"Codependency is about having a dysfunctional relationship with self! With our own bodies, minds, emotions, and spirits. With our own gender and sexuality. With being human. Because we have dysfunctional relationships internally, we have dysfunctional relationships externally.
Codependency is an emotional and behavioral defense system which our egos adapted in early childhood to help us survive. We were raised in shame based, emotionally dishonest, Spiritually hostile environments by parents who were wounded in their childhoods by patriarchal, shame based civilization that treated children and women as property. We formed our core relationship with self in early childhood - and built our relationship with self, life, and other humans based on that foundation. Programmed to feel shame about being imperfect humans, and trained to be emotionally dishonest, we were set up to live life reacting to the emotional trauma and dysfunctional intellectual programming of childhood. Because we feel shame about being human, we have a relationship with life that does not work to bring us Joy or inner peace.
We do not have the power to change others - we do have the power to change our relationship with self by healing our codependency / wounded souls. We can access the capacity to accept, embrace, forgive, have compassion for, and set boundaries with, all parts of self. Learning to Love our self will allow us to gain the capacity to Love others in a healthy way. Changing our relationship with life can transform life into an exciting adventure." ~ Robert Burney
"The point that I am making is that our understanding of Codependence has evolved to realizing that this is not just about some dysfunctional families, our very role models, our prototypes, are dysfunctional. Our traditional cultural concepts of what a man is, of what a woman is, are twisted, distorted, almost comically bloated stereotypes of what masculine and feminine really are."
"In order to start be-ing in the moment in a healthy, age-appropriate way it is necessary to heal our "inner child." The inner child we need to heal is actually our "inner children" who have been running our lives because we have been unconsciously reacting to life out of the emotional wounds and attitudes, the old tapes, of our childhoods."
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counselor,
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"It is necessary to own and
honor the child
who
we were in order to Love the
person we are. And the
only way to do that is to own that
child's experiences, honor
that child's feelings,
and release the emotional
grief energy that we are
still carrying around."
"Codependence is a very vicious and powerful form of Delayed Stress Syndrome. The trauma of feeling like we were not safe in our own homes makes it very difficult to feel like we are safe anywhere. Feeling like we were not lovable to our own parents makes it very difficult to believe that anyone can Love us." Spiritual Teacher and Codependency Therapist Robert Burney, whose work has been compared to John Bradshaw's "except much more spiritual" and described as "taking inner child healing to a new level," has developed a unique approach to emotional healing that is the next level of recovery from codependency so many people have been seeking. He has pioneered an inner child healing paradigm that offers a powerful, life changing formula for integrating Love, Spiritual Truth, and intellectual knowledge of healthy behavior into one's emotional experience of life - a blueprint for individuals to transform their core relationship with self and life. Robert, whose process is firmly grounded on twelve step recovery principles and emotional energy release / grief process therapy, specializes in teaching individuals how to become empowered to have internal boundaries so they can learn to relax and enjoy life in the moment while healing. It is the unique approach and application of the concept of internal boundaries, coupled with a Loving Spiritual belief system, that make the work so innovative and effective. His personal belief is that we are Spiritual Beings having a human experience that is unfolding perfectly from a Cosmic perspective - with no accidents, coincidences, or mistakes. He considers Spirituality to be a word that describes one's relationship with life - and anyone, regardless of religious belief or lack of it (who is not completely closed minded), can apply the approach he shares on this web site and in his book, to help them transform their experience of life into an easier, more Loving and enjoyable journey.
In his book Codependence:
The
Dance of Wounded Souls
"A Cosmic Perspective
on Codependence
and the Human Condition" he postulates that
Codependence
(i.e. outer or external
dependence) is
The Human Condition - and
that we have now entered
a new Age of Healing and Joy in which
it is possible to heal
the planet through healing our
relationships with self.
He combines Twelve Step Recovery
Principles, Metaphysical
Truth, and Native American Spirituality
with quantum physics
and molecular biology in
presenting his belief that we are
all connected, we are all extensions
of the Divine, and that ultimately
Love is our True essence.
"We are transcendent Spiritual Beings who are part of the ONENESS that is the God-Force. We always have been and always will be. We are perfect in our Spiritual Essence. We are perfectly where we are supposed to be on our Spiritual Path. And from a human perspective we will never be able to do "human" perfectly - which is perfect. We have been trying to do human perfect according to a false belief system in order to get Spiritual. It does not work. It's dysfunctional."
