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This is the Newsletter of the Joy2MeU web site of codependency therapist, inner child healing pioneer, Spiritual teacher Robert Burney - who is the author of the Joyously inspirational book of Spirituality: Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls.
These Update Newsletters are posted online 3 or 4 times a year at about 3 or 4 month intervals - although this year it is working out that I am posting them at longer intervals.  A short announcement e-mail is sent out notifying people - who sign up for the Joy2MeU e-mailing list - when a new Update is posted.  (Links within the text will open in a separate browser window, while most of those in right hand column will take you away from this page.)
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Hello Magnificent Spiritual Being,

Here it is December already and 2007 is almost history.  As it has turned out, I have only had 3 Updates Newsletters this year - which could turn out to be the norm until something changes significantly in my hectic schedule.  Actually hectic isn't a good word to describe my schedule, though I find myself using it often - like when it takes me a week or more to answer the e-mails I am always getting.  Busy isn't really accurate either.  I guess full might be the best word.

It is because such a significant portion of my "full" schedule is taken up with caring for my precious little step grandson / Godson Darien that hectic isn't an accurate description.  So much of the time with him is actually very peaceful and Joy-filled - and spent in the moment experiencing him, and life with him.  He turned 3 in November - and is talking away all the time now.  Though sometimes it is still hard to understand what he is saying.  The other day he said something that sounded to me like, "I want fruit." That I said, "Do you mean fruit like an apple?"  And he said, "No." and scrunched up his face trying to think of how to explain to me what he was trying to say - and then got this light bulb going on look on his face, and said, "like this" holding his hand up to his mouth and blowing.  Then I understood that he mean flute.  He is so earnest in his attempt to communicate - and is always asking what things are.

I was talking on the phone to my mother the other day, and Darien was in his high chair saying, "Gramma?  Gramma?" asking if it was Susan on the phone.  I said, "No, it is Great Grandma." and then gave him the phone to say hello, and the first thing he said was, "Are you great?"

Anyway, I could go on and on with Darien stories.  My time with him is such a blessing, and it doesn't leave a whole lot of free time for other things besides phone appointments and filling orders and such - but I wouldn't have it any other way.  It is a priceless and invaluable experience to be part of his growing up.

I am going to include in the Newsletter portion of this Update, the updates I have been sending out to the people who have signed up for my new e-mailing list on Yahoo.  I will give a brief summary of the major changes and news here, but let the messages below tell you more of the story of the last few months.  In my last Update announcement I included an address to sign up for that e-mail list that turned out to be dysfunctional because the settings weren't right and I couldn't change them - so the address below will be the one to use to sign up for anyone who wants to get more frequent news of what is happening with me and Joy to You & Me.

It has been an interesting few months, including: evacuating for the fires here in San Diego county;  3 really fulfilling Intensives - plus one that I needed to cancel;  news that the trip to Ibiza is on;  news that I no longer am able to offer the cassette tapes for sale (a sad one to me);  progress towards getting the new CD produced - although it is still several months away (although there is strong possibility we will soon be able to offer the audio version of The Dance via an MP3 download);  and the next news - what to me is a very exciting announcement (which is worded the way it is because I needed to write the following paragraph before writing this update.;-)

One very exciting new development I have to announce in this Update is the launching of a Training program to train Counselors / Therapists / Coaches / Healers / Mentors in how to teach other people to apply the healing formula for Spiritual Integration and Emotional Balance / inner child healing / internal boundaries that I pioneered - in their own practices.  This is something that I have been thinking of for awhile - and have mentioned in other Updates.  It is an idea whose time has come.  The information about it is here: Training for Counselors / Therapists / Coaches / Healers

I also updated the Special Offers page with some new Holiday Special Offers for Recovering Codependents - featuring offers that include the Dancing in Light section of my site in combination with Telephone Counseling sessions - and with my Intensive Training Day workshop (and announced on that page that I will be raising telephone counseling rates on January 30th.).  The writing in Dancing in Light - especially in the two online books - is some of my best in my opinion.

I also put the full text of the Author's Foreword to Codependency Recovery: Wounded Souls Dancing in The Light  Book 2 A Dysfunctional Relationship with Life back on the regular site (not sure why I took it off in the first place.;-)

For anyone who is new to my story and Updates, a good place to start if you wanted to both catch up on the recent history of my Spiritual Path / recovery adventure and learn a lot about the past history, would be my January 2006 Update Newsletter (and the ones that follow it.)
Additions to the web site since the August 2007 Update include:

Training for Counselors / Therapists / Coaches / Healers

new Holiday Special Offers

Author's Foreword of Dancing in Light


Updates to the Intensive Testimonial page have been added after each Intensive

And the announcement that Intensive Training Days are scheduled for San Diego on January 5th, February 17th, April 5th 2008 - and March 1st in Ibiza

In addition:

A new batch of wonderful Testimonials for the book, tapes, and web site and new Phone Counseling Testimonials.

