced for November 26th 2011.
8/7/11 News: The newly published Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light Book 1: Empowerment, Freedom, and Inner Peace through Inner Child Healing (aka A Formula for Spiritual Integration and Emotional Balance) is now part of special offer for next 2 Intensives below.
8/27/12 News: New Intensive date announced for January 20th 2013.
10/29/12 News: New Intensive date announced for March 17th 2013.
12/3/12 News: New Intensive date announced for May 19th 2013.
1/21/13 News: New Intensive date announced for July 14th 2013.
2/21/13 News: The Intensive date I set last week has been changed from July 14th to June 30th.
3/18/13 News: New Intensive date announced for August 18th 2013.
5/20/13 News: New Intensive date announced for September 29th 2013.
6/27/13 News: New Intensive date announced for November 10th 2013.
8/5/13 News: Messed up and scheduled the November one on my grandson Darien's birthday - not good. I have now changed it to November 17th, 2013.
8/15/13 News: So many of the people signed up for August Intensive ran into conflicts that mean they are now coming to September one, that I needed to cancel the August one - and am announcing a new date for January 4th 2014.
9/30/13 News: New Intensive date announced for February 23rd, 2014.
11/18/13 News: New Intensive date announced for May 4th, 2014.
1/5/14 News: New Intensive date announced for June 29th, 2014.
2/24/14 News: New Intensive date announced for August 31st, 2014.
5/5/14 News: New Intensive date announced for October 26th, 2014.
6/25/14 News: Intensive on June 29th canceled. New Intensive date announced for January 4th, 2015.
8/10/14 News: Announcing an appearance in Boston area in November.
9/1/14 News: Announcing New Intensive date for February 15th, 2015.
10/27/14 News: Announcing New Intensive date for
March 29th, 2015. 10/31 Had to change this to April 26th.
1/5/15 News: Announcing New Intensive date for June 21st, 2015.
2/14/15 News: Canceled 4/15 Intensive. Announcing New Intensive date for August 9th, 2015.
4/27/15 News: Announcing New Intensive date for October 4th, 2015.
6/22/15 News: The Town & Country Resort venue where I have been doing my Intensive Training Workshops has been sold and is going through a lot of changes. One of those changes has to do with doubling the price they want to charge me for renting the room for the workshop. For this reason I won't be doing any more workshops there after the ones I have scheduled on August 9th and October 4th. Where, when, and if I will be doing these Intensive Training Days in the future is in the More Will Be Revealed category right now. It is possible I may do them in other locations - Orange County or L.A., Palm Springs ??? or perhaps the Central Coast where I would like to live again one of these days. If anyone has any suggestions, I am open to them.
8/10/15 News: Announcing an Intensive Training Day workshop in the San Francisco Bay area on December 5th, 2015. This Life Changing Codependency Recovery / Inner Child Healing Workshop will be held in Los Gatos. Where, when, and if I will be doing these Intensive Training Days in 2016 is in the More Will Be Revealed category right now. If you know of someone who rents out space for workshops (the way I found the place in Los Gatos was through a phone counseling client) and is within reasonable driving distance of San Diego, let me know.
10/5/15 News: Announcing the first two Intensive Training Workshops for 2016 - in British Columbia Canada and Encinitas California.
12/15/15 News: Announcing a new date for my Intensive Training Day workshop in Gilroy California (the Garlic Capital of the World) on April 3rd 2016.
2/22/16 News: Announcing that I will be returning to British Columbia Canada for another workshop on July 16th 2016.
4/7/16 News: Announcing that I will be offering a workshop in Encinitas CA on May 29th, 2016.
5/24/16 News: Announcing that I needed to cancel the workshop sceduled in Encinitas CA on May 29th, 2016 but have scheduled one in Gilroy August 6th and one in Encinitas on September 18th.
8/28/16 News: Announcing a new date for my Intensive Training Day workshop in Gilroy California (the Garlic Capital of the World) on January 7th 2017 and a special appearance on Cruise to Baja October 27th to 29th.
9/23/16 News: Announcing a new date for my Intensive Training Day workshop in Encinitas on November 27th 2016.
11/28/16 News: Announcing a new date for my Intensive Training Day workshop in Encinitas on February 26th 2017.
1/2/17 News: Announcing the cancelation of the workshop in Gilroy California on January 7th 2017.
1/3/17 News: Announcing a new date for the workshop in Gilroy California on April 15th, 2017.