Telephone Counseling
with Robert
- an Empowering & Life Changing experience
MY SOBRIETY DATE: JANUARY 3RD, 1984 June 3rd, 1986 is the day I made a conscious commitment to codependency recovery: The Story of "Joy to You & Me"
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"I
just read your wonderful
book,
thank
you for writing
it. I have been a spiritual
teacher since childhood,
however, your book
let me organize my thoughts
a new way, a new perspective.
I now have a much
deeper understanding and
am still learning from it.
Dance, is one of the truly transformational
works of our time."
"When I found your book, I found myself." "I am a 52 year old psychotherapist and have struggled with codependency all my life. Up until tonight I have been disappointed in the literature and treatment of codependency. Your work is brilliant! I can't find words to express my appreciation with the depth I am feeling." "I read thru much of your website and I am very inspired by it. I have been feeling that something is missing from the 12-step CoDA meetings and now I know it is true." "Your work is brilliant and from what I've read on your website I am just utterly blown away by this material. It's like finally someone has put this mess of codependance into perspective so it can be healed!""Your writing is more insightful and instructive for change than Bradshaw and Melody Beattie of codependence no more. Pia Melody's pretty good but you're more broad thinking in concepts and more compassionate too." "I truly believe that I have made more progress on a personal
level in the few
weeks I have had Robert's book
and tape than in the preceding
eight plus years when I first found
out what codependency was.
THANK YOU" "I find it very exciting that you have brought the whole definition of codependence to this spiritual level, where I can much more relate to it's truth." "Your message has forever changed my path in this lifetime. Thank you so much for sharing your perceptions and experiences through your book, and your website. You are a guide and a healer, I will be forever grateful for having connected and crossed paths with you and your work." "Robert, you are a metaphysical Stephen Hawking. Thank you."Phone Counseling Testimonials Workshop Testimonials
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July 23rd, 2011: Announcing
the publication
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Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light Book 1: Empowerment, Freedom, and Inner Peace through Inner Child Healing (aka A Formula for Spiritual Integration and Emotional Balance) Also available eBook format: Amazon Kindle Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light and Barnes & Noble Nook January 2016 available for Kobo ereader Inner Child book also now available as an audio book
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Romantic Relationships ~ The Greatest Arena for Spiritual & Emotional Growth Codependent Dysfunctional Relationship Dynamics & Healthy Relationship Behavior Amazon Kindle format eBook 1 & eBook2 and Barnes & Noble Nook format eBook 1 & eBook 2 January 2016 Kobo for ereaders eBook 1 & eBook 2 eBook 1 now available as audiobook |
Joy to You & Me presents an Intensive Training in Robert Burney's
Spiritual Integration Formula for Inner Healing / Codependency Recovery / Inner Child Healing - on Zoom - an empowering and Life Changing experience.
Zoom Workshop
Reposting an article from 2020. A Vote for Donald Trump is an act of treason!!!!
“And if you call your self a Christian, wake up and recognize the Donald Trump is the personification of the antichrist. He represents the opposite - 180 degrees the opposite - of the message of Love that Jesus carried. If you vote for Donald Trump you will be spitting in the face of the teachings of Jesus. You are committing blasphemy by supporting this personification of evil.
Donald Trump is a racist - and is using racism to divide and polarize the people of this country. If you support Trump, you are a racist. You are saying that racism is acceptable - which makes you just as racist as if you were wearing a Ku Klux Klan robe.” - : Standing up to evil - and Accepting the Divine Plan.- Standing up to evil - and Accepting the Divine Plan
New & News July 10th, 2021: A new article Into The Forest - and out of Cambria - and new phone number: 805-900-5237.
This website - Joy2meu.com - is designed in a program that is obselete (Netscape) - which is why I started a new Mobile Friendly site a couple of years ago - Joy2MeU2.com. I keep an old computer to work on it, because it doesn’t work with any operating system from X on. It is probably not going to work one of these days, as it has been giving me more and more problems. I am putting this notice up here to let you know that very soon I may not be able to update this site, and it will be good to go to Joy2MeU2.com for the latest news. I am in the process of writing an Update Newletter to cover the 4 years since my last Update Newsletter - Valentine's Update-February 2019 - and hope to get it published sometime - not sure at all when I will get time for it. More will be revealed. I will be doing Zoom Workshops for the forseeable future.