A new set of recommended links to the Recommended Links page

Called attention to a couple of articles for this time of year: Thanksgiving


Happy Holidays, Sad Holidays

Graphic of two hearts with an arrow through them - signifying both Love and heartbreak.
Links to past Update Newsletters for the Joy2MeU site (launched February 4, 1999) can be found on the Information index page.  - and also at the bottom of the site index page.  Links to the Newsletters of my original Joy to You & Me web site (launched February 28, 1998) can be found on the Joy to You & Me page which list pages from that site not moved to Joy2MeU.

The following are the news bulletins that I have sent out to the Joy2MeU Yahoo mailing list

Tuesday September 11, 2007 10:38 am
Hello to those of you who have signed up for this list. I thought I would give it a first try by letting you all know that I have now
gotten more of my CDs in. I didn't have any for a month or so there - and am glad to have them back in stock. These are the work in
progress CDs (http://Joy2MeU.com/Audio_Dance_CD.htm ) that I have had available for awhile. As I mentioned in my Update we are working on coming up with a fully produced CD with new information added. Right now we are trying to figure out how to convert the original master recording from DAT format to MP3 - and I don't know what that means, but just thought I would give you an Update.;-)

Hope you find some moments of Joy in your Life today - and remember that you are Unconditionally Loved (even though it might not feel like it some of the time.;-)

PS I am not quite sure how this is going to work yet - so this is a more will be revealed test.
Tuesday September 25, 2007 5:25 pm
Hello Vibrantly Healthy Spiritual Beings.

I just posted an announcement on the site that I am canceling the Intensive that was scheduled for this coming Sunday. And due to that cancellation, I made a change to the requirements to qualify for doing an inner child healing grief group. Here is a quote from the page for those groups that I posted today (the first line is in reference to mentioning in the previous post on that page that I was hopeful that some local advertising that was made possible by someone on this announcement list, would help draw more local people to the September 30th Intensive.)

"9/25/07 - I did the local advertising in 3 different places - and 2 of the publications messed up the ads. Sigh. So, no local people
signed up and I think because of there wasn't that much time between scheduled Intensives, no out of state people either. The effect was that I had to cancel the September 30th Intensive. So, no telling when we will be able to get a grief group started. I am going to make a change to allow someone to qualify for the grief group by doing telephone counseling (An initial hour and a half plus 2 hour long follow up sessions) if they have not had the opportunity to attend an Intensive." - http://joy2meu.com/innerchild_grief_groups.htm

Other news is that the plans for the workshops in Ibiza in March have taken a large step towards manifesting. The dates would be March 1st and 2nd - but details are still being worked out (including price.) I will let you folks on this list know what is happening as it unfolds.

Remember to do some Loving things for your self today - and make time for some moments of Joy.
Thursday October 18, 2007 3:27 am
Last night I posted an announcement of new dates for Intensive Training Day workshops beyond the ones scheduled for November 4, December 8th & January 5th. Those new dates are February 17th & April 5th in San Diego and March 1st 2008 on the Spanish Mediterranean Island of Ibiza. The page with info about the Ibiza workshops is here: http://Joy2MeU.com/Workshop_Ibiza.htm

Think of 3 things in your life that you are really grateful for when you read this - just as a small reminder to focus some attention on
the part of the glass that is full.;-)

Mon. Oct. 29, 2007 7:34 am
Hello Magnificent Spiritual Being,
Last week was a pretty interesting around here. We decided to evacuate on Monday morning because of all the fires here in San Diego County. We didn't seem to be in immediate danger - but the day was gradually turning darker as the smoke spread overhead and ashes were flying. So, we grabbed the valuable things - I put my computer in the trunk - and we headed north to the Central Coast. There was smoke all the way north because of fires in Orange County, Los Angeles Country, and Santa Barbara Country.

We stayed in a Motel 6 in Morro Bay - since they take animals and we had our cat and rabbit and fish with us. It gave me a chance to visit Cambria a couple of times and take the walk by the ocean that used to be so much a part of my life.

We got back late on Thursday, and the fire had only come within about 5 or 6 miles of our place. There was soot and ashes in the yard and driveway - but the house was still standing. We are very grateful that we didn't lose everything as so many in the County had - last count over 1500 homes burned. The extra expense is going to make paying the rent - any place close to on time - quite problematic, but the glass is definitely more full than empty, as we are all safe and didn't lose all our stuff.

Part of all the catching up I needed to do when I got back (I still have a whole bunch of e-mails to answer) after filling orders that had
gone unfilled for a week and starting to reschedule phone appointments that I had to cancel - was to deal with the situation with my tape sets. I mentioned in my August 2007 Update http://Joy2MeU.com/Update_August_2007.htm that I would be running out
of cassette tape sets soon. 

I found out that I had misstated the problem in that Update. The cassette tapes that we used are actually 120 minute tapes - and it is
not that they are not available any more, it is the cost of getting a supply of them that is the problem. The recording studio where we
edited them was reproducing a 100 sets at a time for me ran out of the supply of tapes they had in stock. And when they ran out of stock it was not worth it to them to reorder because they would need to order a large number (I think a 1500 is about the minimum that their supplier required) - and they don't have that much call for the cassettes any more. I was having trouble paying for the 100 at a time in a timely manner, so they knew I couldn't afford to order the large number.