2/27/17 News: Announcing that I have changed the date for the next workshop in Gilroy to June 17th - and set a new date for Encinitas on April 30th.
4/24/17 News: Announcing that I have changed the date for the next workshop in Encinitas from April 30th until May 21st.
5/10/17 News: Announcing that I will be going to England in October. I will be offering a weekend retreat and several other workshops while I am there.
Robert Burney’s Trip to UK canceledMay 27th, 2017 - I have decided to cancel the planned trip to the UK for October. As we were closing in on finalizing the plans for my trip there, a major change took place in my life as I got custody of my 12 year old grandson. At first it wasn’t clear if he would be living with me in the fall or not, so I pushed the trip back from September to October based on the possibility that he would still be with me. Since then it has become clear that he will be living with me - and that taking an 8 or 10 day trip to UK would present significant challenges in getting taking care of him during that time covered.
5/23/17 News: Announcing a new date for a workshop in Encinitas California on August 20th, 2017
6/21/17 News: Announcing a new date for a workshop in Gilroy California on November 25th, 2017
7/12/17 News: In order to create the space for the possibility of moving in August, I am moving the date of the next Intensive in Encinitas to August 6th.
8/14/17 News: I am moving back to Cambria in a week - and I do not plan on offering any more Workshops in San Diego once I am not living there. I am not sure if I will decide on another location after I have moved but for right now the only one I have scheduled is November 25th in Gilroy.
11/4/17 News: New dates set for Intensive Training Workshops in Gilroy - February 10th and April 7th.
2/4/18 News: It has been necessary to cancel the Workshop scheduled in Gilroy for February 10th - and announcing a new date for workshop in Gilroy on June 9th.
4/8/18 News: New date set for Intensive Training Workshops in Gilroy - July 28th.
6/4/18 News: I am canceling the workshop scheduled for June 9th and announcing a new date set for Intensive Training Workshops in Gilroy - September 1st.
7/30/18 News: New date set for Intensive Training Workshops in Gilroy - October 20th.
9/4/18 News: New date set for Intensive Training Workshops in Gilroy - December 29th.
9/4/18 News: New date set for Intensive Training Workshops in Gilroy - February 16th 2019.
12/24/18 News: I am canceling the workshop scheduled for December 29th and announcing a new date set for Intensive Training Workshops in Gilroy - April 27th.
1/20/19 News: I have set up a date to offer my Workshop in Morro Bay on March 24th.
2/20/19 News: New date set for Intensive Training Workshops in Gilroy - September 2nd. A Church Group booked the meeting room that I normally use, for the rest of 2019. Since there was no other space at this motel to do my workshop, I considered just stopping doing the ones in Gilroy. I didn't really want to do that because there are a lot of alumni in the Bay Area / Silicon Valley - and I didn't want to look for a new place. So I decided to try offering it on a Holiday Monday, this one is scheduled for Labor Day. So, we will see how that works.
3/27/19 News: Announcing a new date for Workshop in Morro Bay on May 26th.
4/4/19 News: Announcing a change in date for Workshop in Morro Bay to June 16th.
4/22/19 - I am afraid that I need to cancel the workshop in Gilroy next Saturday the 27th. I have some challenging things going on in my life that I am asking for help with and it didn't work to do Gilroy this weekend. My next workshop is in Morro Bay on June 16th.
6/3/19 - A Church Group booked the meeting room that I normally use in Gilroy, for the rest of 2019. Since there was no other space at this motel to do my workshop, I considered just stopping doing the ones in Gilroy. I didn't really want to do that because there are a lot of alumni in the Bay Area / Silicon Valley - and I didn't want to look for a new place. So I decided to try offering it on a Holiday Monday, this one is scheduled for Labor Day. So, we will see how that works. This will probably be my last workshop in Gilroy.
6/3/19 - News: Announcing a new date for Workshop in Morro Bay on Sept 29th.
10/5/19 - News: Announcing a new date for Workshop in Morro Bay on December 1st
12/7/19 - News: Announcing a new date for Workshop in Morro Bay on January 26th
2/2/20 - News: Announcing a new date for Workshop in Morro Bay on March 15th
3/17/20 - News: Announcing a new date for Workshop in Morro Bay on April 26th & June 28th
4/23/20 - News: Announcing the cancelation of the Intensive Training Workshop in Morro Bay CA on April 26th 2020 and the scheduling of online Workshops using Zoom
5/28/20 - News: Announcing the scheduling of online Workshops using Zoom in June.