"Robert Burney's training day was so inspirational and enlightening. He was loving and warm and presented profound life changing material in a very not intimidating way. Magical!"
The approach that I discovered in my personal recovery - and developed in my work with others - is the missing integration formula that people in recovery, on a healing / spiritual path, have been seeking for years. We can have lots of intellectual knowledge of what constitutes healthy behavior, and multiple spiritual experiences, but until we can integrate knowing / Knowing into our emotional relationship with self and life it is not possible to fundamentally change our behavior patterns - especially, and most importantly, our behavior patterns in intimate relationships.
There are many teachers, books, etc., these days that will tell you that the goal is to learn to Love your self - but no one really tells you how to do that. That is what the approach to inner healing - that I have been gifted with developing - facilitates." - Intensive Training Day
June 3, 2011 Announcing: For
the first time a recording of Robert
Burney's Spiritual Integration
Workshop is available as an mp3
download.
"Codependence deals with the core issues of the human dilemma. Codependence has grown out of the cause from which all symptoms arise. That cause is Spiritual dis-ease: not being at ease, at one with Spiritual Self."
Authors
Biographical info
The Story of "Joy to You & Me" / Joy2MeU Testimonials for Telephone Counseling with
Robert
Intensive Workshop
Testimonials page World map
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The Site index
page contains links
to over 300 pages -
over 250 of them content pages free to
anyone with internet.
Below are site index pages for different topic areas of the Joy2MeU.com site. Codependence Pages Index Codependence / codependency = outer / external dependence = The Human Condition 30 Pages on Codependence / Codependency.
Inner
Child Healing Pages
index
An innovative
new level of Inner Child
Healing for achieving Spiritual
integration & emotional
balance. 35 pages that
focus on
the Process / emotional
healing
/ integration / inner child
Work.
Spiritual
Belief System
Pages index We are Spiritual Beings
having a human experience
- this is
the polar opposite of the
beliefs which underlie
Civilization - it changes
the whole game. 28 Pages on
Robert's Spiritual Paradigm.
Alcoholism Pages Index Bill Wilson would have run to an ACA or CoDA meeting where he could have found the roots of the depression which tormented him. 12 Pages on disease of alcoholism & 12 steps. Metaphysical Pages Index A New Age has dawned in human consciousness. 17 Pages on Metaphysical aspects of belief system. Romantic Relationships Pages index It is so important to realize how we were set up to feel like failures in Romantic Relationships - to really get it on a gut level, so that we can forgive ourselves. 40 Pages focused on Romantic Relationships. Miscellaneous Topics Pages index I wrote a monthly column/article - first for a local paper, then for a Recovery paper in Texas, then on the internet - for about 10 years. 30 pages - Miscellaneous articles and columns. Information Pages index This is an index page of informational pages (as opposed to content - except for the ones that do have content, like the Update Newsletters and the preview issue of Joy2MeU Journal) 40 Informational pages + 57 Update pages There is a partial
site index and more testimonials
& information on
this page which
was part of the home page
until November 2012.
Metaphysical Law: Giving and Receiving ~ Donations / Love Offerings page |
New web sites offering
some of the material on this site
in more up to date format:
Robert Burney Live.com DanceofWounded Souls.com
TwelveStepMiracle.com HealthyRomanticRelationships.com |
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- and also send out special announcements
once in awhile.
We keep a mailing
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Burney. Your name and e-mail address
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This Joy2MeU Web Site @ http://Joy2MeU.com
- Launched 2-4-99
My original Joy
to You & Me Web Site @ http://www.silcom.com/~joy2meu
- Launched 2-28-98
"Dear Robert, Your work has divinely touched and spiritually inspired me......I came to your site in my desperate hour and found so many truths, I couldn't hide anymore. I made the choice, to face the fear, look inside through the darkness and pain, to feel who I was and why. . . . You have given me much healing through your generous gifts that I would like to share with you my love, appreciation and gratitude. I am sending a donation ___. Thank you so very much. Blessings and Abundance Always" - (Donations to the cause / Spiritual Tithes are always appreciated: Working the Third Step ~ ASKing for help)