I am told that cassettes are a thing of the past and that it is more important to focus on CDs (even though they are becoming a thing of
the past I am told) - but it was sad taking the option of ordering tapes off of my ordering pages. All the hours I invested in getting
those tapes recorded (in a bedroom with mattresses lining the walls to soundproof) and editing them and all - and now I can no longer make them available. Some grief there for me. I am hoping that some abundance will manifest to make it possible to make them available again - but truthfully they are so far down on the priority list (behind rent and utilities and the new CDs and Darien's teeth and our car situation, etc.) that I don't see that happening unless I win the lottery or something. I am sure that a perfect plan is unfolding and I can accept it if that plan doesn't include having the tapes available again - but it is sad.

There is Truthfully, so much to be grateful for in my life that the details aren't that important. I am very grateful that our house is
still standing and that we are all safe. Darien (who is going to be 3 next month) came in a few minutes ago taking his diaper off and
telling me he was wet - and then he ran out to the back yard and started jumping on the trampoline half naked. He is a happy,
exuberant little boy - and he brings Susan and I so much Joy on a daily basis. I feel very blessed to have him and Susan in my life -
and to still be doing the work I Love in the telephone counseling and my Intensive workshops (the one for next Sunday 4th is almost filled and should be a really great group.)

I hope you can find reasons to feel blessed in your life today also.

PS Next Sunday is the end of Daylight Savings - just thought I would mention it.;-)

Thursday November 22, 2007 9:03 am
Hello Radiantly Beautiful Spiritual Being,
Last night I posted some announcements and additions on my site. They included adding some new Holiday special offers to my special offers page - mainly ones that include the Dancing in Light section of my site in combination with phone counseling and also with my Intensive workshop. I also added new testimonials to the Testimonial page and the phone counseling testimonial page - and a new set of recommended links. You can check that new stuff out on my New and news page if you are inclined. http://Joy2MeU.com/New.htm (For any of you who haven't checked out the Dancing in Light section, I have restored the
Author's Foreword to my regular site Dancing contains some of my best writing I think.) http://Joy2MeU.com/Codependency_Recovery.html

You will also notice that I included some links for Holiday articles on the New page - including a Thanksgiving article. Here is a quote from it that might be helpful today if you are feeling less than grateful on this Thanksgiving.

"What works for me is to remind myself of the difference between my wants and my needs. My Truth is that every day that I have been in recovery all my needs have been filled - and there has not been a single day that all my wants have been met. If I focus on what I want that I don't have then I feel like a victim and make myself miserable. If I choose to remind myself of what I have and how far I have come then I can let go of some of the victim perspective.

Ninety-eight per cent of the time when I am in fear it means that I am in the future. Pulling myself back into the now, turning the future over to my Higher Power, and focusing on gratitude, frees me to have some happy moments today." http://Joy2MeU.com/Gratitude.htm

It is a good reminder for me today to count my blessing - all the many gifts in my life. (A little 3 year old boy just came running into and out of my office as I type this - what a beautiful little being Darien is. What Joy he brings us on a daily basis! Talk about a gift I
could never have imagined;-) We are still far behind financially because of evacuating for the fires last month - but as I say in this
quote fear is about the future, and I don't need to know today how I will catch up on the bills (or be able to get Darien's teeth fixed -
sigh.) What I am going to do today is focus on being with my family and being grateful for all the good things in my life - for all the
miracles that have guided me on my path to this place I am at now. The testimonials I added to the site are a glowing reminder of all the people my work has touched - and is touching out there in the world.  It is Truly a blessed gift to have been allowed to be of service to so many people just through following my path and doing what I needed to do for my recovery. Hopefully one of these days, one of those people writing to tell me how I have changed their lives will be somebody rich and generous in Tithing.;-)

I am going to try to find time to get my next Update finished in the next week or so - more will be revealed. I hope you can find lots to be grateful for on this Thanksgiving Day.;-)

PS. If any of you is feeling rich and generous today, Love offerings are always welcome (this is me putting out a message to the Universe - may not have anything to do with the people on this list.)  http://Joy2MeU.com/Donations.html

Thursday December 11, 2007 9:47 am
Just wanted to send out a quick note to let you all know first, that I will be posting my latest update in the next 24 hours or so - hopefully. I am actually going to be including the messages I have sent to this e-mail list in the Update to bring people up to date. The exciting new announcement I have in this update is of a new Training for Counselors / Therapists / Coaches / Healers in how to help other people to implement my formula for inner child healing / spiritual integration / internal boundaries.  It is something that I have been wanting to do for quite awhile, and something that the Spirit moves me to do now. http://Joy2MeU.com/Counselor_Training.htm

So, I will be sending out the announcements about the December Update over the next couple of days - and will be in touch again before the Holidays.

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With wishes of Joy to You & Me

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