6/18/20 - News: Announcing Morro Bay workshop for June 28th is canceled and Zoom Workshop for Australia and New Zealand (and people in Pacific Time Zone) is moved back a week - now starting on June 25th.
7/4/20 - News: Announcing the scheduling of 2 online Workshops using Zoom in July.
7/20/20 - News: Announcing the scheduling of an online Workshops using Zoom in August.
8/17/20 - News: Announcing the scheduling of 2 online Workshops using Zoom in September.
9/18/20 - News: Announcing a Zoom Workshop in October - and in November & December.
12/31/20 - News: Announcing Zoom Workshops in January - including one starting on January 3rd - my 37th Sobriety Birthday. MY SOBRIETY DATE: JANUARY 3RD, 1984
2/9/21 - News: Announcing a Zoom Workshop in February & March.
"Codependency is about having a dysfunctional relationship with self! With our own bodies, minds, emotions, and spirits. With our own gender and sexuality. With being human. Because we have dysfunctional relationships internally, we have dysfunctional relationships externally.(For anyone unfamiliar with my Spiritual Beliefs, here are quotes from a few pages of my site that might be helpful:
Codependency is an emotional and behavioral defense system which our egos adapted in early childhood to help us survive. We were raised in shame based, emotionally dishonest, Spiritually hostile environments by parents who were wounded in their childhoods by patriarchal, shame based civilization that treated children and women as property." - Robert Burney
Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls has been called "one of the truly transformational works of our time" - and it's author Robert Burney referred to as "a metaphysical Stephen Hawking." A therapist and Spiritual Teacher whose work has been compared to John Bradshaw's "except much more spiritual" and described as "taking inner child healing to a new level" - Robert in his book combines Twelve Step Recovery Principles, Metaphysical Truth, and Native American Spirituality with quantum physics and molecular biology in presenting his belief that we are all connected, we are all extensions of the Divine, and that ultimately Love is our True essence.
He has pioneered an inner child healing paradigm that offers a powerful, life changing formula for integrating Love, Spiritual Truth, and intellectual knowledge of healthy behavior into one's emotional experience of life - a blueprint for individuals to transform their core relationship with self and life.
Robert, whose work is firmly grounded on twelve step spiritual principles and emotional energy release / grief process therapy, learned in his own personal recovery that developing internal boundaries was the key to empowerment and freedom from the past. If you want to learn how to relax and enjoy life in the moment while you are healing and learning to Love your self you don't want to miss this workshop.
"My own personal Spiritual belief system is one form of spirituality. It is certainly not the only one. Mine works for me very well in helping me to have a relationship with life that allows me to be happier today. It is not necessary for you to accept my belief system in order for you to use the tools, techniques, and perspectives that I have developed for emotional healing / codependence recovery / inner child integration." - The Recovery Process for inner child healing - spiritual integration
"The path to empowerment and freedom from the past lies in owning that we have choices about our belief systems. Our mental attitudes, beliefs, and definitions dictate our emotional reactions and control our relationships. If we are living our life in reaction to the past, in reaction to our childhood wounds, then we are not making choices - we are not free.
This is true rather we are trying to conform to the old tapes or rather we are rebelling against them. Either way, we are giving the past power over how we live our lives today.
One of the most vital prerequisites of healing and recovery, of being open to growth, is a willingness to be open to looking at anything, and everything, from a different perspective. As long as we are stuck in a rigid perspective on any issue, we are like the blind man who thinks the elephant is a snake because all he can feel is the trunk.
The reason that we have rigid perspectives is because we are reacting to emotional wounds. When I was first introduced to twelve step recovery, I thought the people were a bunch of religious fanatics because they talked about god. I did not want anything to do with god because of the shame based religion I grew up in. I had been tremendously wounded by that religion and rejected the concept of god because the one I was taught about was an abusive father." - Spirituality for Agnostics and Atheists
"The Spiritual belief system detailed on this web site and in my book can be incorporated into any open-minded individual's personal beliefs. It is a belief system that allows for the possibility that maybe there is an Unconditionally Loving Higher Power - a God-Force, Goddess Energy, Great Spirit, whatever it is called - which is powerful enough to insure that everything is unfolding perfectly from a Cosmic Perspective. That everything happens for a reason - there are no accidents, no coincidences, no mistakes."The point that I am making is that our understanding of Codependence has evolved to realizing that this is not just about some dysfunctional families, our very role models, our prototypes, are dysfunctional. Our traditional cultural concepts of what a man is, of what a woman is, are twisted, distorted, almost comically bloated stereotypes of what masculine and feminine really are."
It would be possible for someone to use the tools and techniques contained herein - for inner child healing and setting internal boundaries - to change some of their codependent/reactive behavior patterns and work on healing their childhood emotional wounds without a Spiritual belief system underlying the work. It would be possible, but in my view would be kind of silly. Spirituality is all about relationships. One's relationship to self, to others, to the environment, to life in general. A Spiritual belief system is simply a container for holding all our other relationships. Why not have one that is large enough to hold it all." - Spiritual Belief System index page
"This dance of Codependence is a dance of dysfunctional relationships - of relationships that do not work to meet our needs. That does not mean just romantic relationships, or family relationships, or even human relationships in general. The fact that dysfunction exists in our romantic, family, and human relationships is a symptom of the dysfunction that exists in our relationship with life - with being human. It is a symptom of the dysfunction which exists in our relationships with ourselves as human beings."
"It is necessary to own and honor the child who we were in order to Love the person we are. And the only way to do that is to own that child's experiences, honor that child's feelings, and release the emotional grief energy that we are still carrying around."
"It was vitally important for me to learn how to
have internal boundaries
so that I could lovingly parent
(which, of course, includes
setting boundaries for) my inner
children, tell the critical
parent/disease voice to
shut up, and start accessing the
emotional energy of Truth, Beauty,
Joy, Light, and Love. It
was by learning internal boundaries
that I could begin to achieve
some integration and balance
in my life, and transform my experience
of life into an adventure that
is enjoyable and exciting most of the
"Codependence deals with the core issues of the human dilemma. Codependence has grown out of the cause from which all symptoms arise. That cause is Spiritual dis-ease: not being at ease, at one with Spiritual Self."
"We are not sinful, shameful human creatures who have to somehow earn Spirituality. We are Spiritual Beings having a human experience."
"In order to start be-ing in the moment in a healthy, age-appropriate way it is necessary to heal our "inner child." The inner child we need to heal is actually our "inner children" who have been running our lives because we have been unconsciously reacting to life out of the emotional wounds and attitudes, the old tapes, of our childhoods."
My work is firmly grounded on twelve step recovery principles and emotional energy release / grief process therapy. I specialize in teaching individuals how to become empowered to have internal boundaries so they can learn to relax and enjoy life in the moment while healing. It is the unique approach and application of the concept of internal boundaries, coupled with a Loving Spiritual belief system, that make the work so innovative and effective.
My belief is that we are Spiritual Beings having a human experience and that the key to healing (and integrating Spiritual Truth into our emotional experience of life) is fully awakening to our Spiritual connection through emotional honesty, grief processing, and inner child work. It is not necessary to agree with my Spiritual beliefs to apply the approach I share in my workshops, web pages, and/or in my book to help you transform your experience of life into an easier, more Loving and enjoyable journey. I consider Spirituality to be a word that describes one's relationship with life - and anyone, regardless of religious belief or lack of it (who is not completely closed minded), can benefit from doing this work.
It is possible to feel the feelings without being the victim of them or victimizing other's with them. It is possible to change the way you think so that your mind is no longer your worst enemy. It is possible to become empowered to have choices in life at the same time you are letting go of trying to be in control. Life can be an exciting, enjoyable adventure if you stop reacting to it out of your childhood emotional wounds and attitudes.
|Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls has been called "one of the truly transformational works of our time" - and it's author Robert Burney referred to as "a metaphysical Stephen Hawking." A therapist and Spiritual Teacher whose work has been compared to John Bradshaw's "except much more spiritual" and described as "taking inner child healing to a new level." Robert postulates in his book that Codependence (i.e. outer or external dependence) has been the Human Condition. - and that we have now entered a new Age of Healing and Joy in which it is possible to heal the planet through healing our relationships with self. He combines Twelve Step Recovery Principles, Metaphysical Truth, and Native American Spirituality with quantum physics and molecular biology in his book in presenting his belief that we are all connected, we are all extensions of the Divine, and that ultimately Love is our True essence.|
Contact information for Robert Burney and Joy to You & Me Enterprises:
Phone: 805-203-5875 (as of 7/12/21 805-900-5237)
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